Outside advice... is this fair

neneromanova

Sorry but why do you do all the chasing? Take his approach. Do nothing and let the other person do the running. If he really wants to see his son he will ring and make the arrangements. If not then he doesn't see his father that weekend and your son can go play with friends/go to parties.

RadoJo

jen007 wrote: »

I would like to try and sit down just me, NRP and son and get son to tell us both what he wants but can't see NRP agreeing to it OR insisting his fiance is there.
As I said in my last post, I try not to involve my partner and sometimes I feel NRP knows that and tag teams with his partner to bully me into things. (Like the phone call I recieved)

I can completely understand why you feel like this, but I have to say that I would be EXTREMELY wary of doing this. Your son will feel as though he can't be honest with either of you if he feels that you are sitting him down to 'choose' who he spends time with and he might just feel really awkward if he's worried that saying what he really wants might upset one (or even both) of you. If you really want to know how he feels, then perhaps arranging for someone relatively neutral to ask him some open-ended questions about how he feels - you're much more likely to get an honest answer, and he won't be picking up on any animosity that might be present in a meeting between you and your ex.

jen007

So I get up this morning and check my bank.
NRP has transferred sons maintenance, but it's not £100.... it's £80.

Suggestions of what to do?

Caroline_a

CSA? Probably your best way forward I would say.

cheepskate_2

jen007 wrote: »

So I get up this morning and check my bank.
NRP has transferred sons maintenance, but it's not £100.... it's £80.

Suggestions of what to do?

Speak to your ex and discuss with him, otherwise you both are going to go round in circles

Seanymph

Call the CSA and avoid any confrontations.

FatVonD

jen007 wrote: »

So I get up this morning and check my bank.
NRP has transferred sons maintenance, but it's not £100.... it's £80.

Suggestions of what to do?

Is it perhaps a 4-week month? (Or is that the weekly amount?)

daska

1. Call the CSA.

2. Call your solicitor and tell him to sort out the contact.