Ex picking up children query

Mojisola

ginsterman wrote: »

He insists that she meets him halfway to hand over the children, not even 10 miles closer to her. So twice a month she travels 200 miles each weekend.

It would still be the same distance, time, petrol and so on but I would find it easier to do one complete journey, say take the children all the way down and then drive home. I would find that easier than having to set off again on the Sunday and it would stop any problems about trying to meet up at a set time at some halfway destination.

Sparklebabey

ginsterman wrote: »

1. Nowhere has it been stated by myself that my friend is in receipt of benefits.

Yes it has....right in your first post as a matter of fact....


She is on benefits and the maintenance

barnaby-bear

ginsterman wrote: »

My friend split from her ex a couple of years ago and moved 100 miles away from him with the children (1 school age, 1 pre school) to live with her parents as she needed the emotional and financial support. They have a private agreement for maintenance, and he has the children every fortnight for the weekend. He insists that she meets him halfway to hand over the children, not even 10 miles closer to her. So twice a month she travels 200 miles each weekend. She is on benefits and the maintenance, he earns in excess of 50k a year. He is frequently late meeting them (its a power trip he still likes to exert) and usually gives less than 24 hours notice of the time he wants to meet regardless of plans my friend may have made.
So the questions i am asking are: Does she have to meet him halfway every single time? Is the onus on him to pick them up? Its costing her £40 in fuel each time which she can barely afford, he won't give her a contribution to the fuel either.

Any advice gratefully received even if its to say tough, she has to carry on meeting him halfway

Thanks

He obviously has a job (full time with that salary) 200 miles after work / a working week is a big give on his part - several hours.... what she loses in money but has in time... he loses in time that he doesn't have but can bear financially.... both losing out on something in short supply.