How much would you spend/did you spend on your wedding?

lkmc01

For 50k I'd rather have one of these!!

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/overseas-property/property-38112143.html

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/overseas-property/property-26800816.html

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/overseas-property/property-38134838.html

Idiophreak

dw85 wrote: »

May I point out whilst you are implying that myself and another Moneysaver are being "snobs" which in itself isn't very nice (hypocracy?), the OP was asking if £50k was standard for a wedding, which according to most places, reckon £20k is average.
The OP themselves thought this was extravagant (but still enjoyed it )
MY OWN OPINION of this was that it was a lot of money and TO ME would be a waste ( n frankly TBH not very money saving if it's costing that much for one day! Again, my own opinion).

So thank you for being rude, my original reply was not meant in a nasty way, though you have obviously taken it upon yourself to interpret it so.

You presented it being a waste as fact, not opinion.

I don't see anything particularly wrong with being a snob and wasn't intending to offend, just calling a spade a spade. If you don't wish to be branded as a snob, stop acting like one. Simples.

ETA:
You'll note I didn't quote this one:

sammylou100 wrote: »

Spending 5 times that much is frankly bloody insanity, in my humble opinion! :eek:

As *this* was someone presenting their view as opinion.

Dekazer

After our wedding I never totted up all the receipts. I'm not sure why - I intended to - I think it was a desire not to linger on anything that could have been done differently, thus risking clouding my memories.

Off the top of my head now, I reckon that we probably spent about £13,500 broken down into

£2k honeymoon
£500 first night hotel
£600 Routemaster bus
£300 Registrar and fees
£1.2k Husband's suit and accessories
£300 my dress and accessories
£1k evening venue hire
£2k drinks
£700 photographer
£1100 Wedding breakfast for 80 people
£600 evening buffet for 200
£200 for the hotels the night before
£300 on the band
£2,000 on our enagement and wedding rings (2 rings each, plus engraving)
Probably another £600 or so on sundries (gifts, ice, yadda yadda)

So it was somewhere in the region of £13k, probably rounded up to closer to £13,500 if I were to calculate it all precisely. We were lucky enough to receive somewhere close to £3,000 in contributions from family - the remaining £10.5k we paid ourselves. We were also lucky that our wonderful friends and families got involved in the day, and provided (as gifts) my bouquet, hair and make up, the cake etc.

We had exactly the day we wanted, and I don't feel like I scrimped on anything that mattered to me.

Looking back, I would have spent a bit more on things that (at the time) didn't seem very important. I would have spent a wee bit more on a photographer, but actually I think I should have just auditioned them a bit better. I would have spent the same on drinks - we're still drinking the leftovers but I had fears of running dry I would have happily spent another grand or so without feeling I'd gone over the top, but I'd struggle to think what else I would have wanted that could have cost another £40 grand

dw85

dw85 wrote: »

£50k????:eek:
Dear lord, if I had that much there's no way I'd waste it on a wedding

How is that stating fact?
Please stop being pedantic and hijacking the thread. I am sorry if you feel my post are not academically up to your standard and I am truely sorry that I can't over analyse every post as well as you.

To the OP I apologise if this silliness has hijacked your thread. I was just innocently :A;) adding my "snobby" opinion to your post

sterl1ng

I never associate being cost efficient as being a snob but savvy. Whilst I personally would never spend so much money on my own wedding it doesn't mean I think low of those who spend so much on their special day! Good on them but that's not just me Idiophreak, I could never part with so much. DW wasnt' being mean but just stating their opinion as was I...there is nothing snobby about that.

And in any case, this is a money savvy website! Sheesh

gillette147

Dekazer wrote: »

After our wedding I never totted up all the receipts. I'm not sure why - I intended to - I think it was a desire not to linger on anything that could have been done differently, thus risking clouding my memories.

Off the top of my head now, I reckon that we probably spent about £13,500 broken down into

£2k honeymoon
£500 first night hotel
£600 Routemaster bus
£300 Registrar and fees
£1.2k Husband's suit and accessories
£300 my dress and accessories
£1k evening venue hire
£2k drinks
£700 photographer
£1100 Wedding breakfast for 80 people
£600 evening buffet for 200
£200 for the hotels the night before
£300 on the band
£2,000 on our enagement and wedding rings (2 rings each, plus engraving)
Probably another £600 or so on sundries (gifts, ice, yadda yadda)

So it was somewhere in the region of £13k, probably rounded up to closer to £13,500 if I were to calculate it all precisely. We were lucky enough to receive somewhere close to £3,000 in contributions from family - the remaining £10.5k we paid ourselves. We were also lucky that our wonderful friends and families got involved in the day, and provided (as gifts) my bouquet, hair and make up, the cake etc.

We had exactly the day we wanted, and I don't feel like I scrimped on anything that mattered to me.

Looking back, I would have spent a bit more on things that (at the time) didn't seem very important. I would have spent a wee bit more on a photographer, but actually I think I should have just auditioned them a bit better. I would have spent the same on drinks - we're still drinking the leftovers but I had fears of running dry I would have happily spent another grand or so without feeling I'd gone over the top, but I'd struggle to think what else I would have wanted that could have cost another £40 grand

Are his accessories a set of golf clubs?
:A

minerva_windsong

I'm not entirely sure how much ours is going to cost as we're so early in the planning, but I'm guessing it will come in the region of £20-25k. That's a lot compared to most people on here I know, and I fully expect to get flamed for that, but the main reason is because it's quite a big wedding (100 people although OH would like more) so we're going to have to spend quite a bit on a big enough venue and on the catering. I'm going to do the best I can to keep the other costs down such as decorations, stationery, my dress, the cake etc though.

I'm in agreement with those who are saying that if you can afford then you should spend what you want on your wedding - it's your day and if you can afford it then have what you want. Personally I think 50k is a lot of money to spend on a wedding but if the OP's friends can afford then each to their own.

74jax wrote: »

I'm just wondering about this one, do any of your friends/family know how much your weddings are? I can't imagine ever finding out how much someone spent on a wedding (other than on here:rotfl:).

Looking back a past weddings I wouldn't have a clue.

My parents will because they're insisting on paying for it, but I think they'll probably be the only ones who do. They paid for my sisters' weddings as well but whilst I know how much some items cost (dresses, the bar etc) I don't know how much they spent on the whole thing.

Idiophreak

sterl1ng wrote: »

I never associate being cost efficient as being a snob but savvy. Whilst I personally would never spend so much money on my own wedding it doesn't mean I think low of those who spend so much on their special day! Good on them but that's not just me Idiophreak, I could never part with so much. DW wasnt' being mean but just stating their opinion as was I...there is nothing snobby about that.

And in any case, this is a money savvy website! Sheesh

Being cost efficient is being savvy.

Putting others down for choosing to spend their money on something you don't agree with is snobby.

As has been said over and over, it's entirely possible to be savvy and still spend a lot...

wendz86

Ours is going to cost around 8k but with honeymoon around 10k. We are getting help with it from my parents and OH's dad is donating towards honeymoon.

Someone i know paid £30k for their wedding which i wouldn't do myself but if you can afford it and want to then why not.

Dekazer

gillette147 wrote: »

Are his accessories a set of golf clubs?
:A

Hehe, he would have LOVED that. Nah, his suit was Vivienne Westwood and cost £1k. Then just suit, tie, shoes etc.

My dress was Vivian's of Holloway and cost £100. It's the way I roll


Also, it strikes me that it's not so much the ultimate cost in ££ that matters, it's how you spend it. I don't have much time for people who are profligate with other people's money and end up wasting it by being careless.

If you're absolutely loaded and money's no object, paying full price for goods and services and having everything you want is just fine - you're probably supporting small businesses and local tradespeople (photographers, make up artists etc) - good luck to you. If, however, your family have scrimped and saved to contribute towards your wedding, you owe it to them to spend it wisely and carefully - that's where this forum comes in helpful!!

The amount is immaterial really - so long as you're spending within your means and with due respect for the value of money, good on you, and have a fab wedding and married life!