Why are men cruel? My experience so far...

tenke

euronorris wrote: »

To add to the reasons above:

#1 - Could've had some kind of emergency, or lost internet connection, or his subscription lapsed and couldn't afford to top it up or he could've met someone else in the meantime who he felt a stronger connection/attraction with/to.

#2 - He probably does find you attractive (as Tropez said) - hence admiring you from afar, but has no plans to act on it (hence being a bit dismissive when you're face to face). He's only human, so he's going to look every now and then. But that look was not an advance, or leading you on. Of course, he could be an @sshole who had plans to lure you into a bit of on the side action.

To be honest, I think you are reading way too much into both situations and putting too much pressure on the situation. And if you do do that, then guys will pick up on it and may keep their distance as a result.

Just try to take it easy, and take every first encounter as a casual, friendly chat. Anything past that is a bonus, but again, don't put too much pressure on it to turn into anything.

Thanks for your answer, I think you are right on me not reading too much into things at first.

The funny thing i have always been so unaware with these things in the past, this time I decided to research in body language and that somehow spurred me on !! :rotfl:

I think guy 2 likes me, but then more like, i think there's something about you, but i'm taken that's where it ends...

I am going back to work tomorrow with a new fresh mind about the whole thing, I enjoy my work interaction with all my colleagues, so that will not change, not even with this guy, but if next time I sense him looking , I will pretend I dont realize and not lock eyes like this past time, when we did twice. It's better to keep it clean, in everything , looks and the like !! lol :rotfl::rotfl:

candygirl

poorly_scammo wrote: »

Just to echo some of the other posters: I think you're trying too hard and reading too much into each situation. You seem very ready to jump in and start relationships with men and judging by the amount of hurt that these episodes have caused you, are still very raw and sensitive.

I concentrate on work, hobbies and being good to myself and enjoy all this for a while.

very wise:D:D:D

rosered1963

Why do you even care? Don't give it another thought. Let men come to YOU and get on with living your life. You will become a target of predatory men if you give off weak or needy vibes.