Touched up at the doctor's!!

lostinrates

bestpud wrote: »

I'd have had something to say to the carer!

They should be more vigilant as he is obviously prone to this type of behaviour!

I think this is important. Op is obviously a normal, confident woman. A woman with some insecurities, or a very young girl for example, might not have handled it as confidently, or be able to put it in context once the situation was explained.

McKneff

bazster wrote: »

It isn't unpopular, it's offensive, as you know perfectly well. You are behaving like a sniggering schoolboy.

And I for one will be glad when the summer holiday's are over and kids like this are back at school

andygb

bestpud wrote: »

I'd have had something to say to the carer!

They should be more vigilant as he is obviously prone to this type of behaviour!

Tis a bit difficult to be on the ball all of the time, particularly with people who have "issues". I doubt if the carer is paid very much (if at all nowadays), and a doctor's surgery is just the sort of place where anyone can switch off. If it is like ours, then you are best not to make eye contact with 90% of the people there.

lostinrates

andygb wrote: »

Tis a bit difficult to be on the ball all of the time, particularly with people who have "issues". I doubt if the carer is paid very much (if at all nowadays), and a doctor's surgery is just the sort of place where anyone can switch off. If it is like ours, then you are best not to make eye contact with 90% of the people there.

Hard when its crowded, but if not seat him at the end of a row with yourself between him and people, OR realise that this is a time out of the 'all the time' to be more vigilent.

bestpud

andygb wrote: »

Tis a bit difficult to be on the ball all of the time, particularly with people who have "issues". I doubt if the carer is paid very much (if at all nowadays), and a doctor's surgery is just the sort of place where anyone can switch off. If it is like ours, then you are best not to make eye contact with 90% of the people there.

I work with adults with learning disabilities and I'm not paid much, but that doesn't stop me doing my job!

Anyone who switches off with a client like that should not be doing the job as it is no good for him or anyone else to be acting like that!

londonsurrey

SevenCL wrote: »

There's a difference between your being offended by choice of word and being molested.

I don't choose to pay any heed to stupid people and their petty, arbitrary problems with specific words.

How very nice for you, to be able to use your superior intelligence to choose to ignore and behave as you like, whilst condemning those who are unable to choose. Must be a great view up there, and should we be honoured by your deigning to tell us how these lesser able mortals should be permanently kept out of the way?

Del_Astra

andygb wrote: »

Tis a bit difficult to be on the ball all of the time, particularly with people who have "issues". I doubt if the carer is paid very much (if at all nowadays), and a doctor's surgery is just the sort of place where anyone can switch off. If it is like ours, then you are best not to make eye contact with 90% of the people there.

Not sure I get how the bit in bold is relevant. Are you saying its ok for the carer to "be off the ball" as they don't get paid much? Say the person in care got run over, is that ok as the carer doesn't get paid much? Sorry but struggling to see the logic here.

adouglasmhor

zaksmum wrote: »

Sitting in doctor's waiting room when I felt a hand on my knee. The man next to me was smiling at me with his hand creeping up my leg!

I shot him my most withering look and turned my back - he put his hand back on my leg. So I snapped "what are you doing, you pervert??"

The man next to him jumped up and apologised - apparently he was the first man's carer as he was mentally disabled.

I felt bad for shouting at the disabled man - who looked totally normal - but the carer wasn't doing his job very well!

You were quite right to speak to him like that, to treat people with learnig difficulties differently is pandering. He should be made aware what is not allowed.

Del_Astra

bestpud wrote: »

I work with adults with learning disabilities and I'm not paid much, but that doesn't stop me doing my job!

Anyone who switches off with a client like that should not be doing the job as it is no good for him or anyone else to be acting like that!

Thank you that is what I was trying to say, but you put it so much better.

Errata

That being said, people who use "offensive" words FOR the purpose of being offensive are just as at fault as the people who get offended by them.

It just gets better and better