Touched up at the doctor's!!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

zaksmum wrote: »

But how bad would you then feel if the man proves to be so severely mentally disabled that he has no idea that what he's doing is wrong?

Not in the slightest.

Pennylane

I think you should just let it go. You meant no harm and reacted just as most people would and he probably doesn't realise what he did was wrong.

Maybe it was the first time he's done this to someone so maybe his carer was as surprised as you were. At least he apologised.

scooby088

zaksmum wrote: »

But how bad would you then feel if the man proves to be so severely mentally disabled that he has no idea that what he's doing is wrong?

I can't speak for the person who made the original comment, but I wouldn't feel bad at all. IMO mental incapacity has no excuse what so ever, there was carer there who wasn't doing his job correctly.

Gloomendoom

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

Very strange - I think most Americans of any manners would know better!

Perhaps the Americans I know (quite a few, mostly male) don't have any manners.

The exception is !!!!!!, which for Americans has none of the connotations associated with mental illness. Most of us are truly surprised to hear that its offensive in the UK, or indeed associated with disability.

I think many young people in the UK would also be surprised to learn that it is associated with disability. They just know of it as a, fairly mild, rebuke.

I remember my father giving me a serious bollocking (he was very angry) for referring to someone as an "old bag". In his day and age, an old bag was a not very pleasant way of describing a prostitute.

lostinrates

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Perhaps the Americans I know (quite a few, mostly male) don't have any manners.


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Well, I know a few too, and I would say ime generally, and its a HUGE generalisation, Americans have better manners. And yes I know a few too, having a large American family and other family who are not American but live there, and with a husband who works for a large American company!

I spent part of my primary education years in the States, and I know the manners I was taught were very different to what was expected among my peer group here.

Edit, but its absolutely right words are used differently, and not just the one in contention. For example, my UK based American friends often find the way we say 'oriental' often rather than 'asian' derogatory.

andygb

bestpud wrote: »

I work with adults with learning disabilities and I'm not paid much, but that doesn't stop me doing my job!

Anyone who switches off with a client like that should not be doing the job as it is no good for him or anyone else to be acting like that!

You are so good, that you should be in the SAS or maybe the Queen's personal bodyguard.;)
The last time I remember seeing anyone with your skills was Kevin Costner.:rotfl:

Gloomendoom

lostinrates wrote: »

Well, I know a few too, and I would say ime generally, and its a HUGE generalisation, Americans have better manners. And yes I know a few too, having a large American family and other family who are not American but live there, and with a husband who works for a large American company! .

It could just be a reflection on the people I mix with.

However, generally speaking, I agree, the UK population could learn a thing or two about manners from the US.



What was this thread about again?

pawsies

Who else thought this title meant the doctor acted inappropriately?

I think I would have edged away, second time he did it I would have got up and either stood or gone to another seat. I'm not a confrontational person.

marywooyeah

londonsurrey wrote: »

I wouldn't feel too bad at shouting at the man - it sounds like he doesn't pay much attention to that anyhow, but he got a free grope, which would make him happy.

All the carer has done is to ensure that he doesn't get carted off to the police station for it.

I know I shouldn't laugh but that comment really did make me giggle! :rotfl:

pawsies wrote: »

Who else thought this title meant the doctor acted inappropriately?

I did too - now that really would have been a different thread altogether!

skintchick

I'm one of those annoying people who hasn;t read the thread, just the OP.

I think that the Op should not feel guilty at all. The mental disability doesn't really make a difference - groping is unacceptable behaviour no matter who is doing it, or what they meant by it (or not).

This person needs to know they must not grope people, and OP's reaction was perfectly normal and in fact commendable - well done for standing up for yourself!

It is for the carer to feel guilty at not doing their job properly.