Touched up at the doctor's!!

Gloomendoom

skintchick wrote: »

I'm one of those annoying people who hasn;t read the thread, just the OP.

I think that the Op should not feel guilty at all.

I don't think you should feel guilty either. This thread went waaaaay off topic between the OP and yours.

coolcait

pawsies wrote: »

Who else thought this title meant the doctor acted inappropriately?

Yup. Me too.

It did attract a lot of views.

andygb

skintchick wrote: »

I'm one of those annoying people who hasn;t read the thread, just the OP.

I think that the Op should not feel guilty at all. The mental disability doesn't really make a difference - groping is unacceptable behaviour no matter who is doing it, or what they meant by it (or not).

This person needs to know they must not grope people, and OP's reaction was perfectly normal and in fact commendable - well done for standing up for yourself!

It is for the carer to feel guilty at not doing their job properly.

A mental disability is just that, it very often causes people to behave in a manner which is not acceptable to the rest of us, something which the person with the mental disability is unaware of.

As for the carer feeling guilty, well they did apologise immediately - what more could they have done, apart from hanging a large sign around the person's neck saying "Keep well clear, this person is unstable", or maybe keep the person in handcuffs all the time.

Fuzzy_Duck

This wasn't nearly as bad but when I was a teenager I had a man with down's syndrome behind me on the bus who stroked my hair the whole journey. I was so uncomfortable, and I can't stand anyone touching my hair, let alone a stranger! He had a carer with him but he chose to ignore it rather than say anything, and I was too stupid and shy to move.

I used to live near a mental hospital and we had loads of patients on that bus. I had one woman who went to get off but turned suddenly, lunged at me and pinched my cheeks hard. I just froze and gaped at her but I did think anyone else might have gone into defensive mode and hit her thinking they were about to be attacked.

OP didn't know this guy had a problem, and even if she did she shouldn't sit around like I did taking it. Just because someone has mental problems doesn't mean you should put up with their inappropriate behaviour.

adouglasmhor

andygb wrote: »

A mental disability is just that, it very often causes people to behave in a manner which is not acceptable to the rest of us, something which the person with the mental disability is unaware of.

As for the carer feeling guilty, well they did apologise immediately - what more could they have done, apart from hanging a large sign around the person's neck saying "Keep well clear, this person is unstable", or maybe keep the person in handcuffs all the time.

It's OK to let them know it's inappropriate instead of !!!!! footing around because of their disability.

The carer should have been paying attention, and noticed the first time the issue occurred and taken appropriate action then.

Nottoobadyet

Was my comment removed? How weird, I don't know how it could have been found offensive!

scooby088

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

Was my comment removed? How weird, I don't know how it could have been found offensive!

What comment is that then?

adouglasmhor

adouglasmhor wrote: »

It's OK to let them know it's inappropriate instead of !!!!! footing around because of their disability.

The carer should have been paying attention, and noticed the first time the issue occurred and taken appropriate action then.

The word that was removed is another word for moggie!

j.e.j.

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

Was my comment removed? How weird, I don't know how it could have been found offensive!

I think a lot of posts have been removed, or this thread has shrunk in the wash :rotfl:

One of mine seems to have been deleted, and I don't think there was anything inflammatory in there. Perhaps they took the offensive posts and the ones which were answering or referring to them out?

ETA *all* of SevenCL's posts appear to have been deleted from MSE (excepting one or two which were quoted and still appear)

adouglasmhor

I think the team do that if it's an AE of someone with "posting priveleges removed".