Narcissistic Mother - Legal Rights/Time to say Goodbye

helenthemum

Middymum

I didn't want to read and run. I was brought up by my father who was very controlling. I am in my mid 40s and have only just seen the light. He lives abroad but stills is controlling me to a certain extent.

I really feel for you, you have made the break from your mum when you left home which must have been very hard for you to do.

I can imagine you love your mum but also hate what she has done to you and how she has controlled/is controlling you.

Just want to send you a (((big hug)))

skipsmum

Those pictures of mums hugging their daughters - flip them around - you can be the mother instead of the daughter and when your daughter is older that could be the two of you out shopping or enjoying a meal etc.

Edwardia

coffeemonster*123 wrote: »

i think your best chance of getting some of your childhood things is to 'play her game' and go without prior warning.

i arranged (foolishly) with my father and his new partner to collect the stuff from my bedroom & jewlery left to me by my grandmother and my mother, and when i got there, they said there has been a break-in the previous night and it had been taken

I would have contacted the police while I was there, described the jewellery etc so that if they had sold it, the jewellery was listed as stolen. If the jewellery was in the house and you believed that they could get a warrant to search. Just because it's your father doesn't mean he has a right to take jewellery you inherited. Jools Holland's father stole some of his wife's jewellery and was prosecuted. Even if its been years since they told you there was a break-in the jewellery may be there and you could take legal advice.If it was sold years ago you still might be able to get the money.

OP you know that your mother is holding your possessions to ransom. So by stepping back from them she loses, you win. I'm not opening the can of worms re my mother but I did find stuff just like that I had as a kid at boot fairs and in charity shops and every time I do it's a buzz but a new memory I'm creating myself.

Ginger_Poodle

skipsmum wrote: »

Those pictures of mums hugging their daughters - flip them around - you can be the mother instead of the daughter and when your daughter is older that could be the two of you out shopping or enjoying a meal etc.

Beautiful, just beautiful. Tears in my eyes now x

Ellidee

In today's Daily Mail http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2195543/The-misery-having-competitive-mother.html

auditbabe

MiddyMum wrote: »

Thank you marmite,

I am just not sure if she would let me take them if I went down there. As she makes decisions based on what she is feeling at the time. I spent my whole childhood pandering to her every need when planned school trips and birthday parties came around because I was so scared that she would change her mind and say I couldn't go depending on her mood. So if I turn up with the sole intention of getting my things, I don't know whether she would cause a scene. I guess even at 25 she still scares me somewhat.

I was 30, pregnant with my 3rd child before I said no to her for the first time. I then ran upstairs and locked my self in the bathroom and refused to come out until she had gone. It's not easy knowing how these women are going to react.