Trying for a Baby Part 8

becca0417

I've just found loads of research linking PCOS and elevated liver enzymes. Don't know if you remember but earlier in the year I had health problems relating to my liver. Looks like this could have been the cause all along.

Mrs_T_M

becca0417 wrote: »

Mrs_T_M - I'd recommend 'What to Expect Before You're Expecting' as a general guide and 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility'

an9i77 wrote: »

For baby making? I suggest 'the impatient womans guide to getting pregnant', by Jean Twenge.

Although what I have taken from all the books I have read is to try not to be impatient in the first place!

Have looked all of these up on the Waterstone's website and added them all to my Amazon wish list. I'll be going around to the charity shops and the library before I go there, just in case I can get them for less (or free to borrow). The vouchers don't expire, but with other stores going under, I might not want to wait too long to redeem them.

Thank you!

BeNiceToMySelf

Hi
just thought I would introduce myself as I have been lurking. I really like reading this thread. I am in the second month of trying but trying not to get to stressed and hung up over not being pregnant yet. I know it's very early days but I still became gutted when AF came! I don't want to got on the list as I don't want to start tracking things. I'll get too obsessed that way!

My best friend says the best tip is to 'have fun!' and she's had lots of midwife experience.

Congartulations welsh_cosmic and head_in_clouds.

P.S. my username is going to be my new motto. I beat myself up far too much.

mrshappy

Great job with the lists Becca, I can be taken off them now though, we are having our first ICSI just now, so CDs don't really mean anything cos of the meds I'm on. If all goes to plan with this cycle I'll be testing around the 1st of March.
Hope everyone is well, I do lurk although I'm not posting much these days.

claire16c

codemonkey wrote: »

All of my friends are having babies. My Facebook feed is full of bump photos and newborn photos. I'm the only female in my family who has made it past 20 without getting pregnant, let alone into my 30s and DH's brother and his fiancee are talking about having baby despite the fact that they still live with DH's parents and have no plans to move out, have no money and spend what little they have on cigarettes and blow. Sigh.

Well I'd call that an achievement on your part then!

The sound like they'd make wonderful parents :mad:

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

I dread my brothers announcing they're having kids- luckily they're 6 & 7 years younger than me so I don't *think* it will happen for a while yet but those glorious accidents do happen. It's really difficult keeping positive and thinking it'll happen when it's been 21 months and I haven't had so much as a sniff of a BFP. I feel like I've put my life on hold for this and it isn't happening. TTC does not fit well with my type A personality!

Ha ha me too. Can't stand things being out of my control.

Where I live and friends wise most people don't have babies until their late 20s or mid 30s, or sometimes older. If you had a baby here at 20 you'd probably get some funny looks so I guess at least I don't have that problem!

I really hoped to have a baby by the time I was 30 though and that's looking less & less likely.

Hugs tinks. So frustrating isn't it. I would be about 16/17 weeks I think. I've deliberately stopped counting it though as I find it makes me feel worse.

BeNiceToMySelf

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

I feel like I've put my life on hold for this and it isn't happening.

definitely! I feel like I can't plan things or move forward with my life. Big hugs x

codemonkey

claire16c wrote: »

Well I'd call that an achievement on your part then!

The sound like they'd make wonderful parents :mad:




Ha ha me too. Can't stand things being out of my control.

Where I live and friends wise most people don't have babies until their late 20s or mid 30s, or sometimes older. If you had a baby here at 20 you'd probably get some funny looks so I guess at least I don't have that problem!

I really hoped to have a baby by the time I was 30 though and that's looking less & less likely.

Hugs tinks. So frustrating isn't it. I would be about 16/17 weeks I think. I've deliberately stopped counting it though as I find it makes me feel worse.

I think if DH's brother and his partner get pregnant before I do (which is likely as she's a good 10 years younger) I'll just give up. It is a good thing I didn't get pregnant when I was younger because I just wasnt ready. Having grown up in an area where the life dream amounted to: get a man, get a bairn, get a council hoose, and being determined that I wanted a stable life, an education, and career before anything else, I was totally paranoid about contraception. Laughably so now actually. Didn't realise I wouldn't actually meet anyone I wanted to father my children til I was 29, then we needed to buy a house and get married and now I find myself coming up on 33 and although I'm glad I waited for DH because he was worth the wait and will be an amazing dad, the age thing is worrying me. I can see 35 in big flashing numbers and peri menopause lurks around the corner.

BeNiceToMySelf

codemonkey wrote: »

Didn't realise I wouldn't actually meet anyone I wanted to father my children til I was 29, then we needed to buy a house and get married and now I find myself coming up on 33 and although I'm glad I waited for DH because he was worth the wait and will be an amazing dad, the age thing is worrying me. I can see 35 in big flashing numbers and peri menopause lurks around the corner.

One thing I find helps with thoughts like this is thinking that I don't want to have someone else's baby, I want to have my OH's baby. It helps me feel less jealous when other people get pregnant. Hope that makes sense.

codemonkey

BeNiceToMySelf wrote: »

One thing I find helps with thoughts like this is thinking that I don't want to have someone else's baby, I want to have my OH's baby. It helps me feel less jealous when other people get pregnant. Hope that makes sense.

after trying for over 2 years, I don't feel jealous of other people's pregnancies. I just feel unbelievably sad that once again it's not me. But one day it will be me and my baby will be the greatest baby in the world. Or possibly the most evil. I'll end up giving birth to Stewie Griffin.

BeNiceToMySelf

codemonkey wrote: »

after trying for over 2 years, I don't feel jealous of other people's pregnancies. I just feel unbelievably sad that once again it's not me. But one day it will be me and my baby will be the greatest baby in the world. Or possibly the most evil. I'll end up giving birth to Stewie Griffin.

at least you'd get a baby that could tell you why they were crying! LOL

I have been with OH for 10 years but put off babymaking until now due to career studying etc. while all the time I really wanted a baby. Now we have BD more in the past 2 months than in the last 8 years put together LOL