Trying for a Baby Part 8

teaandcakeordeath

Nice find code. It's like she's writing about my life...

codemonkey

That's what I thought tcd. Nice to know we're not alone.

I have a friend who's just started trying and I hope she doesn't get pregnant before I do. How horrible is that?

teaandcakeordeath

Trust me- that's the least of the horrible things that I think! There's 2 women who have just had babies in work, one who is about to go on mat leave and another 3-4 (luckily not in my department as my bad thought restraint is running quite low at the moment) who are obviously pregnant. I have to avoid all of them as I hate myself for thinking the things I do...

Apparently there's a sweepstake in my work at the moment on who will get pregnant first (we've just had a spate of marriages) and I'm next on the list after the woman who goes on mat leave in 4 weeks time. Last week (after CD1 sucker punched me) I pretty much lost it and shouted at everyone who was in the office that they might as well put their money on a bloke for all the luck I'm having. Yup... keeping it cool and discrete....

TBH if any of my friends outside of work got pregnant before me I'm not sure I could see them- I think that makes me much more horrible...

codemonkey

All of my friends are having babies. My Facebook feed is full of bump photos and newborn photos. I'm the only female in my family who has made it past 20 without getting pregnant, let alone into my 30s and DH's brother and his fiancee are talking about having baby despite the fact that they still live with DH's parents and have no plans to move out, have no money and spend what little they have on cigarettes and blow. Sigh.

teaandcakeordeath

I dread my brothers announcing they're having kids- luckily they're 6 & 7 years younger than me so I don't *think* it will happen for a while yet but those glorious accidents do happen. It's really difficult keeping positive and thinking it'll happen when it's been 21 months and I haven't had so much as a sniff of a BFP. I feel like I've put my life on hold for this and it isn't happening. TTC does not fit well with my type A personality!

vesper

Ouch. In my village you are abnormal if you don't have a baby by 21. We have 2 different types of mum's here, the majority that are under 21yrs, and then there's the later mum's who are usually in their 40's. We have a large amount of ex-londerers here that move up here when they reach a certain age and decide to settle down and have families.

I also don't miss the questions from work collegues about having a baby. It is one of the joys of being self employed now, I don't have any of them questions. It's not like my mum would ever ask me (half the time I work out of my parents' house, as my business is an off shoot of theirs).
Got to admit loving being self employed, it's hard work and am working longer hours at the moment, and at the moment there's on income off it, as all of the profit is going back into the business so I can build up my stocks. But technically if I was taking the profit as a wage I would be earning more than I ever did, however I did only used to be part time.
At least I don't have to answer to anyone now, I'm my own boss. Much less stress.

time2deal

At the moment I am finding I simply can't talk to my best friend as she is pregnant. She announced pretty much the same week I found out I had cancer - which made it really tough. And as a result I can't talk to her when I could really do with the support!

I think in a way I'm being much more open about the cancer as I'm so tired of being so tense and stressed out about ttc. Having to hide the pain and heartbreak caused me extra stress, and that terrible fear you get of people announcing pregnancy. So in a way it's been a relief to share things and at least stop the questions... or worse... when you realise they have stopped asking, and you know the gossip has started instead!

BZ, so sorry clomid hasn't worked for you yet. Someone said the other day that fertility is a numbers game, you have to just keep trying to try and get on the right side of the stats.

Mind you, I think that is bull!!!!. And I hate stats! It's almost statistically impossible that I have developed cancer between smears... pah!

Big hugs. It's such a tough time, but you know there will be better days.

time2deal

Also BZ, don't be too scared of IVF. In an odd way I am quite happy with it. You get to see things developing every few days, and it's making me believe that inside me things are working.

It gives a vague sense of control, and makes it slightly more scientific, and less like some kind of lucky dip that you keep losing at. But... it's early days. I think differently it we don't actually get any eggs... or if we can never get them to implant.

But stage 1 isn't too bad!

It's eye wateringly expensive though...

katy29

Quick update, managed to bd quite a bit this month but in quite a bit of pain with ov. Becca can you update tomorrow as 0 dpo thanks x

abis21

Awwwwwww, so many people that the witch has caught or who have had not nice news from tests etc. Have the following if you are feeling sad or just if you fancy one:








If you are in the wine n choc zone - you can have a hug like this:



Code/TCD - I think we all feel like that at some points :( The longer the journey is, the harder it is.

Lemon - Sounds like the appt went well. How are you feeling now?

AFM - 3DPO please Becca - FF confirmed this morning :j We BD'd on ov day and the 2 days prior, so fingers crossed. DH has been ill ever since, so am sooooo glad it was timed like that! I would have liked to have BD'd the day after ov too if pos, but no chance Am feeling hopeful as ever tho No doubt setting myself up for a big disappointment again, but hey ho. I can't help little miss optimistic, she just pops up all the time!!

In other news - I sent off my last pee sample for the molar clinic this week!!! :j:j:j:j Thats 36 weeks worth of testing and results all over now. Feeling very relieved, and hoping my body now knows its definately safe to get pregnant and it will happen straight away :cool: If I had listened to the official guidelines, I wouldn't have even been able to start trying until this point. So whilst the last few months have been a little frustrating not getting the BFP we want - I suppose its not like I have 'wasted' any time, as officially now is the time I can start TTC again :cool: Hope that makes sense - it does to me in my little head :rotfl:

Hows everyones healthy eating / exercising going? I'm doing good still - surprised at how well the will power is holding up to be honest. Hopeful for a loss this week on the scales, but we shall see. I have to go for 7DPO blood tests, and if I do get AF I will go back to my nice doctor and discuss those results and hopefully speak about a next plan of attack. I am really hoping I will be 10lbs or so lighter, so that they can see I am trying with the weight issue. So thats keeping me focussed on the diet I suppose. I also am enjoying all the foods which really helps - I have just been having laods of fruit n veg, lean meat etc and cooking everything from scratch. So thats all been yum.