Trying for a Baby Part 8

atton83

Code: i have been trying for 11 years. I havent even got one kid so i know how you feel

My ohs dad had a stroke a few yrs back and he tells me every month shoukdn't we have a kid by now. Like i aint trying.

I hate people who don't try get pregnant straight away and don't give me any sugar coating when they know i am in pain.

I know there are factors that are not helping but it doesn't take the pain away

We are all here for you i know that doesn't help with snide comments but were here for you to vent

lemonmelon_2

Picture to cheer you up code

VK-2008

hey guys and gals, looking for some help, i have been trying for a baby for coming up on just over 6 years, we had one m/c 4 years ago and no luck since. we are due to start iui in next few months however my monthly visitor has not arrived, i am normally 31 days on average and very consistent however i am now on day 38!! i tested on wednesday and got a negative and i am going to test again tomorrow. i have had none of my usual symtpoms of craving chocolate, getting spots, cramp or headache, i have just been exceptionally tired that much that i am taking an extra two hour nap each day and have went off all fizzy juice unless it has loads of ice in it which has to be chipped! cant stand thought of eating chocolate or certain foods and sorry if tmi but get that sicky burp feeling every so often. also when i have been eating my fave foods like melon they have tasted very metally! it sounds to me like im pg but the test doesnt conclude to this. anyone had any similar situations - i am going to see gp on monday if af does not show by then

codemonkey

Thanks ladies. I actually feel much better now I've got it out. I think without your support I'd be a total wreck.

Lemon, I totally want hugs from that horse.

good_vibes

Vent anytime Code *hugs* and *hugs* to lilymay for feeling flat

Something to make you laugh, OH took my Folic acid by mistake this morning istead of his mulivits. He was worry he might grow boobs, bless him LOL.
COMP looks good, do like seeing the tests to see what I might in time be looking for.
Am thinking next month having a personal challenge of not POAS all month. Will go by on what I know already.
Have trouble keepiing up with you all doing shifts. Late to early shifts are a killer, even after doing them for 13 years now. But do lurk and love hearing from you all.
off now for the weekend, but working monday. Have weekend with OH. He's on a late shift, so had a lovely bath (really must get some bath bombs), trying out making a bananna cake and watching trash TV (love it!!)
Tink, love your work and grats for being a SAHM

mrsj28

((hugs)) codemonkey

time2deal

codemonkey wrote: »

I have actually tried. Told her about the prolactinaemia and what that meant but she still goes on about it - it took them 16 years to conceive me (although no trouble with the others) so you would think she'd understand.but she still seems to think its cause we dont try or something. She hears what she wants to.

Feel a bit better now thats all out. Phew.

Totally agree with everything you said. I have to admit that while I like seeing people on here get BFPs, it also feels a bit like another little failure by me that it isn't me. And I can't seem to stop being a jealous person.

The worst with telling people is they give you random advice. "Did you lie down for 10 minutes after sex? Do you know you have to do it at the right time each month? We just went on a holiday and chilled out and got pregnant straight away - you should go to a hotel for the weekend." arrgghh... Do people think we are idiots!

Plus I mentioned to a friend the other day that I was avoiding one girl because I found out she was 8 months pregnant. And therefore got pregnant right when I was just getting into the 'this is taking a bit longer than planned' phase. He (my friend) proceeded to give me a lecture about how is wasn't her fault, and I shouldn't mind.

Last time I will confess things like that to my friend! Which closes up another potential avenue of support...

What would we do without this forum!

tinkwings

[FONT=&quot]Trying to conceive is not an easy journey and it’s made harder with the fact that you never know when you are going to get there or if you are even half way there yet. It’s harder still when others you know find their journey quick and easy and they seem to do it without taking wrong turns or needing to stop to re-fuel or ask for directions, harder still if those acquaintances found themselves on that road when it wasn’t a deliberate decision to make that particular journey.

Our journey may be long or short, uphill or downhill all the way. We might end up taking the scenic route when we would rather be on the motorway, but it is still a journey and that journey isn’t over until we reach that destination, but when we get there (and we will) we will know that every mile was so very worth it and the time we spent travelling will not seem quite such a big deal.

So while on the way try to smile, turn up the radio and roll down the window, breathe in that lovely fresh air and take a moment to look at the scenery. Appreciate that travelling companion you have, he loves you more than anything else in the world, he chose to make that journey with you and he is trying as hard as you to make that journey worthwhile, even if sometimes you can’t quite see it.

We are praying that whether we are driving a super new sports car or an old banger, that it will get us there eventually. I know it’s hard and we are all in a hurry, but can you see that beautiful horizon in the distance? That is our destination, dont let it slip out of view. Put your foot down, but watch where you’re going, you want to arrive safe and sound and not too weary from the journey so take a few little rests along the way.

I will wave at you as we drive along those roads for you can understand that we may pass each other or drive side by side for a bit. We may take wrong turns and have to go back a bit and look at the map again, but we will get there eventually. [/FONT]

TeamLowe

That's lovely Tink
Big hugs for codemonkey, it can be really rough to still be sat in this thread and feel like you'll never ever graduate. Wish I had a crystal ball for us all so we'd know how ling we was waiting and could plan our lives around that.

My dad always says 'there's no pain but your own' and it's true no one will ever really know the pain you're in except the people in the exact same position, once their pain is gone so does some of the empathy cos they're no longer feeling it x x

claire16c

Well I started off being positive but really was brought down on the ttc front today!

I was shopping after work - payday after all and was going into New Look when I saw this man with a huge beer belly standing outside smoking. Which is gross because its not nice having to walk past that smell as an adult, but the worst/sad thing was that next to him was a buggy, facing away with a crying baby in it, so the smoke was going near it too. It looked maybe 6 months old. It wasnt screaming, but it was crying.

He was about a foot away, just smoking and paying it no attention. But it was clearly his as no one else was around. After about 5 mins of hearing the baby crying I peeked outside ( because I was this close to going up and saying 'Oh my God! Has someone left a baby here?! to try to shock him into realising it didnt even look like he was the parent he was paying THAT much attention to the poor thing) - unfortunately he was too engrossed in his habit, and was looking the other way and then he finally finished smoking - clearly his no.1 priority and pushed the buggy over to a bench and sat down.

He then got a dummy put it in his mouth, and then into the babies. Great nicotine for the baby too as if it probably doesnt ingest enough in what Im sure is probably a house full of it..

I was wondering where his partner was, then she comes along, the size of a house ( and I dont mean over weight I mean like seriously unhealthy), and gets out a fag and lights up too.

Made me feel totally sick and tearful. How can people like this even get pg when us lot on here are taking vitamins and doing god knows what.

And then when they do have the baby its not even their priority and cant even be bothered to pay it attention.:mad:

I said to DH the only thing that consoled me, was that the baby will probably grow up to be exactly like them anyway. But when you see them as a helpless baby you just wish you could take them away and bring them up and make their life totally different.