How to broach the wedding subject to OH!

suki1001

shiny76 wrote: »

Thats not how I read it.

When we first got engaged I have said before that we could just go abroad on our own and do it he said it wasn't fair that becuase my family couldn't go his have to miss out. Which I agree with but I dont think its fair for me to have nobody there.

OP suggested they get married abroad on their own as her family can't travel due to reasons such as ill-health. Her OH said his family shouldn't have to miss out due to her family not being able to travel. Nothing about the comparable value of either family attending.

Well that's the thing, posts get interpreted in different ways - I didn't see it the same way as you, I didn't read it that way.

shiny76

CashStrappedPrincess wrote: »

Im just going to talk to him but I dont know if its worth discussing it now or just wait until closer to the actual time. I know his heart is in the right place and he isn't an ogre like I may have portrayed him to be in my first post. I'll let you know how it goes

It's on your mind, so discuss it now. Why wait?

And you didn't portray him as an ogre, just the original description was open to interpretation!

flutterbyuk25

Simple solution:

- you have small wedding ceremony here with your parents and his parents plus any close family members/friends.
- followed by big party to invite rest of family and friends (or skip this bit altogether)
-have beach honeymoon or renew your vows on beach just the 2 of you on anniversary.

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

Why can't you have a beach wedding in the UK?

It is against the law to marry on a beach or outdoors in a non-permanent structure in UK

http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/england/relationships_e/relationships_living_together_marriage_and_civil_partnership_e/getting_married.htm#Where_can_a_marriage_take_place

CashStrappedPrincess

Thanks to everyone. Sorry I left the OP to interpretation. I was getting bored of writing it myself and tried just to put the main points in.:rotfl:

Going to go on a nice long walk tonight and have a talk with OH.

You have all come up with some great ideas that we can look into. Its difficult to talk to people close to us as I feel like when it comes to weddings some people can often put pressure on you as to what you should/shouldn't want even when they don't mean to. I will let you know how it goes.

CSP xx

Mojisola

If you are going to spend your lives together, you will come across much more serious issues than where the wedding is held. If you have trouble sorting this out, you've got a lot of work - and conflict - ahead of you!

NewKittenHelp

Do this http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2011379/Flashmob-wedding-British-couple-spring-surprise-nuptials-unsuspecting-public.html

It's what I'm planning!

PurplePow

When we got engaged we said we would get married abroad just the 2 of us. But like you, my OH is wanting family there. Still do not want a huge big expensive wedding, but we're doing an 'intimate wedding' package with around 15 people, hopefully late next year.

onlyroz

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

Why can't you have a beach wedding in the UK?

In the UK you can only get married at licensed wedding venues, all of which are indoors.

I also don't understand long engagements. If you want to get married what's stopping you from doing it now? Weddings don't have to be big extravegant affairs, and you can do the whole lot for less than £500 if you want.

NewKittenHelp

onlyroz wrote: »

In the UK you can only get married at licensed wedding venues, all of which are indoors.

If that's the case I have no idea how my friends managed to marry in a garden.

CashStrappedPrincess

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

Do this http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2011379/Flashmob-wedding-British-couple-spring-surprise-nuptials-unsuspecting-public.html

It's what I'm planning!

That looks fantastic :T