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74jax wrote: »

Why would you even invite them? When you can invite people you see and love instead?

family pressure, the people i see and love are invited too, i know they will be in my percentage of people that wont come, as long as they let me know before we have to give the final figures in and pay anything over the 40 guests thats fine

Torry_Quine

Things were so much simpler when I got married. Obviously people like parents and bridesmaid, best-man knew the date almost as soon as we did. However we sent out the invitations the traditional six weeks before and it was up to people if they accepted or declined. From memory one person couldn't come. I did send invites to relatives in Australia and down South but this was merely a courtesy and would have been shocked if they'd wanted to come.

melanzana

Me and OH are together 23 years, no kids sadly, long story.

All the family and friends keep asking "when are you giving us a day out FGS?"

Well I can tell you this, if we EVER have a day out it will be for us, no one else. Selfish much? I don't care really TBH.

I have found over the years that lots of people look on ŵedding invites with dread. Not all, but lots. And I include myself there. I do not like weddings at all. I have attended many, and the thought of having to small talk with people I don't know for much of the day means I will not attend any more! And the outfit, and the journey, and the starvation between ceremony and meal, and it is just so formulaic, same thing, different day.. Well you get the drift.

It is the couples day and that's that.

Do what YOU want to do and remember that lots of people hate weddings, but love holidays! I know if a wedding would cost me a few hundred quid I would politely decline and buzz off on a holiday instead.

You might think me harsh, but that's no problem for me. I am true to myself.

BTW if I don't attend I always give a decent wedding present. It's not always about the money.

Enjoy your weddings folks, and I really mean that, but remember, some people do not like weddings and couldn't be bothered.

Sad reality, but there you go.