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Own_My_Own

Faith177 wrote: »

That's the other thing one of couples that said it was too far to travel without their children have just spent a week in Spain without their kids

I think I'm just having a bridezilla moment and it just smarts that it's mostly family and their the ones your meant to be able to relie on lol

Oh well I'll just think of the money I'll save lol

A trip and destination of they choice , not yours.
Who had their children ? Someone who is invited to your wedding ?

Sorry but if I had to choose between going to a wedding or having the holiday of my choice the holiday would win.

It may be the brides special day, but I often find weddings very boring , with a lot of waiting around for pictures etc.

floss2

Faith177 wrote: »

...Inverness is not difficult to get to and is a fairly modern city it even has an airport :eek: lol ...

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Yes Inverness isn't as hard to get to as some may think but I live in Scotland and would have to think twice about going there for a wedding. The roads aren't like those down South and journeys take longer than you think for the distance.

Inverness is on the A9 - which for a fair chunk of it's length is NOT dual carriageway. There are long stretches over some of the highest open moor land in the country and there are long (and I mean long) gaps between towns or places to stop.

And yes, it has an airport - with approximately 10 arrivals & 10 departures a day, and flights to/from 6 airports in England.

Are you able to reconsider your choice of venue to maybe one nearer your new home town? You have a very good reason to change if you are relocating with your hubby-to-be.

mildred1978

Faith177 wrote: »

It's about 80 miles door to door (he's going to be outside Reading near to Telford I think it is). I don't drive so means I'll have to get the train down as & when I can a) afford it b) get time to do it (I work two jobs)

Just too much to deal with and not enough time lmao

Telford is at least 120 miles north of Reading. :huh:

Essex to Reading isn't hard. My 87 year old great aunt often travels to south Wales from Southend by train. My OH and I lived 300 miles apart until about 6 months before we got married and our families live even further away than that!!

mildred1978

It takes at least 13 hours to drive from here (south Wales) to Inverness. I've done the journey several times. Fine when we were a couple. Absolutely no way I'd do it now if it meant leaving my son behind. Being 13+ hour away if anything happened just isn't going to happen.

Would probably be more like 16 hours from Essex.

Faith177

I'm not relocating with him I am staying in Essex. Plus we will lose the deposits on everything so would be seriously out of pocket. Plus people have already book travel.

I know what the A9 is like I have been up & down it hundreds of times myself.

There isn't just the airport there is also the train station & bus station. One of the flights per day is actually to Birmingham International where the majority of people are coming from, another to Bristol (where the best man lives) & 3 from London.

It's a 10-12 hour drive from Essex to Inverness. So Birmingham would be about 8-10. Sorry got towns mixed up meant Tilehurst lol I can appriciate being that far away but when the same couple went to Spain for a week without their children it's a bit of a kick.

I'm just going to stop moaning now I wanted a little bit of a rant as I felt severly let down by a family I have done a lot for and now I feel like a horrible person for having the audacity to get married in a place of my choosing. I felt bad enough not inviting children and now I'm feeling even worst so thanks guys big thumbs up to those who know how to kick a girl when their feeling down!

dizsiebubba

Faith177 wrote: »

I'm just going to stop moaning now I wanted a little bit of a rant as I felt severly let down by a family I have done a lot for and now I feel like a horrible person for having the audacity to get married in a place of my choosing. I felt bad enough not inviting children and now I'm feeling even worst so thanks guys big thumbs up to those who know how to kick a girl when their feeling down!

Don't!!!

You get married wherever you want hun...I can't stand guests who think it should be all about them...they are worse than bridezillas! It is your day so do what you want to do because only you are in the marriage 'til death do us part' :rotfl:

My post earliar on was to make you not feel so down about it...realising that sometimes people really can't make it (and some just lie!). Ignore the people who think you are out of order for having it where you want...they are just moaning for the sake of it!!!

Faith177

Thanks Dizsie yours wasn't one of those that upset me honest It's mainly the ones on page 2 that have rubbed me up the wrong way lol

anyway deeeeeepth breath smiles all round

Fuzzy_Duck

Faith177 wrote: »

I'm not relocating with him I am staying in Essex. Plus we will lose the deposits on everything so would be seriously out of pocket. Plus people have already book travel.

I know what the A9 is like I have been up & down it hundreds of times myself.

There isn't just the airport there is also the train station & bus station. One of the flights per day is actually to Birmingham International where the majority of people are coming from, another to Bristol (where the best man lives) & 3 from London.

It's a 10-12 hour drive from Essex to Inverness. So Birmingham would be about 8-10. Sorry got towns mixed up meant Tilehurst lol I can appriciate being that far away but when the same couple went to Spain for a week without their children it's a bit of a kick.

I'm just going to stop moaning now I wanted a little bit of a rant as I felt severly let down by a family I have done a lot for and now I feel like a horrible person for having the audacity to get married in a place of my choosing. I felt bad enough not inviting children and now I'm feeling even worst so thanks guys big thumbs up to those who know how to kick a girl when their feeling down!

Please don't feel bad! The way I see it is you know your guests, and you know whether they meant it when they apologised to say they couldn't come. I too would be irked if I always made an effort and my nearest and dearest didn't on my special occasion. They may well have a good excuse like those suggested by other posters, and I hope that is the case anyway as that's a much nicer explanation than your friends feeling they can't be bothered. Try and feel happy about the money you've saved as least- it'll be preferable spending that money on people that love you and want to be there than people who don't care enough and want to be elsewhere.

Also, regarding the kids, I think not inviting them because the venue isn't suitable is perfectly reasonable. It's your wedding day, you and your husband to be should pick what you want, not what's ideal for your friends' kids! I wouldn't have kids at my wedding either, but for the rather more selfish reason that OH and I don't care for them...

Faith177

TY Fuzzy

Own_My_Own

Sorry I really dont know why you are getting so upset . You are having your wedding where you wanted it,( your choice) You decided to have no children there (your choice). As far as I can tell you are still having the wedding that you planned.

We are only giving you the reasons why they would not attend. Why do you care, we were not invited anyway.