Quick Question Civil or Criminal?

cheepskate_2

Don't you just love when the parents break up all this mud slinging comes out.
Yet she must have been good enough otherwise he would not have had 2 babies with her, but suddenly as soon as he leaves her - her, her family, and anyone else remotely connected to her is bad news.

PrincessPlaty

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

What have social services said they will do? Has your OH followed it up?

If you both genuinely believe that the children are at risk (in another thread you mentioned that the children said they were hit by the mother and an 'uncle' and that they had said someone had threatened your OH) then you need to be proactive in asking for progress reports etc.

SS are not currently doing anything as there was no evidence. However they are monitoring any further issues.

cheepskate wrote: »

Don't you just love when the parents break up all this mud slinging comes out.
Yet she must have been good enough otherwise he would not have had 2 babies with her, but suddenly as soon as he leaves her - her, her family, and anyone else remotely connected to her is bad news.

Not at all. You think he left her for the fun of it? No he stayed there for the past 6 years because he didn't want to leave the children. Don't judge things when you don't know the facts.

mum2one

If your not happy with your solicitors seek a 2nd firm, parental responsibity doesn't give any rights to have the children to stay over or contact, it gives OH a say in the kids life, medical, school etc.

Please don't think i'm being nosey, but theres a few things that I'm asking, just to give a better idea of the circumstances,
if this is true then contact social services.

is there a court order in place re contact?

child maintance - you pay the parent direct - is there a way that this shows as chikd maintance, just she may contact csa and say shes getting no money and the £400 you both pay are for expenses,

Why I ask about court order, - if there is one in place and its gets breached then you can go back to court and they may well get cafcass involved,

You mention one child is 7 how old is the other?

Has hubby involved in their life continually? xx

PrincessPlaty

mum2one wrote: »

If your not happy with your solicitors seek a 2nd firm, parental responsibity doesn't give any rights to have the children to stay over or contact, it gives OH a say in the kids life, medical, school etc.

Please don't think i'm being nosey, but theres a few things that I'm asking, just to give a better idea of the circumstances,
if this is true then contact social services.

is there a court order in place re contact?

child maintance - you pay the parent direct - is there a way that this shows as chikd maintance, just she may contact csa and say shes getting no money and the £400 you both pay are for expenses,

Why I ask about court order, - if there is one in place and its gets breached then you can go back to court and they may well get cafcass involved,

You mention one child is 7 how old is the other?

Has hubby involved in their life continually? xx

There is no court orders at all, Maintenance is paid direct however with each payment there is a unique reference stating maintenance for x month.

The other child is 4.

OH has been involved in their life continuously apart from 1 week where she stopped him from seeing the children after she got him arrested for a crime he didn't commit and then a week later admitted to the police she was lying! x

Tiddlywinks

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

SS are not currently doing anything as there was no evidence. However they are monitoring any further issues.

Make another complaint / ask for another review - citing the suspected physical abuse etc

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

Not at all. You think he left her for the fun of it? No he stayed there for the past 6 years because he didn't want to leave the children. Don't judge things when you don't know the facts.

If the other child is only 4yo then he was pretty friendly with his ex during that 6 years of only staying for the children!

Honestly? If she were that bad why did he leave his young children with her? What parent walks away leaving children with a prostitute mother, a druggie uncle and a loopy grandmother?

PrincessPlaty

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

What parent walks away leaving children with a prostitute mother, a druggie uncle and a loopy grandmother?

One that couldn't take any more of the abuse and was ready to commit suicide.

Tiddlywinks

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

One that couldn't take any more of the abuse and was ready to commit suicide.

But he thought it ok to leave the children with the 'abuse'?

Wickedkitten

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

One that couldn't take any more of the abuse and was ready to commit suicide.

Is this a further on from the thread about the "friend" who was still living with their ex four months ago?

PrincessPlaty

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

But he thought it ok to leave the children with the 'abuse'?

No obviously he didn't. He didn't have any choice he has been trying to resolve this since he left. None of this has been an easy for him and he has been trying consistently to sort the situation out since he left.

Quite frankly this has nothing to do with the original question that I asked, and if you look back through my previous threads you will find all the answers to your questions.

I'm glad you have never made a mistake in your life and are holier than thou but not everyone is as perfect as you. A mistake has been made and he is trying to make things right for his children, stop being so judgemental.

PrincessPlaty

Wickedkitten wrote: »

Is this a further on from the thread about the "friend" who was still living with their ex four months ago?

The friend was his wife. I was asking from her point of view rather than his because I know how much more threads from women are favoured on this board.