Is this assault?

BitterAndTwisted

If he's not mentally ill and requires help of some description then he needs to be banished from the house until he can behave like a decent and mature adult

trevorsminted

drugs test me thinks oh and bags packed slung out house, in front of babies/children never acceptable, totally unacceptable behaviour!

McKneff

Tell him you wont put up with his behavious any longer, if he does anythig like it again, he has to move out, mean it and do it.

They dont do naughty steps for adults, he's doing it because you are allowing him to do it, simple as that.

He's a grown man, not a five year old. He's had a 5 year old tantrum, like a spoiled brat with no control.

Show him the door, next time it might not be a drink, it could be the telly he picks up and throws at you.

kitrat

Hootie19 wrote: »

After a stupid argument at the dinner table, my almost 22 year old son threw a temper tantrum, threw a drink over me, smashed the glass on the floor and then stood swearing and shouting for about 15 minutes.

I say it's assault, he says that throwing a drink of water/squash over someone is not assault.

Who is correct?

And if I was to call the police, what would their actions likely be?

For the reasons stated by others I wouldn't call the police, but this IS assault.

However I wouldn't get bogged down with him in an argument over the technical description of what he did. What he needs to understand is that whatever you call it, it was completely unacceptable.

This is quite shocking behaviour for a grown man. Does he have anger issues perhaps that need to be addressed? Or perhaps if he moved out and got a place of his own away from the family then he would cool off a little having more space and time to himself?

Macca83_2

Actually, on reading the posts that have gone on whilst i was typing up a reply, Im leaning more towards police involvement. His current behaviour is not acceptable and sometimes it takes a huge step to address a problem. I think he might need to see a doctor. His mood swings are not normal. Is he under any stress? Does he drink too much? Do you find drink disappearing in your house. Does he Hide away in his room? Does he work?

Lotus-eater

meritaten wrote: »

er - do you eat fajitas with a knife and fork? I dont, I use my fingers. if your son, you and your husband all criticised me - I would be angry too.
and you dont see that he may have seen it as you all 'ganging up on him'?

And that was a reason to do what he did is it? of course not.

Hootie19

meritaten wrote: »

er - do you eat fajitas with a knife and fork? I dont, I use my fingers. if your son, you and your husband all criticised me - I would be angry too.
and you dont see that he may have seen it as you all 'ganging up on him'?

No. We have tongs to get the fajita mix from the serving dish to our individual plates. We don't grab handfuls of fajita mix to put onto the tortillas.

Janepig

With domestic incidents, calling the Police is all you need to do for it to go "on record", even if it goes no further. Not on his previous convictions or anything, but from what the OP has put about previous incidents, even if they didn't result in charges or Court appearances, they would still be logged by the Police /DV Unit, and if he does ever appear in Court then those previous incidents will be mentioned as a pattern of offending, ie, that it isn't a one off. There is a statistic that I can't reel off without checking, about how many domestic incidents it takes before things are actually taken to Court, before you stop giving him the benefit of the doubt. And yes, domestic incidents aren't just confined to husband/wife (partners) but parents, children, siblings also.

I frequently speak to offenders who claim to have never acted in this way before when it gets to Court, when a quick call to the DV unit will show otherwise.

Jx

gibson123

Yes it is assault, you need to wait until he is calm and then tell him that if he ever behaves like this again you ask him to leave the house.

*max*

meritaten wrote: »

er - do you eat fajitas with a knife and fork? I dont, I use my fingers. if your son, you and your husband all criticised me - I would be angry too.
and you dont see that he may have seen it as you all 'ganging up on him'?

What the heck are you on about? He was told not to pick up food with his fingers out of a communal dish...and this 22 year old man's response was to throw a glass of water over his mother! Do you seriously find it an acceptable thing to do? Why are you trying to defend him there? Why are you attacking the OP like this and trying to make her out to be the guilty party? Seriously, I don't understand.