Is this assault?

Hootie19

Macca83 wrote: »

Actually, on reading the posts that have gone on whilst i was typing up a reply, Im leaning more towards police involvement. His current behaviour is not acceptable and sometimes it takes a huge step to address a problem. I think he might need to see a doctor. His mood swings are not normal. Is he under any stress? Does he drink too much? Do you find drink disappearing in your house. Does he Hide away in his room? Does he work?

No. He never touches alcohol. Really doesn't like it when his girlfriends drink either. I don't know why - neither his dad or I are big drinkers, so it's not as though he's had problems with drunkeness in the home.

He does work - part time in shop. He hates it, but lacks movitation or self confidence to find something else.

He does hide away in his room - but he plays the XBox almost constantly.

Janepig

Hootie19 wrote: »

I am 100% sure that he would not be involved in drugs.

I said to him tonight that I have had enough of this behaviour (our house is trashed from front to back from where he has smashed things while in a tantrum) and that I thought he should leave the home and live somewhere else.

However, on his part time wages, he just cant' see how he can afford to live anywhere else.

I wish he could find somewhere else to live. I fear that if we continue to try and live in this house, we will end up with such a broken relationship that it will never be mended.

If he gets another part time job, maybe two, then he'd be able to afford somewhere, surely. It doesn't need to be a palace just for him. And if you end up booting him out he's going to need to find somewhere sharpish. It might be a good idea for him to start saving from his wages to put towards a deposit and a bond.

Oh, and never be 100% sure he's not having anything to do with drugs. Not unless you are with him 100% of the time. I'm not saying he is, but you can never be 100% sure.

Jx

Misstress

Hootie19 wrote: »

No. He never touches alcohol. Really doesn't like it when his girlfriends drink either. I don't know why - neither his dad or I are big drinkers, so it's not as though he's had problems with drunkeness in the home.

He does work - part time in shop. He hates it, but lacks movitation or self confidence to find something else.

He does hide away in his room - but he plays the XBox almost constantly.

As I said in the post above. There is your/his problem.

Macca83_2

You need to put an ultimatum in place. Either he goes to the doctor - follows whatever course of treatment suggested or he leaves.

Short, sweet and simple.

Welshwoofs

meritaten wrote: »

I have a strong feeling that this son cannot do anything right - the incident Hootie has posted which turned into Hootie screaming 'Assault' is stupid!

Well given that you were quite happy to use your martial arts skills to throw your own husband into a wall when you were peed off, I'd say that it's hardly surprising that you think "assault is stupid"

Macca83_2

Hootie19 wrote: »

No. He never touches alcohol. Really doesn't like it when his girlfriends drink either. I don't know why - neither his dad or I are big drinkers, so it's not as though he's had problems with drunkeness in the home.

He does work - part time in shop. He hates it, but lacks movitation or self confidence to find something else.

He does hide away in his room - but he plays the XBox almost constantly.

I wonder if he perhaps suffers from depression.

Janepig

My two children, although much younger, often tell each other off for misdeeds that they know I'd get cross about, although I usually tell them not to. I see no reason why one adult (ie the 20 year old brother) couldn't tell off, and/or tap, another adult (the nearly 22 year old) around a dinner table for bad manners.

Jx

Welshwoofs

Op - your son is an adult. IMO it's time to lay down the law and tell him that it's time to move out. Attacking members of your family is not acceptable.

Macca83_2

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Well given that you were quite happy to use your martial arts skills to throw your own husband into a wall when you were peed off, I'd say that it's hardly surprising that you think "assault is stupid"

Should i find this funny? I dunno why but its tickled me :rotfl:

FATBALLZ

Put it this way, if this was a girl who had thrown a glass of water, nobody on here would think anything of it.

If he constantly behaves like a knob then kick him out, he's more than old enough to be living via his own means. Don't be pathetic and call in the old bill because he got your bloomers damp.