It's over. Betrayed, heartbroken, jobless, homeless. (long, sorry, venting)

ostrichnomore_2

oh yeah, something that gives me some satisfaction right now.

I've lost nearly 2 stone. I'd put on a lot of weight in last few years due to all the stress and unhappiness (knowing deep down he was having an affair). but now I'm shrinking and I'm not even dieting or putting any effort into it.

And he is getting seriously fat, lol, looks like he's got triplets in there. So I guess he loooooooves that food all right, greedy git. Never mind the fact that he's got high blood pressure and family history of heart attacks (I used to force veggies and salad and healthy stuff down him much to his disgust). I suppose she just feeds him what he likes and doesn't care that it's likely to make him drop dead in a year or so. they so deserve each other.

HeadAboveWater

*hug*

Thank you for the update.

What a crazy and rollercoaster few months it has been for you! Sorry to hear that asking him for the truth just proved to you he had [STRIKE]little[/STRIKE] no respect for you. That is so sad.

BUT I love the fact that you're making progress: sorting your own life out and able to move on One step at a time, right?

I can't control how he acts, just how I respond to it.

Bingo! I read a book recently and this is similar to what I've been telling myself in my head every now and again. It's so simple but really does make all the difference!

Christmas is looking to be difficult and he's not allowing me to have my son come visit me

:eek::mad:

but...

I'm tempted to ignore it and have son over anyway and if he feels like throwing us out, good luck to him. My son is a 25 year old gobby 6 footer and not one to be pushed around.

:rotfl:

You go girl!!!

And well done on the weight loss too!! You'll both look and feel fantastic. In his face, huh?!

LannieDuck

Why on earth would you need his permission to have your son over at Christmas? Do you jointly own the house?

I also can't remember whether you jointly own/run the business. If you do, tell the staff as much or as little about your relationship split as you choose to, and throw any magnets in the bin. Again, you don't need his permission.

ostrichnomore_2

No, we don't jointly own the house.

It's more that there's only one spare room and his daughter gets first dibs on it. I'm fine with that, but she won't commit to any particular dates, so he wants to reserve the room for her for the whole period just in case. He refuses to tell her that someone else has been invited too so she needs to make her mind up when she will/won't be here. I then said, fine, if need be and they are both here at the same time my son can have my room and I can sleep on sofa. Nope, not allowed, no one to sleep in living room.

So while he hasn't outright said my son isn't allowed up this year, that's the result. I think he's scared to face him, lol.

ostrichnomore_2

!!!!!!

I just double checked with the office manager that ex had finally told him about our situation. Yes, he did, but the office manager then said that he already knew from several months ago.

So why the hell was he asking me about ex's holiday and rubbing my nose in it? OK, he didn't know any of the details but he knew it was not a happy split as far as I was concerned (I took 3 weeks off work when it all happened, which was enough of a clue for everyone else that I was unhappy). Did it not occur to him this might not be entirely tactful/welcome? What is wrong with men's brains!!!!!!!

HeadAboveWater

ostrichnomore wrote: »

What is wrong with men's brains!!!!!!!

Seriously?!?!?!? They're men!!! What more of an explanation do you want?!? :rotfl:

ostrichnomore_2

edited - duplicate of above post appeared by magic!

marisco_2

Sounds like you have really been through the ringer. Good on you though for having enough savvy to see through him and walk away. Now take the ultimate revenge and get on with your whole new happy life without needing him in it.

ostrichnomore_2

now I just want to go slap the office manager for upsetting me as well!

Mojisola

You use "allow" a lot of times in your posts. As you get stronger, try to change that kind of thinking.

I can't remember the last time I talked about being "allowed" or "not allowed" to do something - certainly it was back when I was a child.