OS Diary 22/03/07

Rage_in_Eden

Well hello everybody and hugs to all who need them. It's just drizzle here at the moment - which doesn't seem to be bothering the goldfinches on the yew tree one bit - ah the joys of being a birdie.

Now as you will all know I am usually the one with the "up" mantras. Well today I am SOOOOO angry. It's over FIL. Last night MIL rang up at 7pm (visiting is 6.30 - 7.30 - guess she wasn't there) and from snippets of the conversation I gathered that FIL has had a catheter in since he was admitted. There was also some muttering about "reading cards". When DH came off the 'phone I attempted to get some information out of him. FIL had a catheter in when he was admitted and it was removed yesterday - so it took 7 days for DH to tell me that. Also it turns out that when DH took him a get well card (at my insistance as he didn't have any) on Monday, FIL couldn't read them as he couldn't recognise the words. Has anyone mentioned this to the medical staff - what do you think? I said that they should have told somebody because if he's having cognitive impairment following his low oxygen it's important - I was told not to use long words/try and diagnose him etc. I pointed out that I was only stating the obvious. I bit my tongue as what I really wanted to say as "well nobody else seems to give a monkey's". He had a chest x-ray the other day - result? MIL "didn't know - somebody said it was better" - who? better from what? Is he still on antibiotics - MIL "don't know". Steroids "don't know". However, you'll all be pleased to hear that she managed to have her hair done yesterday as they squeezed her in as she told them that her husband was in hospital and doing her hair was too much for her......... (no comment). When DH goes up to see her something happens like he has his brain sucked out when he walks through her front door. All I have been able to get from anyone is that his chest is "bad" and he's had a mild heart attack. I've pieced together that he's got COPD by his symptoms and also I said to DH that he might be discharged with an inhaler "oh he's got one of those" he said - so he's got COPD then but when I directly asked BIL he said, wait for it, "I don't know". Am I over reacting but if it was my Husband/Dad I would be hunting down people and asking them questions - they all seem happy to just sit there - haven't got the brains they were born with. DH has also announced this morning that he wants to go back up next weekend - and I will be expected to go. Not sure I cannot lose my temper if I do and they're still thinking of coming down at the end of May and so much work needs doing on the house as we've still got big holes in the kitchen ceiling 2 years on since the work and DH only says he'll "do it later". If I could afford to pay somebody to come in and do everything I would. I can't seem to get this all through to DH and it's starting to really get to me. Yesterday I sat and made a hand towel and two face cloths out of a bath sheet that DH put in the wash with his football boots so it had all ripped and then DH said "oh I was going to use that for cleaning the car" - a Christy towel which we couldn't possibly afford to buy ourselves and he was going to clean his car engine with it....... I don't know whether to ring the hospital where FIL is and find out what is going on or not. And DH has also asked me to send some flowers to his Mum today to "cheer her up". I would have thought having her hair done would have been cheering enough - I've not been able to afford to have mine done since November and it badly needs it. You may have gathered that I'm feeling very sorry for myself and I'm off to have a cry now.

tired_mum

Good morning all
I was quite pleased about 220 days this month no bills to pay for ages!
hope everyone is ok not much happening here meeting my mum at lakeside later but wont be buying anything
OH has gone back to bed as he feels really bad sore throat cold sinusy etc
hugs to all those with family problems
hugs to those feeling down
have a good day will pop back later

Horasio

Hopefully a better day today

A second viewing tonight at 5.30/6pm and the people from Gibralter want to see the house. A date to be confirmed.

I am getting sick of some people (not the people on here - you are angels) flaming me for trying to do the right thing as a parent. I want to save my son from himself. Teenage years must be a form for temporary insanity.

It was nice having peace in our house last night - we still have to sort our marriage out but got along but we are both raw from all the stress of selling the house, the car (they are being evasive about when it is ready and the other one is making noises since the accident 3 weeks ago) and our son, so easily upset just now.

spiddy100

Bit of a sad day for people today - ((hugs)) to all those who need them

Rage in Eden, I think if it was me I would phone the hospital - but will that get your MIL's back up? It definitely sounds like there are things which have not been picked up, perhaps your OH and MIL just don't understand enough about what is normal and what isn't to realise that these things are important? Lots of people trust doctors and nurses unconditionally, I think it's when you work in a healthcare environment you know that sometimes you need to be pro-active and tell them everything you have noticed yourself.

Hope he is better soon, and that things are easier for you.

Not much going on here today. Miserable weather, have coffee arranged with a friend and her two boys later. Going to try and sort out what Flylady calls 'hotspots' later if I can get DS1 settled down with some books or something.

Charlies_mum, your joke reminded me of one my granny told - sorry it might not make sense unless you're a cricket fan

England were playing in the Ashes, and a die-hard fan was watching the last day of the final match when his wife went into labour. Rather than miss the outcome of the game, he decided to sit outside the labour room and watch it on the TV.

The match began, two quick English wickets fell. Just then, the man's mother in law rang to see how the labour was progressing. But the husband was still engrossed in the game.

"So how's it going ?" asked the mother in law. The man replied: "It's still in process, two are out, nine are left and the last one was a duck !!!"

His mother in law fainted.

joannasmum

Morning All

Big Hugs to CCStar and Rage in Eden plus anybody else who needs them.

Finished work now until a week on Monday. The decluttering is going to begin today, first it a trip to Mr T's for my monthly cant get at Aldi or the market top up. I need to make a list in a minute. May nip into town to Julien Graves while I out to get afew bits while there on half price.

Have a good day everyone

Rage_in_Eden

spiddy100 To be quite honest she probably wouldn't know and even if she did it wouldn't register - she really is that stupid - harsh I know but very true. This is the woman who watched Poirot for years without knowing about Agatha Christie and who thought Lily Savage was a real person..... and having done the maths from the Budget we'll be just over £200 worse off per year. DH says "oh it's only money" - yeah, right well you pay all the bills then and juggle the budget so we can eat. prat.

Crazychik

Good Mornng ALL

Hope we are well ((((hugs)))) to those who need/want them!

Wet & miserable here!

BIG ((((hugs)))) to ccstar (im sure things will improve in time to your advantage) and rage in eden (hope you get some kind of information ref FIL illness/treatment etc... It is annoying when family members cant be bothered to ask questions! Its a shame DH cant see this also)

Im really tired today, think all these sleepless nights are catching up with me

Ive got a meeting this morning with the Service Manager where I work. Just to talk about various products/jobs/costs etc... Just not awake enough for that to happen

Right best be off,
Have a good day all
Take care
Love as usual
Emma xxx

elaine373

Good morning all, another very quick visit to say Hello. I laughed at the multiple begiiner entries for this thread!
Hugs to everyone but especially Penelope penguin.I struggle with the loss of my mum so i really will be thinking of you today on what would have been your dads 77th birthday.
I will pop in later to catch up properly. Take care all, Have a good day, Love Elaine

Paulie'sGirl

Hi all!

Looks like some serious hugs are in order today! So, bear hugs to: snowy, lambanana, CCStar, Rage in Eden and anyone else I may have missed :grouphug:

Pen, hope it goes well at options night, I remember my own dilema there as if it were yesterday (God the stress! Triple Science? Or double science and german???!!!) It was eventually decided in a pub, not sure whether that fits with your parenting style or not, but I found a lime and soda really helped me make up my mind :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Boss once again out of the office. I've decided to look for a cheapy week away, take lil bro and get away before I start my new job...

Got to go, Catbert the evil HR director is lurking outside my office....

PG xx

donny-gal

CCStar wrote: »

I want to save my son from himself. Teenage years must be a form for temporary insanity.

Oh CCStar, Dont we all, but in honesty we cannot.

My Mum gave me some advise years ago, which I remembered and it did work, - "You have to let your kids go for them to come back to you". There is a point, where the kids dont want you, you are a "pain in the butt to them" just being there not even nagging them, and that unfortunately works least of all. My DS went through it, didn't really want us about, spent most of his time in his room, people his age were all that were important, we were old fuddy duddies (maybe that bit is true!). However, they do seem to come through it eventually, unless we fall out with them while they are in it. I could occasionally persuade him to go the right way by a quiet 1-2-1 talk, but not always.

Sorry luv you cannot save him from himself, he has to find that out for himself.

I know it hurts.
DG