Overweight/underweight child.

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Only just seen it and then saw your recent comment, done!

mazza111

Jody don't take the comments on here too seriously. You have a lovely family and of course if you're worried about them you are right to ask about them, photos or no photos.


I am still convinced that their body shapes will sort themselves out after puberty, as long as you keep feeding them healthily and have them exercising. I know they say fat kids leads to fat adults, but I was so skinny at school, they called me sparrow legs. I wish they could call me that now

If you're still concerned about them, maybe a trip to the GP and ask to be referred to a dietitian. You may find that they are more concerned with your DS rather than your DD though. Which is what happened with me.

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mazza111 wrote: »

Jody don't take the comments on here too seriously. You have a lovely family and of course if you're worried about them you are right to ask about them, photos or no photos.

I agree.

If you're still concerned about them, maybe a trip to the GP and ask to be referred to a dietitian. You may find that they are more concerned with your DS rather than your DD though. Which is what happened with me.

From what I can gather, this isn't a route the OP wants to take. I think the OP is hoping her daughter will maintain her weight and grow upwards over time to redistribute it (a healthy approach to take), which will be done by maintaining her current portion sizes.

Her dilemma (sp), is how to achieve this and maintain an outwardly equal sibling appearance, whilst feeding up DS.

She knows how to increase DS's intake, but unsure of how to emotionally tackle the other aspects.

Hope that is right OP, please feel free to correct.

If anyone has any thoughts, i'm sure the OP would appreciate them, despite all the "off topics".

JodyBPM

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Hope that is right OP, please feel free to correct.

If anyone has any thoughts, i'm sure the OP would appreciate them, despite all the "off topics".

Once again, spot on, Bailey! I wonder if you are understanding me more because you have a similar age gap between yours and better understand the challenge this presents?

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JodyBPM wrote: »

Once again, spot on, Bailey! I wonder if you are understanding me more because you have a similar age gap between yours and better understand the challenge this presents?

Spot on Jody, your understanding me too..............Lol

Its a lovely age gap, hard work in the early days, but great fun now. We didn't plan it but glad we have it.

Lunar_Eclipse

JodyBPM wrote: »

Spot on. If DD sees me give DS something (food or anything else), then she will ask for the same. I then have the choice of giving it to her (which she doesn't need, and I'd prefer for her not to have the extra calories) or not giving it to her and explaining why (which I don't want to do, as I don't want to give her even an inkling that her weight might be something to be concerned about).

In this scenario (I have it often, with two girls 17 months apart) I would ask your daughter if she is hungry. If she says no, then she isn't offered anything to eat. Once she realises that the food on offer is not a treat, I really don't think she'll say that she's hungry simply to eat more food. Most kids don't over indulge in healthy options. You don't need to explain anything beyond the human need to (only) eat when we are hungry. Personally, if it came to it (and it shouldn't) I also think I would risk an explanation your daughter might not like than give her food she doesn't need (that could make her fat!)

So I would increase your son's food intake and not your daughter's. I also think the appetite gap could widen considerably over the next few years, if my friend's incredibly skinny boys and their appetites are anything to go by. Interestingly they ate more than their mother (who eats a lot) from about your son's age and now at 11/12 they eat considerably more than their (very active) father. Come to think of it, the whole family is slim to skinny and they eat loads! At 7, lunch was 2 rounds of sandwiches, 1 fruit, 1 veg, 1 yoghurt/cheese, 1 treat and something like a sausage roll plus something else (egg, chicken etc). They ate/eat an enormous breakfast and dinner, plus 2 snacks and supper before bed. I wouldn't believe it if I didn't witness it. If your son goes this way, my suggestion is to up the protein and not empty carbs.

To ensure your daughter doesn't get a body image issue, I would use terms like hunger, metabolism and possibly hollow legs in reference to your son and not express your concerns about your daughter.

faerie~spangles

I'm astonished that the op posted pic's of her children and described her little girl as chunky on an open forum.

Anyone could have lifted those pic's and sent them viral.

Both children looked perfectly normal to me. I suspect that the op has issues with her body image and is now projecting them onto her daughter. Whether she realises that or not is up for debate.

rollnchips

faerie~spangles wrote: »

I'm astonished that the op posted pic's of her children and described her little girl as chunky on an open forum.

Anyone could have lifted those pic's and sent them viral.

Both children looked perfectly normal to me. I suspect that the op has issues with her body image and is now projecting them onto her daughter. Whether she realises that or not is up for debate.

Thankyou for saying that. I'm astounded that I was vilified for my similar opinion.

Torry_Quine

I'm sorry that you thought that those of us who objected to the photos were attacking you. For me it was the idea that someone would put photos of their children on a public web-site from where all your identities could then be compromised. I think they are two lovely children and with time any 'weight' issues will hopefully go.

FBaby

The responses are so depressing. virtually show why we've become a suspicious and paranoid nation, seriously overweight, raising spoilt and self conscious children.

maybe OP had nothing to hide and doesn't mind people she knows our not reading what she had to say. Its called confidence. OP loves her children and wants to make sure they are healthy and teach them habits so they remain so. She also wants to be fair, don't want her children to feel they are treated differently and build resentment between them. She is looking at strategies to deal with an issue rather than burying her head under the sand hoping it will get better on its own. She is what is called a good mother.