Overweight/underweight child.

rollnchips

JodyBPM wrote: »

I'm always a touch amazed at people who refuse to put images of their children of facebook etc, but are quite happy to let them play out, unsupervised for hours at a time.

You don't see the difference?

FBaby

rollnchips wrote: »

To be blunt, I think that it's awful that you are posting happy, holiday snaps of your children in order for the internet/strangers to comment on their weight. Imagine if in years time they find this or hear someone talking about this thread (you have included their faces afterall).

You make it sound as if mentioning their weight is something shameful. There's nothing shameful with being slightly overweight or underweight. So what if someone talks about that thread in years time? they might such as much feel very proud that their mother posted pictures of them mentioning they are beautiful and seeking advice.

Having such an opinion of your child and allowing strangers to comment on them, will undoubtedly rub off in the way you parent them. Last thing you want is your children feeling insecure in themselves.

What opinion? That she is a bit chunky? What's wrong with that? I think kids are much more likely to feel insecure if they feel something is kept hidden and secret. My partner and I are very open about talking about our imperfections and what we want to do to change it. I much prefer my partner to nicely tell me that he has noticed that I've put on a bit of weight and that I might want to watch it than him saying nothing and then having to deal with my whinging that I've put on too much weight, don't like myself and feel down because of it.

If you have true concerns about your children's weights then see a doctor. Common sense would be to feed them healthy, home made food when they are hungry and encourage fresh air and excercice whether they are over or underweight in your eyes.

She doesn't have true concerns, she wants opinions and advice, which is what she has received here.

Sambucus_Nigra

My first thought was - why on earth is this person putting photos of their children in swimwear on the internet.

My second thought was - where is the chunky daughter in these photos.

Seriously - your daughter is not chunky and posting pics of your kids in swimwear just for people to comment on her weight is IMHO - very odd behaviour. Why do you feel that you need people on the internet to verify anything? If you think she is 'obese' then see a doctor. Otherwise just keep giving her healthy food.

JodyBPM

rollnchips wrote: »

You don't see the difference?

I absolutely do see the difference. Putting their photos on the internet doesn't compromise their actual safety, whereas letting them play out unsupervised does.

Anyway, my children, my decision and I have nothing further to say on the issue, its not the purpose of the thread.

Anyway, back on topic, I'm not really here to discuss whether or not DD is overweight, I'm looking for strategies to feed ds more whilst keeping dds intake the same. Many thanks for the suggestions so far, any other advice on that matter much welcomed...

FBaby

rollnchips wrote: »

You don't see the difference?

Just come out with it and share with us how you think one is fine and the other a sin?

By the way, OP children, if one day you come and read this thread, I think you are beautiful children regardless of your size, and that you are lucky to have proud and caring mum

mazza111

mildred1978 wrote: »

Might as well give sugar cubes. It's the low fat revolution that has been the main cause of the obesity epidemic.

Better to give something high in protein than high in calories.

Not all cereals are full of sugar Mildred. The OP is intelligent enough to see what's in what. I'd rather see them having a bowl of a low fat/low sugar cereal than a cereal bar. I'm thinking more weetabix, shredded wheat, porridge rather than sugary things like coco pops.


I agree with the idea of maybe feeding them a little later in the day if they are still hungry. Is your DD wanting food in the evening because she's hungry or just because your DS is hungry? Could you introduce some fruit or yoghurt at that time of night?

Kiboko

same old, same old, posters not fully reading or understanding an OP and then putting their own spin/agenda down. The Op wanted to know how to feed her son the extra he is asking for without his sister feeling left out or deciding she wanted a bedtime treat snack, NOT how to put her daughter on a diet (that she does not need).

FBaby

Back to the initial query, as stated already, you shouldn't see their diet requirements as being any different. Have a stack of healthy snacks that both can have if they are hungry, things that are not overly attractive but are healthy, like nuts, fruit, oatcakes etc... if your son is trully hungry, he will eat them, if your daughter is just after comfort food rather than feeling hungry, she won't be so interested.

Torry_Quine

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

My first thought was - why on earth is this person putting photos of their children in swimwear on the internet.

My second thought was - where is the chunky daughter in these photos.

Seriously - your daughter is not chunky and posting pics of your kids in swimwear just for people to comment on her weight is IMHO - very odd behaviour. Why do you feel that you need people on the internet to verify anything? If you think she is 'obese' then see a doctor. Otherwise just keep giving her healthy food.

I have to agree. I feel very uncomfortable with these pictures and like you see no problem with her size. If there really is a problem with the weight of either of them then she should see her GP. Strangers on an internet really can't tell her what she needs to know.

Person_one

I think the chances of someone doing something 'dodgy' with these pictures are remote.

However I do know that at 7, I would have wanted to be asked before my mum shared pictures of me in my swimming costume with complete strangers.

If you have her permission, I see no issue.