Overweight/underweight child.

FBaby

This does raise the issue of the concerns of professionals that we are raising children to become obese adults because the adults are themselves already overweight.

A child who is overweight is much more likely to become an adult with an weight problem so it is really important to recognise it. For years I heard how my DD was very overweight and how I need to feed her more etc... she is naturally tall and slight, she has never beem malnourished. I am myself often told how I eat nothing and will make myself ill...I am a size 10, BMI of 22. That's not underweight!!!!

I often see children who are clearly chubby with parents refusing to see it. It breaks my heart for the child because whilst the parents deny there might be an issue, the child grows up with bad eating habits which means they are much more likely to become an adult struggling to find the will power to watch what they eat. Like everything, eating sensibly both in terms of quantity and quality is something that we learn, the earlier one gets into a good routine, the more likely it will come naturally as an adult.

It upset me that OP is getting so much flake when in my view, all she is doing is showing she is wanting to insure that her DD doesn't fall into the trap so many adults have fallen into through lack of support from their parents in terms of proper eating habits whilst her son is getting enough nutrition.

claire16c

FBaby wrote: »

This does raise the issue of the concerns of professionals that we are raising children to become obese adults because the adults are themselves already overweight.

A child who is overweight is much more likely to become an adult with an weight problem so it is really important to recognise it. For years I heard how my DD was very overweight and how I need to feed her more etc... she is naturally tall and slight, she has never beem malnourished. I am myself often told how I eat nothing and will make myself ill...I am a size 10, BMI of 22. That's not underweight!!!!

I often see children who are clearly chubby with parents refusing to see it. It breaks my heart for the child because whilst the parents deny there might be an issue, the child grows up with bad eating habits which means they are much more likely to become an adult struggling to find the will power to watch what they eat. Like everything, eating sensibly both in terms of quantity and quality is something that we learn, the earlier one gets into a good routine, the more likely it will come naturally as an adult.

It upset me that OP is getting so much flake when in my view, all she is doing is showing she is wanting to insure that her DD doesn't fall into the trap so many adults have fallen into through lack of support from their parents in terms of proper eating habits whilst her son is getting enough nutrition.

Thats the problem with BMI. Its only accurate for the 'average' person. If you are naturally slim it doesnt always work. Which surely applies to a lot of children? With all the running about they do.

According to the BMI I am really underweight, but for ME, I am not.

raven83

rollnchips wrote: »

You must see a difference in posting photographs of your children online, without their consent and accessed by thousands to simply being around people in the beach?

There is a sticky on this board about privacy, maybe you all should read it.

rollnchips wrote: »

To be blunt, I think that it's awful that you are posting happy, holiday snaps of your children in order for the internet/strangers to comment on their weight. Imagine if in years time they find this or hear someone talking about this thread (you have included their faces afterall).

Having such an opinion of your child and allowing strangers to comment on them, will undoubtedly rub off in the way you parent them. Last thing you want is your children feeling insecure in themselves.

If you have true concerns about your children's weights then see a doctor. Common sense would be to feed them healthy, home made food when they are hungry and encourage fresh air and excercice whether they are over or underweight in your eyes.

Just out of interest, do you think its wrong for people to pictures of their children on social websites like facebook?

Sambucus_Nigra

Kiboko wrote: »

same old, same old, posters not fully reading or understanding an OP and then putting their own spin/agenda down. The Op wanted to know how to feed her son the extra he is asking for without his sister feeling left out or deciding she wanted a bedtime treat snack, NOT how to put her daughter on a diet (that she does not need).

Yes, same old people reading things and responding. :eek:

If you could let us know when and where you think we should be responding, and what thoughts you would like us to type; that would sure save alot of time. Cheers.

Sambucus_Nigra

raven83 wrote: »

Just out of interest, do you think its wrong for people to pictures of their children on social websites like facebook?

I do yes - esp in their swimwear.

But this isn't facebook, where people viewing pics can easily be restricted to friends and family. It's an open forum.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2864252

System

I can see the importance of keeping an eye on childen's weight. That said I ate exactly the same food as my siblings yet i put on weight and they didn't-to this day my two sisters are naturally skinny. I'm not sure what my parents could have done differently but i got bullied in school because of my weight, which in turn lead to depression and me losing a hell of a lot of weight through not eating. At 25 i now seem to have come full circle and am overweight again but this time trying to lose it healthily.

BMI confuses me, i'm technically morbidly obese but you wouldn't think that to look at me (i mean i look fat but not supersized if that makes sense)

Blue_Elephant

Its just puppy fat, it seems that you are feeding your family the right things and that they are getting excercise, the weight calculation things (BMI etc) are rubbish because it fails to take into account build and natural characteristics.

She'll shoot up in a few years, just let her be. My mother used to make those comments when I was a *chunky* kid. I've been slim all my adult life, but never thought I was slim enough.

As for the photos, I'm sorry but I agree with the posters who think it's a bad idea. Photos of kids on the internet in their swimwear? Yes I accept you know where they are at all times, but photos of kids on the internet, especially in public unlocked forums can end up anywhere. There's a reason most privacy policies anywhere state its a bad idea.

Do you really want those pictures photoshopped? I'm not saying it will happen, but kids playing in the park during the day are unlikely to be abducted, but you wouldn't be willing to take that risk.

As for how to feed your son more as he is more hungry, just do it, don't hide it from your daughter as if its something that should be kept a secret and hidden from her because she is obviously not able to hoover up everything in sight. If she asks, just tell her the truth, that at this point in growing he needs more food, just like she may do in the future.

mildred1978

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I do yes - esp in their swimwear.

I really can't see what swimwear has to do with it to be honest............ :huh:

sooty&sweep

Hi

To be honest I don't think there is anything wrong with your daughter.
She looks a happy little girl and OK she's not skin and bone but not overweight either.

If you are bothered why not have a chat with a practice nurse from your Doctors or the school nurse.

Jen

Kiboko

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Yes, same old people reading things and responding. :eek:

If you could let us know when and where you think we should be responding, and what thoughts you would like us to type; that would sure save alot of time. Cheers.

well here's a novel idea, how about actually answering the question posed, rather than coming over all 'outraged of tunbridge' and accusing people of things that aren't part of the question.