Real-life MMD: Should we pay more than a fair share of honeymoon cost?

Figgerty

double_mummy wrote: »

could they not just go on a cheaper honeymoon? put whatever you original said you would contribute, let the other parents put in what they can and then let your son and his OH decide what they can afford to do with that money

alternatively tell them to use something like honeyfund.com and ask their guests to pay for their honeymoon

i think you are very very generous paying 50% of their honeymoon and additional things for the wedding and if they are disappointed then i would personally tell them to enjoy paying for the wedding by them selves

as always with these MMDs isnt the answer to sit down with all concerned parties and discuss it

I totally agree with this answer.

Figgerty

brewerdave wrote: »

Weddings are so expensive these days,that few parents can afford to pay for them completely. My 2nd daughter is getting married next month and she and her fiance are paying for the wedding themselves but have asked wedding guests to contribute cash towards the honeymoon rather than having a wedding present list. My daughter realises how much it cost my wife and I to put them both thru Uni and we have given both of them money towards deposits on their first houses,cars etc, so when we gave them a cheque towards the honeymoon they were both extremely surprised and grateful.

What a very sensible attitude!

Pay according to your ability, all sit down and discuss costs and pay what you can. If the honeymoon has already been booked then look to the wedding costs and see where you can trim costs. I think they idea of requesting a monetary wedding gift is excellent. How many sets of glasses do you need!

For God's sake do not get yourselves in debt over this.

Ebenezer_Screwj

How much is your son and his fiancee contributing towards what is essentially their day ? I would follow the lead of your son's future in-laws, who traditionally would meet the cost of the whole wedding excluding the honeymoon. Give your son a cheque for "what you can afford" and have no further involvement in the financial side of the wedding.