MSE Pregnancy Club 25

moneypuddle

moneypenny21 wrote: »

Hi moneypuddle, hope work is better for you? How much longer do you have to go until you can finish?

I want to definitely get some waterproof sheets for the cotbed and I guess the moses basket to but beyond wanting to buy some I haven't thought about it. I'll keep an eye out for answers from others on this.

Hello moneypenny! I'm doing much better thanks. Don't know where I'd be without the support of you lovely people on here though. After today is over, I only have 14 working days left (and 1 is a staff fun day this coming Monday, so not too bad). I'm finishing on 20th Sep, so in reality it's less than three weeks to go, and I'll be 38 weeks by the time I leave! Hurrah! How about you? How are you doing?

I'm now thinking about getting waterproof sheets just for the cotbed and not the moses basket as I've read thats what a few people tend to do

moneypuddle (35 weeks and 1 day) xx

Rups32

i cant wait till i am counting down days to my maternity leave. Dh was telling me about paternity leave too. now i am thinking do i really want him around (yes holding a grudge because he didnt ask me about lunch)!

moneypuddle

Ah Rups, my OH is off for the first month - two weeks paternity, then two weeks holiday! Can't wait to get to spend a whole month together I'm sure you'll appreciate your OH's help when it comes to it, and at least it means you can get out for a bit on your own if you need/want to as well!

Rups32

that is true, didnt think of that.just feeling over the top emotional and just want to sit and cry. think the tiredness is getting to me and just want to have a good cry. i am sure i will feel better in a bit. he has such a stupid temper

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Moneypuddle and moneypenny I got waterproof sheets for our corned two for £8 in tesco. Haven't used them though as bubs is in his Moses basket. But I think in babies r us they were £16 or something mad!

Re:bf the first couple of days were difficult. Although not really a preemie (36weeks), he was little enough not to really have a strong suck, often wouldn't/couldn't latch so we had to supplement him a few times with formula or hand expressed milk with a syringe. We used the cup for the formula and he loved it, no effort he just wanted the milk tipping in his mouth. It took a few days and many tears but he's now got the hang of it and sucks like a dyson! Any longer and I think I may have switched to formula or bottles to be honest as I was getting very upset that maybe he wasn't getting the nutrition he needed.
The hospital I was at we're very supportive with bf. But as far as I could see they were equally supportive of the mums formula feeding, showing them how to make bottles up in the milk room etc. I know friends who were at a different local hospital who were bullied/made to feel totally crap about not bf by the midwives etc. I would think really these days that formula is pretty similar to breast milk. I don't think one is easier than the other, both have their advantages. At our antenatal our midwife said they weren't allowed to do a demo of bottle feeding.
Have got to add though if I wasn't breast feeding OH would be holding the baby 24/7 and I wouldn't get a look in. I do have to prompt him to hand bubs over to visitors for a cuddle!

LadyM in the first few days there isn't much milk to get out. I hand expressed and really only got a couple of mls. Once the milk comes in I guess then a pump need be needed?

I was going to reply to something else but I've forgotten. Can't believe it's 2pm. Had a lazy morning. Now both bubs and OH are sleeping. Going to do some washing. Don't know how we get through so many baby grows.

Sa-ra-ra-ra

KatyLiz wrote: »

I'm not anti-breastfeeding - for those it works for great, but people should be able to accept that it doesn't work for everyone.

That's what I was trying to get across with my post - that it works for some people and not for others, and you have to make that decision yourself. And they both have their own advantages/disadvantages, which you have to weigh up yourself, even without the added stress of a premature baby. Sorry if I offended anyone with what I said, I was trying to make it balanced because I really don't think it makes that much difference at the end of the day.

I was planning on getting waterproof undersheets for the cotbed and for the basket. Just makes life a bit easier (and hopefully the mattress a little less smelly!). One of the tips I had from another forum as well was to make the bed up 'twice' - so you have (from the bottom), waterproof sheet, top sheet, towel, top sheet, so that if there are any middle of the night accidents you can just whip the top two layers and you don't have to rummage about changing the whole thing again.

The other thing I meant to say (which I completely forgot) was... Many many many congratulations Kitten, I'm so pleased that ladyBoyd arrived safely and I hope you and your DH are having lots of snuggly cuddles.

Sa-ra-ra-ra (27+1).

KatyLiz

Rups, tell your DH your hungry, surely once you've made the point he'll get you something to eat? As for having them around to help, my baby is due at the worst time. Having had DH around for his lazy 3 month student summer, he starts uni 4 days before I'm due, and won't be able to take a single extra day, only the actual labour, off. Having had him off with me for two weeks paternity leave the last two times I think it'll harder without the extra help.

fluffnutter

dizziblonde wrote: »

Oh I'm glad we're getting onto the "breastfeeding is hard"... with the implication that bottle feeding's the easy way out insinuations - they're always welcome.

Why don't we just change it to "breastfeeding is hard... bottle feeding can be a pain in the butt - none of it is easy" and quit the value judgements.

Oh and the "you mustn't be bonded with your child if you didn't breastfeed it" - yeah - obviously I must just be some rabid child-hating cow. That one is INCREDIBLY insulting - and ball-oxs.

If you feel that I think bottle feeding's in some way inferior then I'm sorry you've got that from my post. It's each to their own and I was keen to say that these were just my opinions, not fact and certainly not a judgement.

I'm just trying to be encouraging to others who, like me, might find BFing difficult yet still want to continue. If it's not for you, or for anyone, then don't do it. There is a lot of pressure on women to BF, I agree. But it doesn't come from me.

Rups32

oh no katyliz that sucks. will you have anyone else around perhaps?

well that wasnt any good for me. he said i could sort out my own lunch as i know what is in the house and he cant read my mind. I did. i just put some chips into the oven and fried an egg and scoffed it. i got so upset i even cried - hormones. then he walked past me and took my plate away and asked for a kiss. men are so stupid at times. he is off as well this evening so tonight i am stuck with his brother and then alone tomorrow. will make the most of it and prob have a clean kitchen before they both come back.

toni_

i really hope i get on with breast feeding, i love the whole idea of being so close to bubs and saving the £10 odd a week on formula! but if it doesn't work it doesn't work but im determined to have a good go at it