MSE Pregnancy Club 25

savageHK

moneypenny, I liked the style of Your Baby Week by Week and someone else on here said that they also liked First Time Parent (which I have out from the library but haven't read yet). I started on What to Expect: the first year but didn't really get on with it.
As for the birthing I read many pregnancy books v. early on and have forgotten! I have bought the natal hynotherapy CDs but they haven't arrived yet, everything else has kind of merged in my mind. I've been lent a book which I'm starting called Childbirth without fear - will let you know how I get on.

Rups32

oh yes i forgot about the book. oops.lol.a friend has lent me that first one savage, 'what to expect' one. it seems ok but sometimes too much in there. i havent read anymore. just tend to read those email alerts i get from bounty, and nhs.

ikkle87

I need to listen to my natal hypnobirthing cd x

Rups32

i need to look up what hypnobirthing as not very clued up on that.:p

savageHK

It's supposed to help you get into a relaxed state when giving birth. I'm not normally one to go with these visualisation type things but it seems there's something in it so I'll give it a shot. There's also apparently a medical argument to say that a woman can't give birth while she's nervous as adrenaline interferes with the hormones that need to wash around your system to make you contract and all that; so if you are calm the birth should go better for you (which sounds quite obvious really).

Moneypenny, just realised I have also read another book which was birth related (but have apparently immediately forgotten!) called your body, your baby, your birth by Jenny Smith (a midwife) - it was OK, worth a look. As with most of these things the problem can be too much information I think - it's easy to start dwelling on all the unpleasant stuff which they have to tell you.

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Rups there has to become a point when you think "right let's prepare for this baby, plan stuff and buy stuff" for a lot of ppl this is the 20 week scan when they know all is well. I'm not saying that you don't/shouldn't stop worrying or means any fears will disappear. I was buying from very early on like 10 weeks, I didnt find out till prob 7-8 weeks lol. That wasn't a conscious decision to prepare more I found stuff at good prices/free and excitement.
Its hard, but you've really got to somehow filter these idiots out of your life for now. Anyone who keeps on with negative things should be banished. I told a couple of people if they nothing nice to say to !!!!!! off until baby arrives. Because you'll have enough fears and worries of your own, well I know I did, without people telling stories. And to be honest I hear some and I think really? Is this an actual real life story or someone talking bull crap?

I've not written my birth story yet as I don't want to scare anyone on here. But I had severe pre eclampsia and it's not the norm really and nothing anyone could have done to predict or prevent it. It's not a nice story really, It ended in a crash section, but both me and bubs are fine and we both very nearly weren't.

Ikkle I listened to the cd once and fell asleep, didn't get a chance to listen again. You'll have to let me know if it's any good so I'll keep it for next time!

I still can't believe bubba is here! It's so hard calling him a name apart from bubba lol. I read on here and I think "when I give birth" I might do that etc. I still think im pregnant, so weird seeing bubs in his Moses basket, but so so amazing

savageHK

LMM: did they need to knock you out entirely for the section or did they manage with just a spinal block or epidural top-up?

little_miss_moneysaver_3

No it was a general anaesthetic. An epidural had been placed just before eveything went tits up but no time to use it. I remember the anaesthetist talking about it over my head told me to keep my eyes open then he put me to sleep lol

Rups32

Aww LMM thanks for the advise. yes you are so right! i have learnt to just block thse comments now .lol. my MIL is lovely but like you said we cant live in fear. i am actually tired of worrying the way i did before the 20 week scan and its after that i fully kind of relaxed. with the bubble type feelings in me recently, i feel better and positive so am sticking with that. am going to be 23 weeks tomorrow!

ikkle87

LMM - I'm quite hoping the CD does send me to sleep lol. Would be awesome. I will try to use it properly though.

Have to say you've actually really helped me as one of the things I have been dreading is that if the anaesthetist says my spine is too fused for epidural etc I would need a general but seeing how well you've done and how awesome your dinky little man is it's kind of eradicated that bit of fear that if I do have to have a general it's not the end of the world kind of thing. x