MSE Pregnancy Club 25

savageHK

Kayalana, it's possible to feed discreetly - I've seen some women manage! My MIL bought me a breastfeeding blanket thingy which has a weight on one corner so it's supposed to be easy to cover up - you could also try with a large muslin or a shawl or something. If your clothes help it's probably also easier, nursing bras and tops seem to make it possible to get a nipple out without anything showing.

Kitten_Pie

Student_Mrs wrote: »

so, let me try and remember everything people have said, hmm, could be a toughie! kittenpie, how many weeks are you now, are they still talking induction?

35 weeks at the moment, still taking about induction but as much as I want her out and safe in my arms I also want her to be as healthy as possible so putting off talking about it until 37 weeks and see how she is positioned etc. With any luck I will go naturally anyway but won't be leaving it till 40weeks probably 38/39 depending on how things are.

Mishka with everything you have been through over the last year and what you are currently going through these would be perfectly normal emotions to have. Do keep in contact with your MW so she knows how this is affecting you.

I have the same worries every morning and refuse to get out of bed until she has kicked, she gets woken up with ice poles on a regular basis now. OH spoons me in the night and gets up before me so when I wake up he can sometimes let me know that she has been kicking him in the morning so I don't have the initial panic. It helps but I still panic, I have the count the kicks counter on my wrist which also helps with baby brain, I can now tell you at any point the last time she kicked me. I still have at least one panic a day.

I can't imagine how much more difficult it must be for you too with having to take extra notice of them, your anxiety levels must be going through the roof. Remember we are here for you to rant moan worry to so you are not alone.

kayalana I am working on the assumption that I will get post natal depression. If I don't it will be a bonus. Even if it isn't actual post natal depression the emotions that will be swirling means we are planning on getting extra help with counselling etc.

ikkle87

Mishka hun I think it's natural to feel so apprehensive with everything that's going on, same with Kitten. Then when you find there is something which might not be a huge problem but isn't explained to you brilliantly it doesn't help and just makes you feel worse and puts your anxieties up. I would definitely keep talking to your midwife though and tell her how you feel. I complained about our consultant appointment to mine because I felt the consultant didn't give two hoots and didn't explain things to me she just made me feel crap and worry and my midwife was brilliant about it. I hope yours can help you xxx

ikkle87

My OH's friends are peeing me off!!! The one who just randomly turned up the other week then decided to annoy me with his ungratefulness etc text OH tonight saying can you ring me please, OH was in the middle of something so didn't ring him straight away so 5 minutes later he text me asking the same thing. OH phoned him and his friend has fallen out with the same person he fell out with last time he turned up so he thinks he wants to move away from Trow, OH asked where he was gonna go to and his mate said well I could move in with you for a bit mate. No you can't. Firstly you ask people if you can stay you don't just impose. Secondly I've only just got my house back since you last stayed and then my brother turned up. Thirdly I'm pregnant and due soon and I want it to be just me, OH and the baby not having to avoid my living room because you've taken over it, or having to be quiet because you need your rest etc. It's impractical and not happening, we need time to get used to making the permanent transition from 2 to 3.

Then OH's other friends message him on FB asking if we are going down to Trow this month, OH says no I'm not well enough to travel from Leeds to Trow. Can't she get a bus then she will be sat down? - Yeah cos 8 hours squashed on a tiny coach is really going to help me with my SPD, not to mention sleeping on FIL's sofa. Plus the next few weeks are busy with appointments and stuff, we've got scan on the 22nd, anethetist on the 29th, my b-day the 31st, then midwife on the 5th. Plus OH has work and can't just drop it. Think I'm turning into Shrek or something the attitude some of them are giving me.

Kitten_Pie

ikkle the friend sounds shockingly awful.

I hope your OH was a firm as you are about them staying, I wouldn't accept it not when LO is coming soon.

Taadaa

Hey all. Is it really wrong that I'm glad l'm not the only one feeling low and grumpy atm?

I've got SPD as well. I've been given a support band to wear that is only marginally better than the pain. Keeping my knees together when l turn over in bed helps a little. Going up the stairs one at a time ie put one foot then bring the other to the same step helps too. Am 29+5, been off work for the past week with it. My cimmute totals five hours a day..! And my lm is a !!!!!, that doesn't help.

I'm hoping it gets cooler at night, it's really hard to sleep when its warm and youve got an enormous hump strapped to your front!

Had a row with DH this eve. Something minor -my memory is so bad atm, so l asked him about it and after he got defensive, said l was making it seem weird, that upset me and l ended up having a bit of a rant..long stoey but the gist of it is l don't get on with his side of the family because they seem to think they should be a priority for him over me, and although it's better now as it was never addressed by him, l was always maxe tp feel in the wrong. The resentment built up and now l would rather not see them at all. Cue him thinking l'm having a dig if he sees them. Probably not helping that l've been snappy and l think he could be a bit more supportive. It's gis biethday 2m and he is sleeping in the spare room. Feel more annoyed now as yet again his family are getting between us.

Ha Ickle l know, some people have NO idea how tough being pregnant can be and make unrealistic demands. I blame celebs for making it look easy, it's not like they actually work...they have someone on speed dial for every task known to man

Kitten_Pie

Big hugs taadaa

Kayalana99

Thats horrible!!

Reminded me of similar problem with my sister she has a 4 year old daughter and wanted to leave her husband trouble was she wanted me to babysit 2-3mornings a week and 2-3 nights a week (so basicly 5 shifts) for free because her husband wouldn't be able to look after her (He would have to move in with his friend and little one couldnt sleep thier so he couldnt have her over night and he works day shifts)

So low behold im on maternity leave.... -.- My Mum could of looked after her some of the time but she has two kids as well, plus my Great nana is currently bed bound recently so my mum is looking after her two kids, a full time midwife job that works all shifts (morning,afternoon or night) and in what time she has left she is round my nans staying with her (they take shifts but she had enough on her plate as it was)

So basicly it was down to me... well I said I could do it for now but once my little one arrives I wasn't going to be able to (which I think was fair but same time I did want to help her but can't revolve my life around her kid )

Luckily they managed to work things out but I have a strong feeling she is only with him for convenice now....but I have no suggestions for her as she would lose everything if she left him without being able to find childcare from 5am-11pm which she wouldn't be able to afford. No one knew what advice to give her ...

I suppose I could of charged her but I will be back at work in 9months so it would of been temp and she'd be stuck again but I rather have the time with my new baby then the money for looking after her.... + she drives me up the wall!! Daddy does it this way ...mummy does it this way...suppose thats just kids lol

rjh090384

Why am I still awake? Came to bed at half ten cos was feeling pooped. Have since had sex , been to toilet four times, had a ham
Sandwich, take. Some paracetamol and I'm still awake.


My hands feel swollen and achy as do my legs and baby is kicking like mad. I wanna sleep!!!!

ferrety

Morning,

((Huge Hugs)) for Everyone seems it was a worrying, painful and stressful time for alot of you yesterday, I hope you can relax a little and have a better day today.

I need to take the cat to the vet today for his steroid top up and thats it resting and sleeping might be on the list for the rest of the day.

Labour vibes to all who need them x