MSE Pregnancy Club 25

rjh090384

i know student!! why the hell am i still here lol and how - big giant head been giving me cervix pain today lol yuk yuk sitting on my ball bouncing - hope i dont drop laptop lol

yeah the only problem about heath is that there is no signal anywhere!! my oh says you neednt think im updating your bloody forum lol im hoping bubs is gonna come soon having a lot of bh today

Kayalana99

Hiya,

First time posting here but I have only 11 days till due date and I am over whelming myself with worry but...I guess everyone gets like this near DD!!!

First time mum, really worried about labour going wrong I guess the worse thing for me is having to stay over night without OH if I end up having a c-section otherwise I am having him and going home!!

Was getting freq BH and movement/pain low down last week so I felt so sure he was going to be early but nothing now. He dropped about 3 days ago but is still bobbing up and down annoyingly...not sure if thats normal.

Tbh I have had the end of my pregnacy really easy compared to alot of you but I had it really hard the first 5months...constant sickness literally 8 times a day to start with so I guess I had my fair share -.-

Really worried about post natal depression as I have been on the pill in the past and it was HORRIBLE. I decided life was not worth living, camped out in my bed for 2 weeks and was so nasty to everyone. As soon as I got off it I was back to myself and couldn't belive what I was thinking/doing and its so hard to belive this little pill could do this!!! Really hope I don't get it anyway....

Also slightly worried about breast feeding as I know I will have constant vistors for a while and I know alot of you will just tell me to stuff them and feed the baby but I am just not that kind of person to get my boobs out ! So I guess I will be taking little one upstairs or something.... ? Anyone else have this problem?

Thanks everyone and good look with all the little ones xxx

sexymouse

Kayalana - you could try telling people you're having a babymoon (lock-in where you don't see anyone for a set time period) - that's what we've done - 2 weeks including family. Also, you could try going to people rather than letting them come to you, that way, you can leave if you need to feed/if you're getting tired. Best of luck - I'm sure I'll be just as nervous when I get that close. Have you tried talking through any worries you have with your midwife? Writing my birth plan (even if it doesn't get stuck to completely) helped me, as I knew that my wishes were in writing.

Kayalana99

Thing is I don't want to stop people from coming round as I will appreicate the help off my Mum (Midwife ) and MIL (2B) is really lovely and although she has 2 younger kids of her own I know she is going to want to be around as much as poss.

I have thought about going round other peoples houses instead of them coming here I suppose its so hard to know what its going to be like once he is here!! I might be kicking them all out the door lol :-)


I havn't and am not going to do a birth plan...maybe its stupid of me I don't know but my plan is to go in and have as little meds as possible, only having it if I really NEED it and get out asap!!

My midwife is really nice but I don't see her alot (next app is on 20th 4 days before due) and she looks after me but I don't really have a strong relationship with her to talk about these things. OH is strong minded and his answar to everything is to kick them out and take it as it comes..So he is postive but does not really make me feel better lol

mishkanorman

thanks for the kind words :A bit of a moany post coming up, be warned.


I hope its just that im getting near the end, I am so uncomfortable physically - yesterdays trip really didnt help and now even walking across the room is too painful. I cant reach anything and getting fed up of feeling so dependent on OH to do everything,

There are so many things going on at the moment, Lmm our son has been referred (thanks for remembering) but that may take another month or so and It doesnt worry me, he is healthy and a happy little boy anything else is minor in my books,

katy-liz, the growth is a factor, had my 34 weeks midwife appt today and she stressed again how important it is to watch his movements - which freaks me a little (lot) I dread going to sleep as when I wake up there is always that awful wait till he moves, sometimes i wake up and im convinced he has gone

I feel ok in myself (im happy, not crying or weepy) but finding im snapping more and more and my tolerance is definately gone, its also coming up for the year anniversary since our trauma of last year (terminating due to abnormalities) which i dont think ive even faced and i still need to grieve for - sometimes it feels like that pregnancy didnt end and ive just had a year long pregnancy

hopefully its just an off day or so, anyway thanks for listening :A

rjh090384

awe mishka - hope u ok hun it sucks being uncomfortable especially when u have other little ones to look after and also with the anniversary coming up - just keep focussed on this little one and hte lovely home you ahve made for him

moneypuddle

snowbean wrote: »

Moneypuddle were you at the antenatal class on Thursday at the hospital? I thought maybe I recognised you? Sorry to see you've been so worried about your swab results. I don't really know anything about strep b except what I've read on here, but it just seems so horrible for the receptionist to leave you hanging with no further information and to just leave you to panic. Hope you get to see someone about it soon, and that they can give you some reassurance.

I was! You should have said hi. Am back there this thursday morning to see someone about the Strep B and then again on thursday night for the second antenatal class. See you there! x

bellola

Gosh mishka it's hard enough being uncomfortable and miserable when it's just you to think about let alone when you have other kiddies. I hope you feel better soon.

I have terrible pain in my bits when I get up and move about. I have had it for weeks now and thought it was more SPD related rather than baby's positioning. First proper day of being a lady of leisure today, I think I could get used to it! I did wonder whether I had wasted the day a bit by chilling and eating cake but this is probably the only time in my life where I only have to think about me for a few weeks as next time I have maternity leave I will have other kiddies to look after. So I'm just going to enjoy myself!

bikelesschick

kayalana - welcome to the thread. I could have posted some of your worries myself I'm not keen at being at the hospital by myself either and I'm really not sure what I'm going to do with visitors. Like you, I appreciate the help so won't be stopping anyone from coming over but I'd like to think that people will understand that I need to bf the baby and disappear for a while (although I'll only do that if I really need to!). I'm thinking of getting either a large muslin or some sort of breastfeeding cover so I can still spend time with visitors whilst bf'ing baby. I remember going to a kid's party where a mum was bf'ing her baby in the middle of the crowd and it was so discreet and natural. No one really cared so may be worth considering?

mishka - I hope you're feeling better after venting out. It just sounds like there's a lot going on at the minute:( I hope you're right and it is just an off day but it may be worth mentioning to the mw as well. It doesn't sound like she appreciates how this talk about monitoring movements is affecting you. It may be worth you trying to see if there's any patterns when you 'snap', you may be able to prevent it if you know what's pushing your buttons.

KatyLiz

mishka the growth issue on its own is enough to make me feel down, so it must be so much worse for you with the anniversary coming up I've had the same stress put on movements, and it is really unnerving when you have to wait for that first kick. I've started to poke my bump as soon as I wake up to try and get a reaction. Hugs and I hope tomorrow is a better day.