MSE Pregnancy Club 25

claretsgirl

dundeediva, thank you. I am just a bit sensitive to my existing children feeling a bit put out. They have been through an awful lot in the last few years and the eldest one especially is VERY insecure.

neneromanova

Can you not ask your children if they'd like to change their last name to your new partners name?

chonorla

claretsgirl - My eldest has my maiden name as I was never married to his dad and he has never seen or had any contact with DS for a number of reasons.

My youngest 2 have my husbands name, as do I. We were not married when we had DD but I still gave her, DH's surname - like you dundeediva it never crossed my mind not too as we were engaged to be married. Just in case you were not aware (as I was not ) - when you do get married, babys original birth certificate will become invalid (as it has your maiden name on) and you will have to apply for a new one.

Have asked eldest DS if he would like his surname changing so he is the same as the rest of us, but it really does not bother him at all. And he knows I will change it at any time if he wants me to.

I am not a fan of the double barreled surnames purely because when/if circumstances change it can make for a very messy named household. My cousin started doing the double barreled names after her divorce and going onto having a baby with a new partner, they now all have completely different surnames and she said it can be a nightmare when doing passports etc :eek:

claretsgirl

Oh no, neneromanova. They would never do that. I dont think I would really expect them to either and I really dont think their dad would agree to that. Lol. I did suggest they could change it to mine but they seem to want to stick to what it is (unfortunately, because he has gone out of his way to make my life hell since the day he walked out on us).

snozberry

Hi everyone, I can't believe that I have graduated to this thread as it only seems like yesterday when we found out that we are expecting.

I am 24+2 weeks and my little boy is due to be born on June 3rd. This is our first baby and we are older parents. I can't wait to meet my little treasure pie

We haven't agreed on his first name as we want to meet him first and see what he suits. We have a few ideas though. Baby is having my OH's surname. We are engaged anyway so it makes sense for him not to have mine.

IHateDida

chonorla wrote: »

I am not a fan of the double barreled surnames purely because when/if circumstances change it can make for a very messy named household. My cousin started doing the double barreled names after her divorce and going onto having a baby with a new partner, they now all have completely different surnames and she said it can be a nightmare when doing passports etc :eek:

I am keeping my surname regardless of if I marry - no way on this planet would I ever take someone elses surname (I also hate all the Miss vs Ms Vs Mrs business when blokes just keep Mr!).

I have of course asked OH if he would take my surname on......he declined!:D

claretsgirl

IHateDida, it's a minefield isn't it? I guess it's a case of you can't please everyone. No matter what I choose someone will be brassed off. I know names can be changed at any time (deed poll) but I think once a child gets used to a certain name it would be a little unfair to change it. Aargh!!!

pigpen

claretsgirl wrote: »

Good afternoon girlies!
Hope everyone is doing well and many congratulations to the new mums. I'm feeling much better at the moment but will probably have a dip when I have to go to my friday hospital appointment alone again. Never mind. I should be grateful that the hospital is lovely and only within a stones throw from my house. The only trouble is that they only take straight forward cases so if there is any cause for concern the next hospital is fifteen miles away and much busier. Hopefully things will be ok for me. I'd like to be able to come home as soon as possible.
Can I ask you ladies a question? I didn't really want to start a whole new thread about it, but I'm wondering what everyone is doing about names. Not first names but surnames.
I have two children with their dads surname, my partner (we are not married) has two children with his surname (he doesnt get to see them very often, although they are very close and in contact every day), I went back to my maiden name following my divorce three years ago. Now what surname to give our baby. My eldest girl thinks it should have my surname, as if it has my partners surname she feels it seems more like his existing childrens sibling than hers. It's so complicated. I dont know what to do for the best.

My 2 littlies have my surname AND OH's.. bit of a mouthful if we get married I'd change them both to his.. I thought that it might 'persuade' him to ask but no.. of course not..

snozberry

IHateDida wrote: »

I am keeping my surname regardless of if I marry - no way on this planet would I ever take someone elses surname (I also hate all the Miss vs Ms Vs Mrs business when blokes just keep Mr!).

I have of course asked OH if he would take my surname on......he declined!:D

lol I asked my OH the same question and he didn't like it either.

Oooohhh don't get me started on 'Ms'. Oh they make me think of shrivelled up old prunes. Much nicer being a Miss.

neneromanova

I've added you on Snozberry