He has left me...

raven83

Could it be that he is having a mid life crisis?

piglet74

were you happy?

did you really not see this coming at all, was there no hints at all?

VestanPance

Really sorry to hear your news.

From what you've posted so far I wouldn't be surprised if there is someone else involved. You've had a long relationship and he's ditching that out the blue with no real reason given, or discussion on how to save your relationship. It may be something as simple as him having a crush on someone else and now thinking he'd rather be single, but if I was a betting man I'd certainly be placing my money on something like that or worse.

Tiddlywinks

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

another charmer, let him go you are better off without him

I hope you're joking... this is someone's lfe, not a soap opera.

What has he done wrong? Feelings change and he has told the OP that he wants to leave - we don't know anymore than that at the moment.

scooby088

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

I hope you're joking... this is someone's lfe, not a soap opera.

What has he done wrong? Feelings change and he has told the OP that he wants to leave - we don't know anymore than that at the moment.

Why? this suggestion is the norm no one ever says lets talk about it, got no advice for OP as I don't know what to say but all I can do is give you my best wishes.

pearl123

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

another charmer, let him go you are better off without him

Are you kidding?

pimento

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

another charmer, let him go you are better off without him

With seventeen years and two children invested in the relationship I think that advice is a bit premature.

Gigglepig

It may be that it is premature to say this man is "not worth it", but some people are prone to react that way when they hear he walked out on his sick wife of 17 years and 2 kids with no notice whatsoever and no intention to try for counselling... !

OP, I hope he comes to his senses soon and that you can try marriage counselling or perhaps medical help if he is depressed or there are other underlying issues.

You should be proud of yourself if you manage to keep being kind and civil, and not to stoop to his level. (Easier said than done, since you will probably feel furious once you are past the initial shock and grief).

Dexters_Indignation

pimento wrote: »

With seventeen years and two children invested in the relationship I think that advice is a bit premature.

Correct.


There is nothing anyone on here can really say...

We can give support, but we can not magic the situation back to those happy times.

I only wish we could.

Its awful to say but this will get worse before it gets better.

All those nights when you wont have someone to hold and all those mornings you will not awake in his arms. Those times will be hard! Very Hard.

I usually resort to humor but in this instance I will refrain, maybe later.

It is going to be strange and a new "interesting adventure" though not one you wanted or asked for.

I just hope there are those who can help you light the way.

Though remember this, it is your adventure and any advice is only so in the eye of the giver.

Keep Going.

I_wanna_live_for_free

Sending you many hugs and positive thoughts. xx