Step brothers and sisters sharing a room

Poppy9

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

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Yes but then they might have another problem 9 months later;)

if it's a girl they qualify for 3 bed HA property and problem solved!
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kj*daisy

Definately try and arrange so she stays with you rather than at grandmas with her dad, when she comes to visit she is coming to be part of your family. I would let her have your room, maybe get her her own duvet cover for when she's using your bed and some space in one of your cupboards for her things so she still feels like its her space as well. And you get a sofa bed for the living room for you and DH. OR if you have TV and stuff in your room, go for her having a bed in then living room. BUT it sounds like mum might object to a camp bed in the living room, whereas her using your room really shouldn't be a problem.

Edit to add - noticed she has her own duvet cover already, so she could have that set up on your bed when she stays as her bed.

KateBob

No advice, sorry.

But I just had to say how lovely the OP's son and step-daughter seem, at 8 they have come up with a way to share a bedroom so they both feel special (top bunk sharing, sweet).

Regarding the debate about 8 year olds sexuality, I have a 10yo with no bodily development or interest in boys but my cousins 8yo is obviously developing already (everyone is different and so is our experience)

jellyhead

I was 'experimenting' by the age of 8 (my mum never found out). As has been said it's harmless, but the girl's mum probably wouldn't see it that way.

Is your room small DKAM? I seem to remember a thread about fitting a double bed in If there isn't room for her to sleep in your room with you then perhaps she could sleep in your room while you and OH sleep downstairs? I don't know if her mum would want her sleeping downstairs on her own, as she'd be the first person an intruder would come across (we had this discussion when our 9 year old wanted the new room we were building downstairs to be his bedroom, whereas we'd planned for it to be the bathroom and for the upstairs bathroom to be turned into a bedroom for him).

raven83

I have to say, i am quite shocked reading this thread, FGS they are 8 years old!!!!! I could understand if it was 10/11 year olds sharing being a problem but 8 seriously? And to say about puberty will still be starting, most girls start about 11 so that is 3 years till then. Yes kids do "experiment" in fact most children do but it is actually quite "normal" and not necessarily with the opposite sex! My DD1 is 9 and up until last year used to have sleep overs at my friends house who has 2 boys one a year older and one the same age, they would all get in bed together or sleep in a den they had made in the bedroom, i didn't feel incomfortable with it and DD loved it.

I can understand if the child is starting puberty very early then no, i wouldn't like them to share with a boy, but like i said, most 8 year olds aren't near that stage. OP i don't see a problem with it, maybe recess the situation in a years time but tbh at the moment i don't see much of a problem.

FatVonD

I_wanna_live_for_free wrote: »

Sadly I have to agree. If the children were related then it would be OK for a temporary period due to their ages, while better sleeping arrangements were made but as they're not, it is not suitable.

Seriously? Do you think nobody has ever been abused by a sibling?

For what it's worth my DS is 14 and my DSD 13 and they shared a room at Butlins a few weeks ago. They both got changed in the bathroom and climbed into their separate beds. I can't believe how people are overreacting to the idea of step siblings sharing.

Children may experiment but I recall doing my experimenting down the side return of the house/garden in broad daylight.

Blackpool_Saver

If it was my child I would not allow it. Kids these days know far too much and are very advanced at 8

GobbledyGook

I don't think kids these days know half as much as people seem to think.

I think that a small minority of kids these days are more advanced and know far too much, but in general most 8 year olds are still just 8 year olds.

Sadly, like many things it's the minority that are spoken about the most therefore people assume it's now "most" who are like that.

esmerelda98

jellyhead wrote: »

I was 'experimenting' by the age of 8 (my mum never found out). As has been said it's harmless, but the girl's mum probably wouldn't see it that way.

Is your room small DKAM? I seem to remember a thread about fitting a double bed in If there isn't room for her to sleep in your room with you then perhaps she could sleep in your room while you and OH sleep downstairs? I don't know if her mum would want her sleeping downstairs on her own, as she'd be the first person an intruder would come across (we had this discussion when our 9 year old wanted the new room we were building downstairs to be his bedroom, whereas we'd planned for it to be the bathroom and for the upstairs bathroom to be turned into a bedroom for him).

I remember that thread, which is fairly recent, but didn't connect it to this OP. If it was my daughter I would have said no anyway, for a variety of reasons. Recollecting that thread however, the answer would definitely be no. They are hardly step-brother and step-sister, are they?

I_wanna_live_for_free

FatVonD wrote: »

Seriously? Do you think nobody has ever been abused by a sibling?

For what it's worth my DS is 14 and my DSD 13 and they shared a room at Butlins a few weeks ago. They both got changed in the bathroom and climbed into their separate beds. I can't believe how people are overreacting to the idea of step siblings sharing.

Children may experiment but I recall doing my experimenting down the side return of the house/garden in broad daylight.

No, I did not say that. The crux of the matter IS that the girl's mother dislikes the arrangements. And so an alternative must be found.

And as you say, YOU did your experimenting in broad daylight. Not tucked up in bed with a sibling!