make do and mend for tougher times

littlecal

Thanks PAH,I'm feeling quite positive about it now,I think I had a wobble because it's all new and I'm not very good with change

Sunshine - you haven't done anything wrong,to expect you to shell out that kind of money is unfair,especially as you'd explained your circumstances.((((hugs))))

Byatt

Sunshine4 wrote: »

We have been invited to a cousins wedding in a few months, it is about 90 minutes drive away at a very posh hotel. The invitation which arrivied today states that they have made a pre booking for a room for us overnight with breakfast at ONLY 90 pounds.I havent even said we were going yet.
I have just added up the cost for the two of us to go including present, clothes, room, drinks, and travel well over 200.

So I rang her first to explain that as I had lost my job and I had to budget very carefully we could not accept the invite and could she cancel the room.
Well all hell broke out and she started screaming how could I do that too her I ended up hanging up.
Do you think I did the wrong thing, she made me feel really bad.:(

Oh Sunshine, bless your heart, how awful I have no intention of making excuses for her reaction, but hope she calls you back to apologise.

No, you did nothing wrong, nothing at all. You have been up front with her, that's an awful lot of money and I couldn't afford to go.

If she doesn't apologise I wouldn't even send a card. :A:A

I didn't go to a friend's hen night because I couldn't afford that and the wedding, and friend told another, "well, she won't have to pay for anything at the wedding!" :rotfl::rotfl:

uuuhhhmm, apart from a new outfit, had to, had nothing to wear to a wedding, then the drinks, travel, wedding gift...:rotfl:

SDG31000

Sunshine4 Have a dodgy hug :grouphug: You didn't do the wrong thing at all, your cousin is being a complete bridezilla and absolutely unreasonable. Your financial security is worth much more than she realises and she is in the wrong. I'd send a nice card and ignore any fallout.

Well done fuddle Congratulations :T

Yesterday I went on a spontaneous visit to my family as it's my birthday on Saturday and my sister's on Sunday. It turned into a nightmare journey. The rain was coming down in bucketfuls, then two bulbs went in the headlights so that was an hours delay at the services while DH worked out how to replace them. Then a traffic jam on the M6 didn't help. We got there late and my sister hadn't planned to fed us so we ended up at Frankie and Benny's for dinner to avoid rush hour on the M6. I fell asleep in the car and worked out when I got home that I had reacted to the calzone I had. I dosed myself up with anti-histamines and was dead to the world at 9pm. On the plus side I got cute nephew cuddles and rather a lot of tea bags as a birthday present :T

Today has been spent trying to clear some of the chaos and seeing DS2 off to school....one down and one to go until I get some peace and quiet and I'll be able to get organised again.

Time to feed everyone. Bye for now xxxx

Sunshine4

Thank you everyone feel better after your comments
There is going to be 200 at this wedding, so I am sure I wont be missed.

Possession We only had six at ours, it was our second wedding for both of us. So we had less than you. lol

Byatt

Sunshine4 wrote: »

Thank you everyone feel better after your comments
There is going to be 200 at this wedding, so I am sure I wont be missed.

Possession We only had six at ours, it was our second wedding for both of us. So we had less than you. lol

I only had immediate family at mine, it was a complete and utter bloody disaster. :eek: Next one, :eek::rotfl:I'm going to invite 500 strangers! :rotfl::p

short_bird

Sunshine4 wrote: »

Well all hell broke out and she started screaming how could I do that too her I ended up hanging up.
Do you think I did the wrong thing, she made me feel really bad.:(

You've done the right thing for you in your position.

Sunshine4

Byatt wrote: »

I only had immediate family at mine, it was a complete and utter bloody disaster. :eek: Next one, :eek::rotfl:I'm going to invite 500 strangers! :rotfl::p

I have just spilled my coffee over the keyboard:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

smileyt_2

It is nippy, isn't it? I noticed in a bag of carp I have been avoiding that there is a fleece blanket in there, so I shall be fishing that out and using it to line a curtain with. It's bright red, but so what?

Sunshine, you could stay at my house for a week for less than £90 and have breakfast all week too for that price! I think it was wrong of her to assume you could afford that. No-one I know could afford that at the drop of a hat. Could you see if there is one of the travel lodge offers on and get a room for much less, if you still want to go?

Pops even if you could move to a 2-bed house that would reduce the amount of BT you would have to pay from 25% of your rent to 14%. Are there no sheltered accommodation places near you? A friend of mine moved from his 2-bed terrace to a studio flat in a sheltered housing scheme and he said it's the best thing he had ever done as he is now always warm, doesn't struggle with stairs, can manage his cleaning better, and has lots of people around him - if he's feeling lonely he pops down to the communal lounge for a chat. A lot of these places will take people in their 50's, you don't have to be a pensioner. It could be worth a look.

I'll be hit by the bedroom tax too. I have to stay where I am because getting a one-bed flat that will take two dogs will be difficult. Plus if I moved I wouldn't be able to do my supported lodging. Apparently there are no exceptions for people who do fostering or supported lodgings, which is silly in my opinion as some people will be looking to move into one-bed places so 'the system' will lose some of its carers, who are much in demand. Joined-up thinking - not. I have to have a break of several months between each person to recover, and even if I didn't feel as if I needed that (which I most definitely do!), the charity wouldn't let me take anyone without a break first.

I'd better feed the dogs and get a move on. I'm going on a bat walk with a local nature group, oh I do live the high life lol! The woman leading it has an ultrasound (?) bat squeak identifier so we should hopefully hear some squeaks and chirrups from our little winged friends.

Byatt

Sunshine4 wrote: »

I have just spilled my coffee over the keyboard:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Spilt or spat? :rotfl::rotfl:

fuddle

The new houses for HA rent are on the website today pops.

I too was under the impression that you lived in a two bedroom home. That's an awful lot of your money wasted to stay in a house that could house a family. Smaller properties may be difficult to come by but getting a council house for a family is damn hard too... and I have tried.