make do and mend for tougher times

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HEY fuddle - who's a clever Fuddle then? Well done on your new job I'm so pleased for you.

POPS - It wouldn't do any harm to have a look and see what the different types of housing available in your area are like. Just look, don't try to make any kind of decision, and you might just find somewhere that would suit you very well and give you a new beginning, and start you back on the road to being content again?

Hello to anyone who has joined us in the playground lately, come on in, the water's fine!!!!!

Cheers Lyn x.

Sunshine4

We have been invited to a cousins wedding in a few months, it is about 90 minutes drive away at a very posh hotel. The invitation which arrivied today states that they have made a pre booking for a room for us overnight with breakfast at ONLY 90 pounds.I havent even said we were going yet.
I have just added up the cost for the two of us to go including present, clothes, room, drinks, and travel well over 200.

So I rang her first to explain that as I had lost my job and I had to budget very carefully we could not accept the invite and could she cancel the room.
Well all hell broke out and she started screaming how could I do that too her I ended up hanging up.
Do you think I did the wrong thing, she made me feel really bad.:(

VJsmum

Congrats, Fuddle :T
You are good, Fayhare, my MIL is coming tomorrow and i simply don't have time to make the place decent. in a sec I am going to re hygiene the kitchen and bathroom and she'll have to take the rest as she finds it.

Ohhhhh emmmmmm geeeeeee

I have just been to the big chinese supermarket in Birmingham. It is uh may zing. Stuff is so cheap - I could have filled a freezer with fish but unfortunately the freezer is already full. Bought a big pot of frozen garlic cloves for £1. Big bottle of soy sauce, some stir fry sauces, some egg fried rice, some peas and corn, a big bottle of sunflower oil, loads of big packs of spices, big pack of noodles, chinese rice wine. and spent £18. When I have emptied freezers a bit, I shall return. I did pass on the pig's uterus though - even though it was microwavable._pale_

prepareathome

Fuddle, now I can say Congratulations, well done you, oh its nice when someone you know has good things happen, wonderful.

GQ do you know I completely forgot about me requesting it and so have they, not heard a dicky bird since the phone call asking me why.....will phone them first thing, and never did anything about door either this week.......am hoping that the woman coming next week about the storecupboarding can maybe pull some strings but not holding my breath.

Littlecal forgot to say anther plus with hot air CH is no cold spots, the heat goes into every little corner, much better than radiators for that.

Right don't know what is up with me but so tired past couple of hours and not done much as usual today, so going to go and brush my toofy pegs and climb into bed.

We have had sunshine and heavy showers today and mini heatwave and dry weather they were predicting for next few days is now changed to cool and wet:p to nature. Can see me not getting to use Barbecue till winter when its drier nowadays.

Night night

Hugs and Love to allxxxx

Molly41

Popperwell wrote: »

It has been mentioned but thank you for understanding the difficulty I am in...it would be tough but if income says similar I probably could stay put and absorb the costs but I dislike it being spent on what it would be...so chances are I will be looking to relocate...wish I could win the lottery, don't we all...

Then again Mum's savings could mean I could stay put for nearly two years but it would be awful seeing it not being put to better use...

Im sorry but what better use than to pay for a roof over your head:(

meme30

Fuddle:- Well done you great news!:j

Sunshine:- You were right to phone her. I think it's awful that she presumed to spend your money before even asking you. :eek: Give it a couple of days and you may find she has calmed down and will have a more sensible head on. Weddings are stressful and brides do get a bit 'het up' but you have the right to say no to staying over especially when it's not that far away.

VJsmum

Sunshine4 wrote: »

So I rang her first to explain that as I had lost my job and I had to budget very carefully we could not accept the invite and could she cancel the room.
Well all hell broke out and she started screaming how could I do that too her I ended up hanging up.
Do you think I did the wrong thing, she made me feel really bad.:(

WHAT???????? !!!!!!?? Selfish cow!

Sorry, I know she's a relative but that makes my blood boil.

You did nothing wrong - she did.

Kittikins

Sunshine - your friend is being a bridezilla, if you have no job then its outrageous of her to expect you to lay out lots of money to go to her wedding. Heck, £90 for a room is a lot of money even if you have a great job. Hopefully she'll calm down and call you back and be nice - or else!

Byatt

Popperwell wrote: »

It has been mentioned but thank you for understanding the difficulty I am in...it would be tough but if income says similar I probably could stay put and absorb the costs but I dislike it being spent on what it would be...so chances are I will be looking to relocate...wish I could win the lottery, don't we all...

Then again Mum's savings could mean I could stay put for nearly two years but it would be awful seeing it not being put to better use...

I must have missed the mentioning before on here. I do understand the diffculties of life... and the difficult choices that have to made, usually with a wing and a prayer in the hope it's the right one, which we never know until it's done.

I don't think anyone enjoys spending their income on day to day living costs, I had to spend what equity I had from my house on living, and didn't get benefits until that was reduced and eventually gone. And what better use could your mother's savings be used for than to keep you in your own home if that is what you want.

You have some choices to make which may be difficult for you but you are in the fortunate position you can wait for a while to make those choices.

I agree there are areas and housing estates that may not be perfect, but when you have unstable income and resources, choices become much more limited. Tough as that is, that has to be faced and made the best of. If I was lucky enough to be offered social housing I would have to be prepared to live in some places I would not normally choose. I have to weigh up what I want, which is mostly security as private renting you don't get that, and a cheaper rent. The cons would be, well personal to me...

If you have a 3 bed house with garage as a single person, and that is the choice you make if you decide to stay there, then the money you are using is for living in a place you have lived most/all of your life, in an area you prefer and people you know. You can't expect not to pay a BT in this situation IMHO. If you want a better quality of life measured in other ways then a decision to move somewhere smaller may be your only other option. You need to decide what you want to spend your money on and accept that it will probably be spent on boring, annoying things like rent and utilities.

Possession

I agree completely Sunshine, it's her that's out of order. We had kind of the opposite, we only had 16 people at our wedding so we had to write letters to family saying how we were keeping it so small and hoped they understood - luckily nobody screamed at us.

Well done Fuddle!!
Welcome Peony!
I'm aghast at the Sainsbugs teabags news, particularly since I was planning to buy some more on saturday. ho hum.
DH has an interview tomorrow so is trying to prep for it but its for a job completely out of his field and he doesn't even know why he got called for interview so its a bit hard.
Turned very cold here. luckily the velcro turned up so I have done the duvet quickly so DS should be warm in bed. I shall tackle sewing tasks later! (coward!)