teenage daughter to get no money plz help

mazza111

Dunroamin wrote: »

Most employers offering apprenticeships want young people who've done a year's vocational course at college. This ensures some basic technical skills and weeds out those who aren't motivated. Very few employers recruit 16 year old school leavers.

But those vocational courses are filled before they are started too unfortunately. Our local college has about a year of a wait to get on to such courses. So the kids are waiting and waiting and waiting. If you see what I mean. So my lad had the chance to stay at school for a year, or go to a training placement, while waiting for the vocational places in college. Providing he doesn't get an apprenticeship in the meantime.

I do agree with you all that the OP came across as just wanting money from the state. However, there may be some other mother who finds theirselves in this situation and comes across this thread, hence why we should stick to advice rather than criticism

thebull

Pink Princess I thought a person had to posses a Non-judgemental attitude whilst fostering children ?
You appear to judge everyone .

kerrypn

Just as an example of what OPs daughter could do-

My friend was 19 when she found out she was pregnant, she had left school at 16 with 10 gcses and then got an office job.When she found out she was expecting She enrolled herself on an access course, finished that then applied to uni for midwifery. The "dad" wanted nothing to do with the baby-she organised nursery around college then uni and qualified 4 years ago now. She bought her own house 2 years ago, is now married with another baby Dead proud of her

Compare this to my OH niece. Got pregnant at 16, no GCSEs, walked out of her mums house and declared herself homeless, even though she wasnt :mad: got given a council house and all the benefits and hasnt worked a day since or done anything, I personally put my neck on the line to get father of the baby a job, which he did 6 hours of and declared he didnt want to work. And didnt work again. He left her and now LO is getting to the age she will be expected to job hunt she is in the process of trying for a baby :mad:

That makes me so mad-and these are the options facing OPs daughter-I truly hope she takes option 1

Dunroamin

thebull wrote: »

Pink Princess I thought a person had to posses a Non-judgemental attitude whilst fostering children ?
You appear to judge everyone .

MSE is not real life.

skintmacflint

mazza111 wrote: »

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My son has left school as I said, not very academic, but good with his hands. For some reason, wants to become a plumber/heating engineer. But do you think he can get a start? He's written to loads of companies and only 2 have had the decency to reply. One was a refusal, one was we'll send you an application that never arrived. We're still waiting, and emailing them back and forward. And he's not pregnant

Your son has made a good choice and hope he gets his chance. It is really hard out there. When I was young, trades and apprenticeships were plentiful.

I volunteer in a Youth Centre and one of our more wayward lads has just got himself enrolled on an apprentice plumber course for the Autumn. Does your council have an apprentice ship partnership with local businesses?

Recently read an article on how 2 female lawyers packed it in , trained as plumbers and started a business together. It's doing really well and they love it.:)

mazza111

skintmacflint wrote: »

I volunteer in a Youth Centre and one of our more wayward lads has just got himself enrolled on an apprentice plumber course for the Autumn. Does your council have an apprentice ship partnership with local businesses?

Recently read an article on how 2 female lawyers packed it in , trained as plumbers and started a business together. It's doing really well and they love it.:)

No they don't, but hopefully now he's on this training course, they can help him get the confidence and the attitude that he needs. The council will pay the first year of apprenticeships up here in certain circumstances. Funnily enough though, it was the company that does the local council's heating servicing that did reply to his email. We'll keep emailing and sending CVs and hopefully he'll get a start

Sorry for the late reply, I tried to reply yesterday but the topic was locked again ...

duchesspink1

if your daughter is 16, is her father still around and does he contribute towards her keep?

where does the father of the baby and his family fit into all of this?

I agree that instead of looking for benefits, that she's given guidance to go to college, get an education and put that towards her future.

SmartPricePoster

You can recognise having sex = potential baby without using contraception.

scootw1

there seems to be this thing these days about having sex as early in your life as possible. Parents should be teaching their kids to stay away from it until they are adult otherwise face the consequences with them afterwards

mikey_bach

I also wonder if its wrong that the goverment seems in a way to pay single mothers or lone parent to have more children.
They award each week iro of £90 for each new baby,
a mother on with four children can get about £600 per week including CHB HB CTC and I.S, plus benefits, school meals dentist etc
Is the goverment to blame then, is it encouraging single young girls to go down the route.
And what can be done if anything

And will universal credit stop it or make the situation worse?