I'm feeling sensitive and need to let it out - pregnancy

mishkanorman

I weigh the same as the OP (now) but im only 5ft 2, I was weighed at booking in and not since, no-one has mentioned my weight at all and im now 30 weeks ?


With my first I put on nigh on 5 and a half stone and didnt have any discussions of added danger or complications !

Im under consultant led care but for other reasons this time but wasnt for my last 2 pregnancies when I weighed more ?

poppy10_2

shellsuit wrote: »

How rude! How do you know whether she's a size 14 or not?!

Because of this:

noodles86 wrote: »

I am 5'6 and weigh 86kg

She might be 14 in Primark chav sizes but not in the real world.

jumpingjackd

poppy10 wrote: »

Because of this:



She might be 14 in Primark chav sizes but not in the real world.

You are extremely rude and condescending!

thatgirlsam

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

No I don't at all, trust me I know a lot about pregnancy and complications...

I recently had my 4th C-Section,
It may well be a risk but she's also now distressed which will more than likely affect her stress levels/bp this won't help her heart..

I never said they shouldn't discuss it, but at a size 14 I don't agree she's obese...
Her mental health is just as important as her weight if not more so..
I'm sure soon when the Summer hits and she's blooming it will drop off...

To be fair you know a lot about YOUR pregnancy and it's complications. Midwives know a lot about all different types of pregnancy. You agree with me that it should be discussed, so I think we are actually saying the same thing at the end of the day!

j.e.j.

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Her mental health is just as important as her weight if not more so..

This is true, and I think it goes for everybody, not only pregnant women.

jumpingjackd

j.e.j. wrote: »

This is true, and I think it goes for everybody, not only pregnant women.

Weight is an extremely emotive issue for a lot of women, myself included, and someone that has never had an issue with their weight, pregnant or not cannot possibly comment on this. Statistics do not give the full picture.

Not everyone eats for Britain when they are pregnant or not and still end up overweight and telling them that "you only get fat because you eat too much" is not helping!


To tell a pregnant woman not to put weight on I personally feel is comprising the health of the baby , considering it will weigh on average around 8lbs and the placenta and water weight and extra blood could be quite dangerous.

Ellejmorgan and j.e.j. are right this could be very damaging for the mental health issue

isthistrue

OP - ignore it all! as long as you are generally healthy and happy in yourself, I am sure that you will have a normal pregnancy and birth. I am overweight - obese I am sure - and have had 3 children, all spontaneous deliveries without complication. I saw the consultant once at week 12 of each pregnancy and got told to disappear unless I felt unwell at all. I also had the glucose test each time which came back perfectly fine - my midwife made a joke with me when I expressed concern that I could have a difficult pregnancy/birth as a result of my weight that at least with me she didn't have to worry about me eating and that not eating as a result of feeling 'fat' during pregnancy is a rising problem (too much celebrity-worshipping and needing to do be a size 0) amongst women and can obviously impact on the health of the baby.

Aim to eat well, get your 5 a day in and enjoy the odd treat without worrying about it. Prepare yourself well for the birth so that you know what's going to happen as your own distress can play a huge part in difficult labours. I feel quite sure you will be fine and deliver a healthy, happy baby without any difficulty.

shellsuit

isthistrue wrote: »

OP - ignore it all! as long as you are generally healthy and happy in yourself, I am sure that you will have a normal pregnancy and birth. I am overweight - obese I am sure - and have had 3 children, all spontaneous deliveries without complication. I saw the consultant once at week 12 of each pregnancy and got told to disappear unless I felt unwell at all. I also had the glucose test each time which came back perfectly fine - my midwife made a joke with me when I expressed concern that I could have a difficult pregnancy/birth as a result of my weight that at least with me she didn't have to worry about me eating and that not eating as a result of feeling 'fat' during pregnancy is a rising problem (too much celebrity-worshipping and needing to do be a size 0) amongst women and can obviously impact on the health of the baby.

Aim to eat well, get your 5 a day in and enjoy the odd treat without worrying about it. Prepare yourself well for the birth so that you know what's going to happen as your own distress can play a huge part in difficult labours. I feel quite sure you will be fine and deliver a healthy, happy baby without any difficulty.

Just because you had 3 decent pregnancies and births (which I have myself) doesn't mean everyone will.

thatgirlsam

jumpingjackd wrote: »

Weight is an extremely emotive issue for a lot of women, myself included, and someone that has never had an issue with their weight, pregnant or not cannot possibly comment on this. Statistics do not give the full picture.

Not everyone eats for Britain when they are pregnant or not and still end up overweight and telling them that "you only get fat because you eat too much" is not helping!


To tell a pregnant woman not to put weight on I personally feel is comprising the health of the baby , considering it will weigh on average around 8lbs and the placenta and water weight and extra blood could be quite dangerous.

Ellejmorgan and j.e.j. are right this could be very damaging for the mental health issue

It's not a case of telling women not to put on weight. It's a case of making women aware in the potential complications that could come about. Otherwise what is the point in midwifery care at all? The main concern is to keep Mum and baby safe!

And this means giving information, however uncomfortable that might be. Do you really think that women should be un-informed about what is happening or could be happening in their pregnancy??

thatgirlsam

shellsuit wrote: »

Just because you had 3 decent pregnancies and births (which I have myself) doesn't mean everyone will.

Absolutley! I do wish women who say that sort of thing would come and work in a maternity unit. Their eyes would soon be opened