School Prom vent....

claire4ricky

Also this quote from Amy Powell, 16, Essex, got me cross :mad:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2165688/Tans-tears-tiaras-Forget-humble-discos--todays-school-leavers-celebrate-U-S-style-proms-1-500-ballgowns-rigueur.html#comments

"Last year, when girls in the year above had their prom, we were on Facebook all the next day discussing the outfits we liked and which ones we didn’t."

I can just imagine the snipping at other girls and the bullying about their so called not up to par dresses

claire4ricky

Taadaa wrote: »

The media are constantly exposing our children to the concept of what the ideal woman should be, and an airheaded plastic doll with no brains and voice just about sums it up.

Proms are supposed to signify the end of their school days and to celebrate their new freedom of choice. Instead it's become a way of parading in front of the world that 15 and 16 year olds can also live up to the Barbie ideals held up by the media. Then those girls that are 'normal' are made to feel inferior and intimidated. Because normal isn't good enough.

If you want to be in the club, you have to be slim, tanned, have bright white teeth and long hair, preferably blonde, and have the latest 'must have' bag. And if you are under the age of 24 and have big tits, the world is your oyster. All you have to do is bag yourself a footballer and you are made for life.

I seriously worry for kids these days. It's not just girls either, the media are increasingly picking up on the 'male ideal' as well. Their parents spend a ridiculous amount of money on them, don't teach them the value of earning, just give in because they don't want them to stand out, then can't understand why their child has an over inflated sense of entitlement.

Very well said. :T:T:T

looby75

Taadaa wrote: »

The media are constantly exposing our children to the concept of what the ideal woman should be, and an airheaded plastic doll with no brains and voice just about sums it up.

Proms are supposed to signify the end of their school days and to celebrate their new freedom of choice. Instead it's become a way of parading in front of the world that 15 and 16 year olds can also live up to the Barbie ideals held up by the media. Then those girls that are 'normal' are made to feel inferior and intimidated. Because normal isn't good enough.

If you want to be in the club, you have to be slim, tanned, have bright white teeth and long hair, preferably blonde, and have the latest 'must have' bag. And if you are under the age of 24 and have big tits, the world is your oyster. All you have to do is bag yourself a footballer and you are made for life.

I seriously worry for kids these days. It's not just girls either, the media are increasingly picking up on the 'male ideal' as well. Their parents spend a ridiculous amount of money on them, don't teach them the value of earning, just give in because they don't want them to stand out, then can't understand why their child has an over inflated sense of entitlement.

while there are some teenagers like that I think you do kids a bit of a disservice to say they are all like that.

What you describe is my daughters idea of hell and all of her friends agree. They laugh at the wannabe wags, have plans to go to uni and get good careers. I would say in my daughters year there are more girls (and lads) with that attitude than the ones who think they are going to have the world handed to them on a plate.



thats my daughters prom group from 3 years ago. Out of the whole group only 2 aren't at uni right now, my daughter and one other. My daughter starts uni this September the other lass is doing a business apprenticeship.

daisiegg

looby75 wrote: »

while there are some teenagers like that I think you do kids a bit of a disservice to say they are all like that.

What you describe is my daughters idea of hell and all of her friends agree. They laugh at the wannabe wags, have plans to go to uni and get good careers. I would say in my daughters year there are more girls (and lads) with that attitude than the ones who think they are going to have the world handed to them on a plate.



thats my daughters prom group from 3 years ago. Out of the whole group only 2 aren't at uni right now, my daughter and one other. My daughter starts uni this September the other lass is doing a business apprenticeship.

They look lovely but are you sure your daughter's friends wouldn't mind you posting a pic of them on the Internet?!

claire4ricky

looby75 wrote: »

while there are some teenagers like that I think you do kids a bit of a disservice to say they are all like that.

What you describe is my daughters idea of hell and all of her friends agree. They laugh at the wannabe wags, have plans to go to uni and get good careers. I would say in my daughters year there are more girls (and lads) with that attitude than the ones who think they are going to have the world handed to them on a plate.



thats my daughters prom group from 3 years ago. Out of the whole group only 2 aren't at uni right now, my daughter and one other. My daughter starts uni this September the other lass is doing a business apprenticeship.

Very tasteful and elegant, thats how you do it.

looby75

daisiegg wrote: »

They look lovely but are you sure your daughter's friends wouldn't mind you posting a pic of them on the Internet?!

no they don't mind, they all know it's on facebook and they have got copies of it that they have posted on various websites. It's on their school website too which is open to anyone to look at

ETA now I think about it I got all their permission to post it on here when it was taken, as there was another prom thread in the Moneysaving arms at the time and someone asked me to post a pic.

Northern_Princess

I will most likely get slated for this post, BUT the way I saw 5th year prom was the second last year my daughter would be at school. Her school has 5th and 6th year proms. She will be staying on until 6th year so that prom will be her big prom. Some kids leave school in 5th year and she wanted to go but we refused to spend a lot as next year will be her final year. Her dress was £40 from TK Maxx, I did her hair, she did her make up and there was no special car to take her there. She had a lovely time. Next year will be a little different in that yes her dress will be more expensive and she will have a car as well as hair and make up done at a salon.

On a personal note I don't agree with the whole prom thing as it puts undue pressure on parents who cannot afford it.

In my day (oh good grief I sound like my mother now) an end of year disco sufficed

looby75

Northern_Princess wrote: »

I will most likely get slated for this post, BUT the way I saw 5th year prom was the second last year my daughter would be at school. Her school has 5th and 6th year proms. She will be staying on until 6th year so that prom will be her big prom. Some kids leave school in 5th year and she wanted to go but we refused to spend a lot as next year will be her final year. nd she will have a car as well as hair and make up done at a salon.

it was kind of in reverse in my daughters school. Yr 11 prom was a much bigger deal than yr 13, in fact hardly anyone went to the yr 13 one. My daughter didn't.

onlyroz

I remember my end-of-sixth-form party, which was held in a hotel. I wore a long black dress that I got from Top Shop for £20. I've never worn anything resembling a "ball gown" in my life and I don't think any of my friends have either.

Poppy9

Taadaa wrote: »

The media are constantly exposing our children to the concept of what the ideal woman should be, and an airheaded plastic doll with no brains and voice just about sums it up.

Proms are supposed to signify the end of their school days and to celebrate their new freedom of choice. Instead it's become a way of parading in front of the world that 15 and 16 year olds can also live up to the Barbie ideals held up by the media. Then those girls that are 'normal' are made to feel inferior and intimidated. Because normal isn't good enough.

If you want to be in the club, you have to be slim, tanned, have bright white teeth and long hair, preferably blonde, and have the latest 'must have' bag. And if you are under the age of 24 and have big tits, the world is your oyster. All you have to do is bag yourself a footballer and you are made for life.

I seriously worry for kids these days. It's not just girls either, the media are increasingly picking up on the 'male ideal' as well. Their parents spend a ridiculous amount of money on them, don't teach them the value of earning, just give in because they don't want them to stand out, then can't understand why their child has an over inflated sense of entitlement.

My DD went to prom last year. Yes she had her hair & make up done, a manicure, pedicure and fake tan. It was our treat for her as she had worked so hard in the preceding months in preparation for her GCSEs and we knew it was something she would love as she enjoys painting her nails and had never had a fake tan.

Her dress was fabulous and customised by her so that no one would have exactly the same dress. Her gorgeous silver shoes were a bargain at £15.

She knows the value of money. She knows we would not spend hundreds of pounds on a frock for one night.

My DD is no dumb blonde airhead. Like all teens she takes pride in her appearance and is self conscious about her imaginary faults!

Many of the girls at DD proms were in bargain dress and proud of it whether it came from Ebay or H&M.

Next year is Y13 prom but it's no biggie. Girls wear a short going out dress and boys a shirt and tie.