School Prom vent....

rdchick

I was head of the 'prom committee' when I was at school. We had an amazing time - it's a real celebration and something to look forward to after the evil exams are over.

During my final year at school my nan was diagnosed with cervical cancer and was very ill. I was so glad I had the committee to keep my mind focused on school, my final exams and making both a huge success!

My mum bought my dress for me, it was from a dept. store that's gone bust now but it was meant to be £117 and I got it for £12.50 Still have it too but can't get in it any more!

anyway, nan was getting really sick by the time prom rolled round and I saw my parents less and less as they went to the hospital every day and took care of my grandad, my parents made appointments at the hair and beauty salon on the day of prom so I had a lot to do and keep my mind off of family stuff... it was an amazing night but I never saw my mum that day and she was gutted. My nan passed away 3 days later.

So yeah sometimes beauty stuff is needed for prom day! My school didn't pressurise people into making it a big thing so it was just a big party to celebrate the end of our school life! xxx

POPPYOSCAR

Pollycat wrote: »

I said the same thing right at the beginning of this thread but was told:


Guess who didn't go to a private school? :rotfl::rotfl:

I went to a fee paying school(on a government grant) and we did not have them.

The only thing I can remember having is a school dance at the boys school and we all just wore our normal clothes.

ilikewatch

I know that back in the late 80's (and for decades before that) my school held a valedictory dinner and dance for those leaving sixth form which sounds pretty much like the proms that happen now - i.e. we all wore posh clothes and got drunk. The only noticeable difference was that I don't remember people arriving in limo's, though I don't think there were as many limo's around in those days!

POPPYOSCAR

ilikewatch wrote: »

I know that back in the late 80's (and for decades before that) my school held a valedictory dinner and dance for those leaving sixth form which sounds pretty much like the proms that happen now - i.e. we all wore posh clothes and got drunk. The only noticeable difference was that I don't remember people arriving in limo's, though I don't think there were as many limo's around in those days!

I do think there is a difference though when you are that age rather than the 15/16 I am talking about.

PinkLipgloss

Saw a link on the bbc website - made me laugh!

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/07/05/article-2169127-13EEE855000005DC-6_634x566.jpg

I_wanna_live_for_free

Made me laugh when I saw the photos from my daughter's prom on the school website - to buy. And did they disable the right-click/save as option or watermark the images in any way to make people pay for them?

No.

jellyhead

I've been looking at everyone's prom pictures from last night. My grumpy son didn't go, but his friends did. Everyone looks gorgeous and nobody is over the top. Maybe it's just our town though, big hair, spray tans and getting nails done aren't the norm here. The girls mention going to the hairdressers, but it's all curls etc. rather than the sort of big hair that makes them look their mum's age.

POPPYOSCAR

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

Saw a link on the bbc website - made me laugh!

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/07/05/article-2169127-13EEE855000005DC-6_634x566.jpg

Brilliant!!

But where is Ken??????

claire4ricky

I've breifly skimmed through some of these posts and it's a facinating read.

I must say tho I'm glad I've got boys, you can't go wrong with a Tux

It must be incredibly hard for some young girls going to the prom if there parents have very little money and can't afford £150 on a fancy frock and money for a limo cos I'm sure most girls would want to look fab.

I just hope parents of girls try and instill some sense of self confidence and self worth so the girl doesn't feel like she needs outfits, hair etc equalling to £400+.

There's nothing wrong with looking nice for your prom it's just when certain girls feel they are better than other girls because they've got a Stella Mac Cartney dress or any other designer and a crystal tiara, those girls are overly self indulgent and vacuous and overly vain. :(:(

That's my view anyway

BTW in my day 1989, we had a disco, i had a small coke and no boy asked me to dance , frankley i couldn't wait to leave and go to college.

Taadaa

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

Saw a link on the bbc website - made me laugh!

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/07/05/article-2169127-13EEE855000005DC-6_634x566.jpg

The media are constantly exposing our children to the concept of what the ideal woman should be, and an airheaded plastic doll with no brains and voice just about sums it up.

Proms are supposed to signify the end of their school days and to celebrate their new freedom of choice. Instead it's become a way of parading in front of the world that 15 and 16 year olds can also live up to the Barbie ideals held up by the media. Then those girls that are 'normal' are made to feel inferior and intimidated. Because normal isn't good enough.

If you want to be in the club, you have to be slim, tanned, have bright white teeth and long hair, preferably blonde, and have the latest 'must have' bag. And if you are under the age of 24 and have big tits, the world is your oyster. All you have to do is bag yourself a footballer and you are made for life.

I seriously worry for kids these days. It's not just girls either, the media are increasingly picking up on the 'male ideal' as well. Their parents spend a ridiculous amount of money on them, don't teach them the value of earning, just give in because they don't want them to stand out, then can't understand why their child has an over inflated sense of entitlement.