School Prom vent....

I_wanna_live_for_free

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

That is good.

My daughter wanted high heels but we said no and I think she was glad we did in the end.

We did have fun though, finding the most OTT sparklie skyscraper heels just for a giggle beforehand though. :rotfl:

POPPYOSCAR

I_wanna_live_for_free wrote: »

We did have fun though, finding the most OTT sparklie skyscraper heels just for a giggle beforehand though. :rotfl:

Snap!!

The problem we have as well, is that she is already very tall, taller than me and her dad!! She loves high heels but she looks like a skyscraper in them!!

I_wanna_live_for_free

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Snap!!

The problem we have as well, is that she is already very tall, taller than me and her dad!! She loves high heels but she looks like a skyscraper in them!!

LOL do we share a daughter? :rotfl:

suki1001

Notakid - I love that dress it's very pretty.

I must admit being very happy none of the children in my daughter's year 6 primary school wanted a prom. They're off to a theme park for the day. £17 including coach so I'm alright with that.

I make Snog, marry,avoid a compulsory watch for my daughter so she develops an aversion to fake tan and false eye lashes when the time comes.

We didn't have proms, but I don't begrudge that my daughter will when she get's to secondary school. however, like I have already started saving for school trips, she can save for things she would like. she is saving for a tablet now, although she did say she was bored of that the other day and that maybe if she'd saved up for one by Christmas she might change her mind and buy a couple of tubs of cookies and cream asda ice cream instead!! I don't mind her spending money - not that she's particularly materialistic, but she does help and work to earn it. She sold her old toys at a car boot the other day and she hasn't spend much of her birthday money from March.

There will always be those girls who look down their nose at people, there always have been, but then it's a good lesson to show that it's not very pleasant to be like that and that those girls choose to behave that way, they'll come a time when they realise it's not a good way to gain friends, at least not the right ones.

If people choose to spend idiotic amounts on a dress then more fool them, I hope my daughter learns, as someone said earlier that you can't buy style. Although she's only 11, she is tall and has the elegance of a swan, so she could get away with wearing bin liners!!

POPPYOSCAR

I_wanna_live_for_free wrote: »

LOL do we share a daughter? :rotfl:

:rotfl:

Is she moody one day and laughing and happy the next - if so, then yes we probably do!!

Mrs_Arcanum

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Snap!!

The problem we have as well, is that she is already very tall, taller than me and her dad!! She loves high heels but she looks like a skyscraper in them!!

Irony is tall girls look absolutely fab in high heels, where short ones look overwhelmed.

jellyhead

Pollycat wrote: »

I don't think it is going to the extreme.

My point has been that sure, there'll be haves and have-not kids at schools.

It was the same in my day.
I wore second-hand uniforms whilst my friends wore new.
And of course at Christmas and birthdays, their presents were more expensive and more plentiful than mine were.

A prom - when parents are buying dresses costing £300 - £500 - just highlights that gap even more forcefully.

Have you read that link provided by PoppyOscar to the news article?

If not, I would.
Alternatively, read my posts #25 & #44.

The majority of the girls come across as shallow.

Of course, I'm not saying this is true of all girls.
I'm commenting on the article that started the thead - and in that article there were several girls mentioned who couldn't afford a dress and so weren't going to the prom.

Yes, but you quoted Looby's post, and her daughter is nothing like the girls in the article. If she'd had a bridesmaids dress lying around, or a prom dress offered to her on loan by someone else I'm sure she'd have worn that instead.

Everyone knows the prom is coming up ... some of the girls started talking about it when they joined year 7! If it's important to them then putting a bit away each month etc. seems fine to me, it's no different to getting a particular thing for christmas really.

poet123

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

My daughter wants to keep hers - probably will never wear it again though. Although she says she will if we go on a cruise!!

That is true, we have done a few cruises recently (although the sight of the Costa ship so near to shore and yet so many dying has curtailed my enjoyment somewhat!!) and loads of the young girls were obviously in their prom dresses. They all looked very glam.

jellyhead

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

That is good.

My daughter wanted high heels but we said no and I think she was glad we did in the end.

I was also really glad the other day as she went to a party and one of the boys told her he liked the way she dressed as she looked smart , that he did not really like to say it, but that her friend looked like a tart. She looks up to this particular friend and this did make her think about the way she dresses.15 is such an impressionable age.

At age 15 there are still plenty of boys who prefer girls to look less 'tarty'. That's a horrible word, and the girls who display a lot of flesh aren't actually tarts, but I just mean that some boys like particular styles MORE than skimpy for the sake of it.

Dunroamin

Alikay wrote: »

A lot of the people who've replied to the thread, myself included, have pointed out that most people haven't spent silly money on clothes, limo's and preening. Most parents have common sense and most teenagers wouldn't dream of fleecing their families like that. Anyone who has a stroppy little princess who demands £1000 spending on prom (or leavers disco, for those who are offended by the word) went badly wrong with their parenting a long time before the end of year 11/13.

Actually, most of the people on this thread have said that they spent quite a substantial amount of money for these occasions. They may not have spent thousand on helicopters etc but sums between £100 and £300 have certainly been mentioned.