Preventing future wife taking 50% in possible future divorce.

DKLS

mpython wrote: »

and if you're lucky enough to have kids, they can make your live more fulfilling than any £billion deal will.

I know what what would give the biggest buzz, Its a no brainer any fool can breed takes something special to pull off a £billion deal.

Eskimo12345

LondLad,

First off, congrats on your job mate, at 23 that's a helluva lot of money. Now go buy a sports car

Secondly, I can completely see where you're coming from. You work hard for your money and it's yours, if I were in your position I'd be thinking exactly the same. I'm afraid I can't offer any advice and just thought I'd say I know where you're coming from - but why the big rush to get married?

mpython

DKLS wrote: »

I know what what would give the biggest buzz, Its a no brainer any fool can breed takes something special to pull off a £billion deal.

Have you some research to back up your claim?

I suspect we'll have quite different epitaphs on our gravestones.

itsarichmansworld

I've read some of the replies and on a whole agree that you have to make certain provisions for the future my mother and father where together for 25 years and still divorced.

I married young and at the time had no real drive to do anything with my life... My Hubby on the other hand was very career driven was in management by the time he was 21 earning a great salary.

He encouraged (not forced pushed) me into his industry as he said I would enjoy it (retail) and apparently I have the gift of the gab

5 years later I am now ahead of my hubby earn nearly double what he does now some may look at this and say I need the protection in case we divorce.

All I am trying to say is things change and people change. Your dear lady may in fact get her bum in gear and get a great job please bear in mind your very young and so is she she may be a different person in 5 years as am I.

I agree some legal advice is needed but if you were to do a pre-nup she would need to be protected too.

Lusignan

DKLS wrote: »

I know what what would give the biggest buzz, Its a no brainer any fool can breed takes something special to pull off a £billion deal.

While I personally dislike children, others feel very different. There are many people who find parenthood much more of a 'buzz' than a highflying career, and good luck to them.

DKLS

mpython wrote: »

Have you some research to back up your claim?

I suspect we'll have quite different epitaphs on our gravestones.

I bet we will lol I traded up big time, both in Jobs and GF and had the snip to boot as kids didnt feature in my life plan, I dont have the research, only my own experience in much smaller deals and my mates ancedotes who was an INV banker. He always said pulling off the big one that would land a 6 figure bonus would have a feeling matched by no other, a combo of immense stress/pressure followed by a massive surge of adrenalin.

mpython

Thanks DKLS, having done the £billion deal thing I can confirm there is a buzz to clinching the deal but its one that for me has been easily surpassed by seeing my kids grow up healthy & happy. Although I know how lack of money is a very bad place (I grew up in East End of London), I've since realised that pursuit of money on its own is pretty much meaningless (for me). The OP will decide for themselves what they want out of life, all I'm trying to advise is that such 'wants' change over time and that there is more ways to 'value' things than just £ signs.

DKLS

Thanks mpython, Your right and my mate the ex banker would fully agree, he has exchanged the high pressure city job chasing the big deal to tending his plants in his polly tunnels in the dam. The city took a lot out of him, long working days, entertaining clients, stress and pressure was a part and parcel of daily life, a time for him when money had no value. So I fully understand that goals ambitions and 'wants' can change.
Especially when you bring children into the equation What could be more life changing?, I personally dont understand the benefits of children, I can only see the negatives, But if having kids brings happiness and other positive aspects to your life, then Good on yer.

amcluesent

IMHO, you're seeking to move on from your current g/f and are using the potential future problem (losing money in a divorce) to give yourself a 'rational' excuse to dump her now. Only you know why you want to get out of relationship, perhaps you think it's a 'shaming' reason based your eyes having been opened about class/wealth/education or just snobbery - anyhow you know that really you don't care for her as a person anymore.

Take 6 months to take stock - 6 months in which you can indulge in coked-up excesses, romping with with up-for-it hotties all over Europe:D

lewt

marry her in the usa or somewhere that prenup's do stand up......;)