Do you tell guests what they are having?

becs

I've never been to a wedding with a choice and been to a fair few now. We wanted Lamb for our wedding but my sister in law and consequently brother also said neither liked it. However I stuck to my guns and said you'll never please everyone so we went for what we liked. No one had a problem with it and both my bro and sister in law had the lamb and now both eat it regularly! Go for what you want and you'll be fine as lon as it's not too out there! You may have more issues if you'd gone for oysters and foie gras for example. Can't imagine beef woud give you too many problems.

Stephb1986_2

I've never been to a wedding with choices either

we're having

a soup starter not sure what type yet
lamb main
sticky toffee pudding for desserts

evening reception is a hog roast with loads of trimmings

Steph xx

freyasmum

I've never been to a wedding where we're been told - in the invitation - what the choices are bar meat/veggie. Yes, it may have come up in passing what they were offering, but it wasn't a 'would you eat this? Cos if not, we can change it' type conversation.

One bride wanted liver pate, salmon and then brandy baskets - all of which are quite strong tastes. Her mum managed to persuade her to have chicken rather than the salmon but that what what she wanted.

I tend to think it's your day, so have what you like. I know all my family would be delighted with the roast beef!

wanchai wrote: »

Everyone I know is pretty anti-chicken, it's sooo dry too, especially when you're cooking for 100. Lamb will stay moist.

But it's each to their own. Someone will always complain regardless! :rotfl:

Not if you cook it properly

Totally agree with the 'someone will complain anyway' though! :rotfl:

kitschkitty

daisiegg wrote: »

Why are you confused? Isn't that pretty normal timings for weddings?

I'd expect people to tell us if they had allergies or something but otherwise if they were too fussy to eat the food, they wouldn't really have another option to eat anything as they'd have been at the wedding since 1pm.... Which is why, as I've said, we'll be going for something that's likely to please as many people as possible.

So you do expect people not to eat at their normal times and find it odd that people eat before a wedding that starts at 1pm - that's odd to me.

Oh and there's no such thing as a normal (or odd) time for a wedding. In England you can get married on any day of the week between 8am and 6pm. (though most register offices are only open from 10am-4pm Mon-Fri & 10am-1pm on Saturdays).


Anyway I do stick to my personal opinion that as wedding catering is so expensive I wanted to make sure that everyone would be fairly happy eating what we chose (as I would have been very annoyed to have paid hundreds of pounds for food nobody was eating)- the thing our guests all raved over was the scones, cream, jam & strawberries!

RainbowDrops

kitschkitty wrote: »

So you do expect people not to eat at their normal times and find it odd that people eat before a wedding that starts at 1pm - that's odd to me.

I don't think I've ever eaten at a "normal" time when I've been to a wedding :rotfl:

I always slip a cereal bar in my handbag just incase, and I never mind eating at weird o' clock

newbutold

White_Sapphire wrote: »

I have never been to a wedding where I knew in advance what I would be eating!

Me to! I was beginning to think all the weddings I had been to must be strange!


If it was me, I would ask if any guests had dietary requirements i.e. Gluten intolerant etc or need veggie dish but other than that I would expect my guests to eat what I serve.

wanchai_2

I always bring a cereal bar too, or some Belvita!

daisiegg

kitschkitty wrote: »

So you do expect people not to eat at their normal times and find it odd that people eat before a wedding that starts at 1pm - that's odd to

No - I would expect everyone to eat something before a 1pm wedding - but that's eating pretty early so I doubt that would then last them until they get home 12 hours later if they didn't like what was on offer for the wedding breakfast! I meant, that doesn't allow them to eat beforehand if they knew they wouldn't like the meal. They could eat beforehand but it would have been hours before and they'd still get hungry!

becs

Even if they didn't like/eat beef /chicken whatever they can just leave that bit and eat the accompaniments! If you're invited to friends for dinner they don't usually ask what you'd like? We're adults and eating a meal we don't like once won't kill us!

White_Sapphire

I think it's polite to tell guests when they can expect to eat; I once went to a wedding which was at 12noon, and no food was served until the wedding breakfast at 4.30, by which time we'd had nothing since breakfast. If we'd known we would have grabbed something on the way to the reception to keep us going!