Frump to Fab - Sizzling Summer Solstice to Awesome Autumn Equinox

Bitsy_Beans

Thanks guys am sure we will survive one way or another. Basically three jobs will become one.....which is quite frankly ridiculous and a poisoned chalice for the poor !!!!!! who successfully gets the job. Which could be my H :rotfl:
Anyway I shall have a glass of wine to accompany the end of a large toblerone I ate earlier :rotfl:

lizzie157

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Oh dear, stress eating. Hubby rang to say he's in line for redundancy so am afraid mindful eating have gone out of the window as I lurch from panic (I am a SAHM so reliant on H's wages) to positive thinking.
Normal service will resume tomorrow.

Sorry about your Hubby.:( It's difficult out there at the moment but am sending positive vibes. Hope it works out for you.

Haven't managed to work on the goals yet am going to take a look at the youtube link and work some out. Have made goals before but I never seem to stick to them and yes there's no one to blame but me. I seem to get side tracked by life (not in a good way). So I need to work out why other things are always more important than 10 minutes of fabbing for me. Yes financially, we have very little so that is a bit of an issue but that can be overcome I'm sure if I really want to, maybe deep down I struggle to believe I'm worth it. People seem to let me down which I suppose adds to that feeling if no one else thinks about me perhaps they are right. I know I need to change that mindset around so that because I feel I'm worth it others do too. As you see I have some ideas generally now I just need to clarify them into goals and try to make some of the changes and stick with them.

evilsquid1603

thank you for starting the thread again bitsy! sorry to hear about hubby, i hope everything goes ok for him!

my goals are to make more of an effort to get some balance in my life.

I'm a worrier by nature, I'm always worried I've forgot something or that i'll loose something or just "what if' so I'm going to try and tackle it. I'm making sure anything i think i might worry over, I'm putting down as a reminder on the app on my phone I've never used before :rotfl: I'm making sure that for every serious/urgent/unpleasant/chore thing that goes down, I'm adding at least one good thing like read a magazine/book or watch one of the tv programmes I'm now getting woefully behind on to encourage me to actually take some time out for me and not just plod along doing everything but taking care of myself.

im also making sure that i get out of the office at lunch, even if its for a short 5 min walk around the block, so i actually register it as a "break" and don't just get tempted to carry on going on and on until hometime.

ZsaZsa

Ok, am jumping into this thread after lurking and being half-hearted for at least the last couple of threads. Not setting any goals yet, other than just DO SOMETHING, and do it whole-heartedly!

Ida_Notion

I have been reading the original thread(s) and thinking about making the leap from lurkdom and joining in the fray for what seems like forever. With the dawn of a new thread and the sudden realization that the Solstice Sizzlers could disappear without me ever having tried to become one (thanks for the second chance, Bitsy Beans ), I think it's time I pitched in.

I did make a bit of progress on my own last year, clearing my debts as well as losing around 15lb of a four stone (gulp!) excess with the help of another MSE thread. Today I owe £762.50 on my overdraft, and have put most of that weight back on again. As far as the weight goes, I don't think I was really making permanent lifestyle changes when I lost it last year, but was just calorie counting and keeping myself within the limit every day to keep my mind off a forthcoming op. I fell off the wagon when I realised I ought to give up smoking before the op, and that quitting would probably negatively affect my weightloss attempts. The op came and went, and so did the diet. The quit smoking attempt never went anywhere because it just never arrived. And that's my story (*gently prods sleeping audience ).

Lots of things have prompted me to think about taking action now, but the one that's currently prompting it most is what I saw when going through the photos and videos of a recent holiday. No, not the usual shots of me looking chunky that I'd generally delete without a second thought, but a video I took of my nine year-old daughter looking gorgeous while playing in an adventure playground. We were the only ones there that day as the weather had been atrocious, but it was a nice experience and I felt like we owned the world. Until I watched the video back and heard that I'd picked up the sound of my breathing while I was recording. I think I can say with certainty that no one will ever see this otherwise lovely video apart from me - if you ever find yourself watching a horror story featuring a child playing happily while unaware that she's being pursued by Darth Vader as he attempts to make an obscene phone call on his mobile, you'll know I've changed my mind

So... these are my goals.

1. To stub out my last cigarette on Thursday evening (tomorrow). Just writing this makes me feel deprived already, but I shall keep thinking of the 'Darth Vader Does Dorset' video whenever I weaken . I intend to focus on beating the weed during the rest of June (I can't believe I'm letting myself be intimidated by a plant!), and not beat myself up too much about what I eat.

2. To lose half a stone per month from July onwards. Not sure yet whether I'll do this with simple calorie counting or with the the 'No S Diet'. You can Google this one if you if you've never heard of it, but it's free, simple, got a lot of satisfied fans and looks like it lets you make lifestyle changes while still having a life. The rules are simply 'No snacks, sweets or seconds, except (sometimes) on Saturdays, Sundays and Special Occasions'. I expect it demands a bit of self-honesty, but it does seem flexible and like something most people could keep up for a while. Wait... I'll Google it...

http://www.nosdiet.com/

3. To pay a minimum of £10 a week off of the overdraft, with making it disappear entirely a priority. This is do-able now, although a look at my budget tomorrow might spotlight where I can cut back to pay off more and get the job done a bit quicker. If I could see off the weed that would definitely help here too.

4. To wear perfume every day I have already started this with a squirt of Lidl's Chanel No5 knockoff, 'Suddenly'. You can't get much more MSE!

5. To find time for one random fabbing event every day, whether it's five minutes for a quick eyebrow tidy or a few hours decluttering - anything that will give me some positive 'fab' to show for a day which might otherwise 'only' be spent eating sensibly with no immediate reward. Tomorrow I will be fabbing my finances. I always know where I am with my money (mostly because there's not a lot of it!), but taking a closer look at things occasionally can often make a difference for the better.

If you could all move up a bit to make room for a chunky Darth Vader impersonator, I'd be very grateful

Bitsy Beans: Sorry to hear about your hubby's job. I know it's a bit of a 'potted' thing to say, especially in the present climate, but it's surprising how often a bigger and better door opens just as another closes, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time. Take care.

lessonlearned

To Say Hello.

Lovely new thread, some great posts, lots of positivity, loving the new goal setting.

Yes I shall be lurking and keeping up with you all. I've not deserted you completely - just very pushed for time right now.

I'm watching you.;)

I will be ready to kick derrieres when they need it. :rotfl::rotfl:

Thanks Bitsy for restarting the thread. You've got off to a cracking start and I feel "our baby" is in safe hands.:D

So sorry to hear about your husband's job - hope things turn out ok.

As you know I visited my lovely new friend Sophistica earlier in the year and she took me to a seminar. The speaker was great and one of his mantras was "Focus on You" - not in a selfish me, me, me kind of way but in a don't neglect your own needs, give them as much prominence as you do those of your family, friends relatives kind of way.

So that's what I have been doing this week - focussing on me.

I've had my hair coloured - lovely pale red/blonde a la Jane Asher, I've been to physiotherapy, I've booked a chiropody appt, I've pottered around the garden, I've had afternoon tea with a friend.

As a quick catch up - Mum is doing well, making a surprisingly good recovery. Dad is therefore feeling much more chipper. I think that with a care package in place she will be able to go home for a while longer yet and avoid going into care.

OH is doing less well unfortunately. His legs have now completely packed up, he can no longer use a standing hoist and all transfers are now undertaken by sling hoist, a sort of gib and tackle affair. Bless him, he hates it.

I watched them yesterday - it took 3 people to transfer him. I guess that makes the decision for me - he will not be coming home after all.

So with that in mind, I have decided I really do need to Focus on Me - to rebuild my life, get out and about and start socialising again.

I will keep your appraised of my progress.

In the meantime - keep up the good work ladies, you've set yourselves some great goals and targets.

Good luck and more importantly, enjoy your journey.

Does anyone remember Mystic Meg ??? She wrote an astrology page in one of the daily papers - can't remember which one.

Anway- to borrow from her and shamefully misquote......

"Think Fabulous and you'll be Fabulous".

heebie-jeebies

Good morning Ladies!

Bitsy - sorry about your OH, hope it works out well for him but that they don't keep you all waiting for too long.

Lizzie - go easy on yourself. Everyone is worth it but I appreciate that mindset is the most difficult thing to change but one step at a time - remember LL's saying about the elephant? And we are all here for you cheering you on. Imagine that you are one of your children and give yourself advice accordingly.

Evilsquid - That's a good goal, you could even incorporate fabbing into it - for example, if you clean the oven, you get to paint your nails etc.
I also often go for a walk at lunchtime and the change of scenery and fresh air really makes a difference to my day!

Ida Notion - Welcome - great first post!
Although the video is your prompt to take action (sorry but your name for it did make me laugh!), please don't forget the lovely time you had with your daughter.
Good luck with quitting smoking - you could put your goals 1 + 3 together so that the money you currently spend on cigarettes goes into your overdraft fund so that you don't have to cutback elsewhere.
I'm really looking forward to following your journey and seeing how you get on!

LL - sorry to hear about your OH. The Focus on You seminar sounds worthwhile and something to think about - why do we always put ourselves last?

lizzie157

Hi have had a look at youtube and have set a few goals (trouble is I could set so many and that's perhaps where I've failed in the past:o).

The long term aim is to be fab at 50 so I have a couple of years to work with.

So the goals for the shorter term are:

1: Strengthen my back, shoulder and get my finger working to the best it can be. (at least 10 mins a day)
2: improve self confidence image by making time for me. so 10 mins a day (at least ) on a beauty routine, ie nails, hair etc
3: Wear the clothes, jewelery etc that I never seem to use
4: When I go out the door to make sure I am looking groomed (even when dogwalking) and not like the tramp that usually ventures forth.

That's it for now. I aim to have all this as part of my routine by Oct when I start my next OU course, then I'll add some more. No hopefully this time I WILL work towards my long term aim starting today

tru

Hello, remember me? :rotfl:

After a rubbish start to the year and lots of hassle since - now died down and things are peaceful at last - I'm putting me first. I keep saying I'm going to put myself first but things seem to get in the way. I've never been one to say yes to everything/everyone, but I'm saying no a lot more often now I've cut several people off completely and I'm surprised at how great it feels.

The last six months went like this - stress, grab the chocolate, oh no I feel rubbish, be good, feel better. More stress, grab the chocolate, oooooh I have some wine in the cupboard, oh no I feel rubbish..................rinse and repeat.

Since january, my weight has dropped then gone up again quite a few times. Just weighed myself, overall I've lost four pounds. So I'll use that as a starting point.

The sciatica is almost gone, I just get the odd twinge, but the muscle is very stiff. I'm working really hard on it atm. As I haven't got a job, I've decided I should 'work' full time at home. I mostly don't include housework in my 'job', though as I'm not earning I see it as part of my job to keep bills, etc. as low as possible which sometimes means things take longer than normal, eg. handwashing instead of using the machine. It keeps me moving and it'll get me used to work hours again.

We have 2 debts left, one will be paid off by september, the other by december. I can't wait By the end of the year, we'll be debt free and I'll be earning. I'm hoping my biz picks up, if not then I'll be in a shop somewhere on minimum wage. It doesn't matter really, as long as I'm earning.

fedupandskint

Fab start to today - 1st day of 6 week abs by Jillian Michael. Went pretty well apart from two that were quite hard work without grip from trainers. Loved the cool down section too - good stretches and nice motivational talk too while I calmed down from that hard work.

I just need some new trainers which will get next week using my treat money from the 100 day challenge pot.