How do I make my husband understand.

ognum

I am truly confused by the OP, she says she has just moved to Las Vegas but in May was claiming tax credits according to an earlier post and talks about UK tax on a rental property in another post.

if she truly has just moved this really could account for her husbands problems and why would you move to another country if you have been talking for a while about your poor relationship.

Is anyone else confused about the OPs post history or is it just me, can anyone explain there just doesn't seem to be any continuity???!!!!!

busiscoming2

ognum wrote: »

I am truly confused by the OP, she says she has just moved to Las Vegas but in May was claiming tax credits according to an earlier post and talks about UK tax on a rental property in another post.

if she truly has just moved this really could account for her husbands problems and why would you move to another country if you have been talking for a while about your poor relationship.

Is anyone else confused about the OPs post history or is it just me, can anyone explain there just doesn't seem to be any continuity???!!!!!

If you look at her previous threads it would appear her husband is in the forces and they have been posted to Las Vegas.

POPPYOSCAR

Lotus-eater wrote: »

As sex life can get staid and you can run through the same motions over time after time. We all seem to have less and less time to spend on each other, all parts of relationships need work.

If I thought I had to spice up my sex life in order to keep my OH's interest I would think I was in wrong relationship in the first place.

I just don't know what to say about that..... but you seem to be of the same mind as the OP. Spicing up the sex life is part of the relationship for most people. Or should be.

Why should it be?

Our relationship is based on love and mutual respect, not sex,the sex comes from our love for each other, and we have been together over 25 years.

If for any reason we could not have a sex life together anymore we would still stay together because of our strong love.


If you no longer love someone no amount of spiced up sex will make you love them.

POPPYOSCAR

FBaby wrote: »

For God Sake, there is more to life and intimacy than a dazzling sex life. Many people within a relationship do not have the sex life they aspire to, that doesn't mean that their relationship is doomed or that they can be happy. As for the stereotype of the man being miserable because his misses is denying him of it, it's so archaic, I can't believe it still makes discussions like this!

As for to say that if you are not happy you should just leave, I find that utterly insulting to the poster. As if someone who resort to letting all their feelings out in a public forum hadn't possibly considered this option before posting.... It's simple, sometimes you reach a level of compromise that makes you dissatisfied in your relationship, however, you believe you are still happier in a relationship with that person than if you were not because of what you would miss otherwise, and no, I'm not talking about money or security, it could actually be just love...

I so agree with you.

ognum

busiscoming2 wrote: »

If you look at her previous threads it would appear her husband is in the forces and they have been posted to Las Vegas.

Thanks for this, so this is the US forces? Does this mean that splitting up would mean them living in different countries?

conradmum

FBaby wrote: »

For God Sake, there is more to life and intimacy than a dazzling sex life. Many people within a relationship do not have the sex life they aspire to, that doesn't mean that their relationship is doomed or that they can be happy. As for the stereotype of the man being miserable because his misses is denying him of it, it's so archaic, I can't believe it still makes discussions like this!

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Of course there is more to relationships than sex. No one has said otherwise. But people have differing needs, and it's common for one partner to downplay the other's needs while feeling hard done by because their own aren't being met.

It's funny how many people rate affection and attention highly but not sex, yet the latter is far more intimate and is (hopefully) exclusive to married life. Apparently it's okay to be upset because your partner won't listen to you, but not because your partner won't have sex with you.

I think the fact that the OP has left the thread indicates a nail may have been has been hit on a head.

POPPYOSCAR

conradmum wrote: »

Of course there is more to relationships than sex. No one has said otherwise. But people have differing needs, and it's common for one partner to downplay the other's needs while feeling hard done by because their own aren't being met.

It's funny how many people rate affection and attention highly but not sex, yet the latter is far more intimate and is (hopefully) exclusive to married life. Apparently it's okay to be upset because your partner won't listen to you, but not because your partner won't have sex with you.

I think the fact that the OP has left the thread indicates a nail may have been has been hit on a head.

I just love the assumption that because the OP has not posted for 2 days she has left the thread.

Not everyone has the time or inclination to be on here 24/7.

System

It's funny how many people rate affection and attention highly but not sex, yet the latter is far more intimate

Maybe i'm the exception but i want both in equal amounts. If i have affection and no sex i feel hard done by. If i have sex and no affection i'd feel used.