Dad is refusing to give my daughter back

Confusednfrightened

Iam a regular member of this board but i have seriously stuffed up
I stupidly asked the father of my daughter if he would take her for a couple of hours yesterday evening as i needed a break, now he is refusing to give her back.

She is 3years old and i really dont know what to do.. im waiting now for the solicitors to open, the police have been involved but cant/wont do anything.

Who else can i turn to to get her back..

dancingfairy

Oh God! What a horrible situation to be in. I really have no idea I'm afraid but I hope someone else on here can help you.
Stay strong.
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lazer

Confusednfrightened wrote: »

Iam a regular member of this board but i have seriously stuffed up
I stupidly asked the father of my daughter if he would take her for a couple of hours yesterday evening as i needed a break, now he is refusing to give her back.

She is 3years old and i really dont know what to do.. im waiting now for the solicitors to open, the police have been involved but cant/wont do anything.

Who else can i turn to to get her back..

Do you have custody of your daughter, or is it shared?
How recenlty have you spilt up, and what access arrangements have been made?
Does the father have parental responsibility?
Is there any reason why the father may say the child is not safe with you?

These things will be taken into consideration by police and solicitors, social services etc.
Remember the child is both your daughters, so unless you have an agreement, r(Residency order, or whatever), then the father may be within his rights to have your daughter.

What has he said about not returning her to you?

RainbowDreamer

You need a solicitor asap. you need to apply to court. If he has PR then only court can help you. Getting a hearing can take weeks so you need to apply today.

Im going through this for the secong time so i know exactly how you feel.
Will he let you speak to her on the phone at least?

vax2002

Why did you need a break ?
What was happening ?
I think you need to put the cards on the table face up here.

coinxoperated

I think you need to provide all the facts. If your fathers Dad is refusing to return her, there must be a reason for this? Whats the history?

Why did you need a break?

Confusednfrightened

lazer wrote: »

Do you have custody of your daughter, or is it shared? I have had her since she was born there has been nothing put in writing
How recenlty have you spilt up, and what access arrangements have been made? we split up just after she was born, he wasnt ready
Does the father have parental responsibility? Yes as he is on her certificate
Is there any reason why the father may say the child is not safe with you?
There is no reason other than he thinks i should take him back
These things will be taken into consideration by police and solicitors, social services etc.
Remember the child is both your daughters, so unless you have an agreement, r(Residency order, or whatever), then the father may be within his rights to have your daughter.

What has he said about not returning her to you? He has just said she would be far better with him and his new girlfriend as she stays at home where i work

vax2002 wrote: »

Why did you need a break ? I finished work later than normal (not a regular occurance) he had already finished so i asked if he would collect her from nursery and have her for a few hours, he argued that he normaly has her tuesday evenings as he needs a break after the weekend, i just said yes a break would be nice, and not to worry i'd phone the nursery and tell them i would be late.
What was happening ? Nothing i just asked if he would like to bring his evening visit forward
I think you need to put the cards on the table face up here.

Like i said i compleatly stuffed up, the break thing was a slip of the tounge i never thought he would do anything like this if i did i would have been to a solicitor and had things put in writing

Confusednfrightened

RainbowDreamer wrote: »

You need a solicitor asap. you need to apply to court. If he has PR then only court can help you. Getting a hearing can take weeks so you need to apply today.

Im going through this for the secong time so i know exactly how you feel.
Will he let you speak to her on the phone at least?

Thank you i have spoken to a solicitor this morning and have an appointment this aft, no he is refusing to let me see or even speak to her. Im just hoping he will take her to nursery this afternoon i have told them whats going on.

clearingout

RainbowDreamer wrote: »

You need a solicitor asap. you need to apply to court. If he has PR then only court can help you. Getting a hearing can take weeks so you need to apply today.

Im going through this for the secong time so i know exactly how you feel.
Will he let you speak to her on the phone at least?

I agree with this. Hope you are speaking with your solicitor now - you will need to get into court for an ex parte hearing today if possible (that's assuming he still has her and hasn't dropped her at nursery in which case just go and get her!). You will be off work all day I'm afraid.

My ex once kept our youngest (then 10 months and still breastfed) overnight without agreement (basically refused to return him or answer the phone) and I am sorry to say now that I 'let it go'. He did give him back the next day (I think once he'd had time to sit on it he realised it wasn't the right thing to do) but not before reporting me to Social Services (presumably to cover his own back in some way). By not doing anything about it, I gave him carte blanche to walk all over me and it took me quite a while to get things on an even keel again. Don't let it go - deal with it using legal means.

RainbowDreamer

If he takes her to nursery go and collect her & inform them he is no longer allowed to collect her. Though this means you will have to stop contact until you can sort it through solicitors / court. Otherwise he will just keep her next time & not take her to nursery.

Confusednfrightened

RainbowDreamer wrote: »

If he takes her to nursery go and collect her & inform them he is no longer allowed to collect her. Though this means you will have to stop contact until you can sort it through solicitors / court. Otherwise he will just keep her next time & not take her to nursery.

Shes not supposed to be there till 12 so im sitting on my hands for now ive phoned and spoken to everyone i can so im just waiting now.