Dad is refusing to give my daughter back

PrincessPlaty

Im so glad you have got her back have been refreshing the thread since 12 to see if there was an update!

vax2002 not all step parents have a built in natural instinct to reject other peoples children so please don't tar everyone with the same brush. I have 2 very lovely step children who i love and treat as if they were my own.

Bubby

I would never normally recommend that you keep the child away from their dad however in this case you need to stop contact until you have the residence order in case he does this again.

GobbledyGook

Glad you have your daughter back. Also glad t hear you are still going to see your solicitor.

Make sure you keep any texts you have about this - from him, but also from anyone like his Mum or whoever just in case he tries to deny he said he was keeping her.

Beetlemama

Gosh, I'm glad I found this now and got to read it all from shocking beginning to joyful conclusion, I can't stand a cliffhanger! I'm ever so glad she's back with you.

tattycath

Mojisola wrote: »

You could give the new girlfriend the benefit of the doubt - she might have brought the child back because she thinks the father was wrong.

How refreshing. I've noticed on this website that exhusband's new girlfriend, old girlfriend, wife, whatever are nearly always portrayed as being the bad guy and whatever the mother of the child posts on here is taken as complete gospel.
OP, I'm not referring to you I mean this website in general.
I knew someone who posted a a couple of threads-complete fabrication of the truth on this website, yet she was given so much sympathy it was amazing-and the ex's 'girlfriend' was portrayed as an evil witch-even though nothing could be further from the truth,
Nice to see a positive post about giving the new girlfriend the benefit of the doubt.

Confusednfrightened

alwaysonthego wrote: »

Phew! Though you may need to get advice to ensure he can't do it again as there is nothing stopping him picking her up from nursery and doing the same again. The GF doesn't seem too bothered about your DD.

vax2002 wrote: »

step parents have a built in natural instinct to reject other peoples children.
It is a natural instinct in humans from birth to ensure our genes are passed on and not the genes of others children.
Trust me, the idea of his new bird bringing up your child wont last long at all, she wont be able to control the animal within and it will end in one almighty fall out.
This bloke is trying to play with your head.
Play him at his own game.

EDITED : as I type it resolved, did not take the animal inside long to show its head did it.

Mojisola wrote: »

You could give the new girlfriend the benefit of the doubt - she might have brought the child back because she thinks the father was wrong.

Thanks everyone, i have given the new girlfriend the benefit of the doubt and really hope she just decided in this case he was in the wrong.

I have kept everything and my solicitor now has copies of everything that was recieved and sent and is hoping to be in court soon (not sure what soon is but have been told i will get a date in the next 3 weeks) there is currently a backlog.

I have decided to take my daughter out of nursery for the time being, (possably a knee jerk reaction) and have phoned the ex to inform him that until further notice any visits he has will be supervised, he was not best please as as suspected he is in work and as far as he was aware the girlfriend was looking after our daughter.

I have my rainyday fund and will be dipping into it and going away for a few days to try and relax.

Cat501

Confusednfrightened wrote: »

I have my rainyday fund and will be dipping into it and going away for a few days to try and relax.

ooh that sounds lovely, hope you do manage to relax - and get decent weather!!:)

Something tells me the gf won't be around much longer if your ex keeps taking her for granted like that...

GobbledyGook

I'd follow up your phone call with a text or email with "Just to clarify that as discussed while we wait for court you will be seeing X at X place" so that you have proof of what you said.

Don't leave yourself open to him launching proceedings claiming that you have stopped him from seeing your daughter.

Keep yourself completely right, no matter how difficult that may be. Don't discuss things on the phone - get everything in some form of writing as much as possible.

Confusednfrightened

GobbledyGook wrote: »

I'd follow up your phone call with a text or email with "Just to clarify that as discussed while we wait for court you will be seeing X at X place" so that you have proof of what you said.

Don't leave yourself open to him launching proceedings claiming that you have stopped him from seeing your daughter.

Keep yourself completely right, no matter how difficult that may be. Don't discuss things on the phone - get everything in some form of writing as much as possible.

Thank you for that i will email him now.

Person_one

vax2002 wrote: »

EDITED : as I type it resolved, did not take the animal inside long to show its head did it.

Is this the animal inside you vax?