Hoarding...not just on TV

whitewing

Well done on the gigs Jojo. Shame about fella's flat but sounds like byatt is clearing enough space for him to move into bigger premises in her store cupboard.

There are 3 items of clothing next to our recycle boxes. I hope this is more of DH using his initiative!

House is tidy. Only housework done not decluttering. However, just going to the bank for a 'review' and managed to find all the paperwork pretty much straight away. Definitely still seeing a difference.

Byatt

Idris, my counsellor highlighted my abandonment and rejection issues, which of course I know I have, but bringing them up to the present time by thinking about past reasons for my behaviour/reaction now was very illuminating.

Well done Jo-Jo on the gigs! The soup sounds yummy too.

The bin men took away everything. Why do I always think they will look in my bins and refuse (ahem no pun intended)? There's no reason why they should, but I always go out to bring them in and check they are empty.

I have ear ache today, and feel cold so not in the mood to continue operation declutter.

Kate, that was brave to admit about the grime. I know my home is grimy, well less so now, but it's hard to admit to even to one's self.

mollythewestie

DH has just emptied a huge box of magazines and assorted junk, 50 odd magazines straight into the recycling bag and the cardboard box broken into bits and into the cardboard recycling :T. If only we could empty all boxes so quickly.
DH is off work for the next fortnight and the plan is to completely sort the loft once and for all, I may be brave and post the "before" pictures at some point .

Patchwork_Quilt

Go for it Mollie!

DS has thrown out even more stuff. He's really getting the hang of this decluttering - 'I've got loads of stuff Mum, that I never use.' However, this includes the clock that Mum gave him at his christening, so I might put that in a safe place for a while. The jumpers and pencil pots can go, though.

All I've managed to declutter was a birthday card for my nephew.

lostinrates

Byatt wrote: »

Idris, my counsellor highlighted my abandonment and rejection issues, which of course I know I have, but bringing them up to the present time by thinking about past reasons for my behaviour/reaction now was very illuminating.
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Personally I think I hoard because I am greedy. I don't want to lose stuff, I don't want to miss an opportunity and I hate to waste money on buying something when I threw away something that would do a few weeks before. I am absolutely positive I could blame other things (fear, abandonment, stress, frequent moves as a child etc etc etc ) but I just think for me it is as simple as greed.

Dh hoards, I think, because his mother did, his father does and his grandparents did. His whole family hang onto stuff.
I had to beg sil to throw away her grandmothers old (holey) underwear. Her grandmother had been dead for thirteen years I think at that point. Dealing with their mothers stuff was extremely hard for them all, but partly, I think, because of the sheer quantity of rubbish along with the occasional gem.

Byatt

lostinrates wrote: »

Personally I think I hoard because I am greedy. I don't want to lose stuff, I don't want to miss an opportunity and I hate to waste money on buying something when I threw away something that would do a few weeks before. I am absolutely positive I could blame other things (fear, abandonment, stress, frequent moves as a child etc etc etc ) but I just think for me it is as simple as greed.

Dh hoards, I think, because his mother did, his father does and his grandparents did. His whole family hang onto stuff.
I had to beg sil to throw away her grandmothers old (holey) underwear. Her grandmother had been dead for thirteen years I think at that point. Dealing with their mothers stuff was extremely hard for them all, but partly, I think, because of the sheer quantity of rubbish along with the occasional gem.

TBH, LIR, at the beginning of all this I could have said the same, along with what's wrong with the way I live I'm not hurting anyone. I didn't see myself in the equation at all. I like nice things, I like expensive things, and thought why shouldn't I have them. The problem arises when those things take over the space, being unable to walk through a room without stepping over/clambering/squeezing past/falling. Doors blocked, no room to enjoy the items, can't even see them anymore in the clutter and mess.

I'm not blaming my childhood or going over old ground, what's past is past, but I want to change my reaction in the now, and seeing how I still used strategies and crutches from the past, which probably worked well for me as a child/young person, but certainly don't work well for me now.

I don't think I will ever be "cured", it's so easy to slip back into old habits, but I hope I can allow myself the same courtesy as I would anyone else, that living in a safe, pleasant environment is something I can have and should have. I wouldn't let my dog live here because it had got so bad. Yet I was letting myself live here.

lostinrates

If nothing else gets done here tomorrow outside of the site meeting please yell at me if I do not do the two small drawers I have been meaning to do for a couple of weeks.

I have some uly to me beads in one of them that I keep thinking my taste might mature in to. But I am not mature and I still do not like them. So.....CS?

lostinrates

Spam in post below my last reported.

I am just looking in the first of those drawers I want to get too and thought that you might get a kick of the 'precious' gumph I am storing.

Badger brush.....parent saw it, took it and shuffled upstairs with it.

Three, no five party blower things. (reserved judgement)

Lots of unwound knotted string, bin

Piece of baler twine in the nicest balertwine colour (that's mine) but its tangled at the back, when i get it out I will bin it,

A cork (bin)
Two spent batteries...recyling

I tiny old bottle (reserved)

A teaspoon (dishwasher)

Two, no three, reels of cotton and a pack of needles (sewing stuff is upstairs) pulled out to resite.

A pink plastic ring with a slightly blue daisy in it. (reserved, it's pretty and a friends child might like it, I would wear it if I had skinnier fingers, I am sure I used to wear it)

Two rusty nails

A chandelier crystal

Label from a pair of boots bought several years before I met dh.

A black colouring pencil

A picture of two unloved relatives.

A tigers eye.

A swatch of fabric

Two hair elastics and ...

A padlock with no key.

One down...one to go..

Out,_Vile_Jelly

lostinrates wrote: »

Badger brush.....parent saw it, took it and shuffled upstairs with it.

Three, no five party blower things. (reserved judgement)

Lots of unwound knotted string, bin

Piece of baler twine in the nicest balertwine colour (that's mine) but its tangled at the back, when i get it out I will bin it,

A cork (bin)
Two spent batteries...recyling

I tiny old bottle (reserved)

A teaspoon (dishwasher)

Two, no three, reels of cotton and a pack of needles (sewing stuff is upstairs) pulled out to resite.

A pink plastic ring with a slightly blue daisy in it. (reserved, it's pretty and a friends child might like it, I would wear it if I had skinnier fingers, I am sure I used to wear it)

Two rusty nails

A chandelier crystal

Label from a pair of boots bought several years before I met dh.

A black colouring pencil

A picture of two unloved relatives.

A tigers eye.

A swatch of fabric

Two hair elastics and ...

A padlock with no key.

One down...one to go..

lostinrates, that reads rather like a modernist poem!

Is the badger brush made out of badger hair, or for brushing badgers?

lostinrates

Out,_Vile_Jelly wrote: »

lostinrates, that reads rather like a modernist poem!

Is the badger brush made out of badger hair, or for brushing badgers?

Well, my guess is it's actually synthetic, it was I noted, made by wilkinson sword.