Hoarding...not just on TV

alec_eiffel

I agree with the others, don't let your perfectionism get in the way of posting, we don't post here for the thanks count or to get responses from people, we do it because we know that someone somewhere will understand where we're coming from.

And I agree with you that the time you feel at your worst is exactly the time you should post :j

lostinrates

Can I yell here?

Every time I start to feel like I can start to tackle life properly something else happens. Today my dog broke her leg for the second time (actually her other leg). So my third consequetive day in a healthy routine for the first time since before summer's illhealth crescendo (up, animals done, dog walk...before home for some housework before my afternoon 'nap') and everything is in chaos. I am scared for my dog, but also aware this means catering to her every whim (she does a very good 'benevolent monarch'). And not getting my daily walk for a while. The other dog is being spayed the week after next, and the new puppy comes next week, so I feel swamped again.

whitewing

I love all posts (fortunately I missed the trolling one). The posts remind me what achievements I have done, what I still have to do and keep me interested and motivated.

DH is hardly ever having nightmares since we got decluttering. He gets nightmares if he feels stressed, and having an untidy house adds to it. I honestly feel the benefits every day of the work we've done so far, even thou we haven't got huge projects any more. Lots of stuff is getting dealt with straight away. DH used to tidy, and part of that was putting my stuff in the cupboard. It got all messed up so took me ages to do simple jobs. He hardly puts anything in the cupboard now, so it all gets tackled more efficiently.

Lir, I have had to learn that there are some weeks when it's good enough to just be in the moment and deal with daily tasks. Otherwise the frustration of not being able to do what you want overwhelms. I still don't really factor in the time it takes just having a toddler daughter.

falady

Yes, yell away LIR - it sounds like you have a lot to cope with at the moment! :-(

I hope your poor dog is OK and gets better quickly.

I can empathise with doggy worry - we had a lovely greyhound girl, Meg, who became very ill with liver problems last year and she had to be put to sleep. Luckily the Retired Greyhound Trust helped us out with the massive vet bills which was very kind of them. I'd love another dog, but have enough going on at the moment and would like to have a second child in the next year or so, so will wait til after that and things being a bit more stable I think.

Hope you are ok. Just get through each day and rest when you can. xx

falady

whitewing wrote: »

I still don't really factor in the time it takes just having a toddler daughter.

Me either. My little girl is 2 and very active! If I get half my 'to do / decluttering' list done in a week, thats an achievement!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

lostinrates wrote: »

Can I yell here?

Every time I start to feel like I can start to tackle life properly something else happens. Today my dog broke her leg for the second time (actually her other leg). So my third consequetive day in a healthy routine for the first time since before summer's illhealth crescendo (up, animals done, dog walk...before home for some housework before my afternoon 'nap') and everything is in chaos. I am scared for my dog, but also aware this means catering to her every whim (she does a very good 'benevolent monarch'). And not getting my daily walk for a while. The other dog is being spayed the week after next, and the new puppy comes next week, so I feel swamped again.

Poor thing.

Look on it the other way - both dogs will be on light exercise at the same time this way, and you won't be leaving the pup quite so long. Of course, if escape from the [strike]parent[/strike] house is the loss, there's no reason you can't take pup out as a passenger in a trolley/bag/wheelbarrow to get him/her used to the area without over exercising.

blossomhill_2

lostinrates wrote: »

Can I yell here?

Every time I start to feel like I can start to tackle life properly something else happens. Today my dog broke her leg for the second time (actually her other leg). So my third consequetive day in a healthy routine for the first time since before summer's illhealth crescendo (up, animals done, dog walk...before home for some housework before my afternoon 'nap') and everything is in chaos. I am scared for my dog, but also aware this means catering to her every whim (she does a very good 'benevolent monarch'). And not getting my daily walk for a while. The other dog is being spayed the week after next, and the new puppy comes next week, so I feel swamped again.

You certainly can! Getting that routine back is so important for your muscle memory, as I can testify after 2 weeks 'sans pooch' I counted and it took me 2.5 weeks before my muscle memory kicked in - unfortunately had a chesty cough and it was foggy mornings by then so my upper half couldn't keep up with the legs. Your tale is a good example of "life is what happens while we are making other plans" and must be v frustrating for you lir

I thought my day was bad enough, when pooch stood in water bowl then skated it across about 10' of laminate (unsealed laminate!) by keeping his foot in it while escaping cat and showering water everywhere - but yours trumps mine

((hugs to you and dog))

I love the idea of your DH not having nightmares whitewing, esp as good depth of sleep will also aid physical health

alec_eiffel

Hope your dog is ok LiR and the yelling has done you some good.

Thinking about the "dream room" thing. When the junk is gone will you try to set up a room that's like the dream room (or as close to it as you can get?)

lostinrates

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Poor thing.

Look on it the other way - both dogs will be on light exercise at the same time this way, and you won't be leaving the pup quite so long. Of course, if escape from the [strike]parent[/strike] house is the loss, there's no reason you can't take pup out as a passenger in a trolley/bag/wheelbarrow to get him/her used to the area without over exercising.

Hehehehe.

I do value my time alone and independence. Becoming able to be alone safely is such a joy to me. . There is plenty to do with out the dogs, and you are very wise, the girls can recover together, and dog dog can be a thug, so it will be easier for curly boy dog to get used to things, because he is tiny compared to them.

I might even consider a dog less walk, or indoor exercise in the warm in the next few weeks. Then just walking curly dog might be no bad thing, start teaching him some manners without assistance from the other two.....

The big dog is loving being only dog in the house, she is sprawled on the sitting room floor wagging her tail.

lostinrates

alec_eiffel wrote: »

Hope your dog is ok LiR and the yelling has done you some good.

Thinking about the "dream room" thing. When the junk is gone will you try to set up a room that's like the dream room (or as close to it as you can get?)

I think our bedroom will become a bit like the dream room.

De junking is only half of it for us, because of the state of the wreck. The build is just going to over run now, but they won't be here much longer, and I think it's wise not to make down stairs too dream roomy (for me anyway, dark and glimmers doesn't sound great for a kitchen). When the builders go we will have a temp kitchen, a utilityroom and a study, all not quite finished but ready to be decorated. We are going to try some decorative painted ceilings out in the study and down stairs loo. But keep the rest quite aim ...but not neutral. We have odd taste. I might post some pics as we get I there, I might need to for storage idea help.