Burial of a Miscarried Baby Advice Please

Mad-Frog

Mum2one that poem made me cry

I am so sorry for you and your daughters loss, her boyfriend sounds an amazingly mature person for his age I hope you feel a small comfort he is there by her side helping her through this

Has she been offered counselling?

I lost a baby aged 17 I didn't tell my mum though at the time she was very religious and would not have approved (I regret that now) however I unlike your daughter had made the decision to terminate and the guilt that followed took me years to get over
In my blinkered teenage years I didn't opt for counselling as how would a stranger know how I felt!
I can only stress that at her young age I think it would be beneficial

Keep doing what you are doing it sounds like you are doing things just right, cry all you want that is very understandable

Sending you and your family enormous hugs x

bylromarha

gravitytolls wrote: »

Thanks for caring everyone, I may be weeping over the keyboard, but I don't feel I'm weeping alone.

You aren't lovely. xxxxx:grouphug:

mum2one

how are everyone 2day, xx

bright_side

Please remember to take some time for yourself Gravity. I know that when our 'babies' hurt, we hurt too, but you have also suffered this loss and you need to allow yourself to let your emotions out too.

Mia-Rose is a such a beautiful name and the roses sound perfect.

Take care my lovely xx

tattycath

So sorry gt. I can only reiterate what others have said.
I can only imagine how difficult this is for you all.
(((hugs)))

Don't let them say, I wasn't born
That something stopped my heart
I felt each tender squeeze you gave
I've loved you from the start.

Although my body you can't hold,
It doesn't mean I'm gone.
This world was worthy, not, of me
God chose that I move on.

I know the pain that drowns your soul,
What you are forced to face.
You have my word, I'll fill your arms
Someday we will embrace.

You'll hear that it was "meant to be,
God doesn't make mistakes"
But that won't soften your worst blow..
Or make your heart not ache.

I'm watching over all you do,
another child you'll bear.
Believe me when I say to you,
That I am always there.

There will come a time, I promise you
When you will hold my hand,
Stroke my face and kiss my lips
And then you'll understand.

Although, I've never breathed your air,
Or gazed into your eyes..
That doesn't mean I never "was"
An Angel Never Dies........
RIP Mia-Rose

maryjanell79

I am so sorry for your daughter's loss and your post was heart breaking to read. Your emotions are completely acceptable and your reactions were amazing given the circumstances. You just wanted the best for your baby girl so don't ever feel guilty about what has happened, you were doing what you thought was best for her, and despite how hard its going to be she is really going to need you to be strong for her now.

Both of you are incredibly brave and I think the ceremony is a good idea and and good closure for everyone. Please make sure that you also have someone you can lean on for support in these times. Don't carry yours and your daughters pain alone.

I don't think much will be expected, I would go with a simple tea, coffee, juice and some biscuits and a small variety of cakes (most stores do good pack offers on cakes and biscuits).

I can't imagine what your going through but I wish you and your family all the best and I hope the ceremony goes well.

mandi

Hi Gravity,( If your reading )

I came on to post because I know today will be very sad for you & your family .

I would like to find the right words, but everything I type I've deleted because well it just doesn't sound right if that makes any sense ?

I'm not ever sure I should post really .:o

But I hope that you know that many of us will be thinking of you, your family , and especially your daughter and her boyfriend .

Take care :A

gravitytolls

My dear friends, I just thought I'd pop in to tell how the day went.

The day was beautiful, blue skies, a breeze blowing in from the sea. The cemetary was so peaceful, it seems a fitting place for our grand daughter to be laid to rest. How strange, I think this is the first time I've referred to her as my grand daughter, she's always been my little girl's baby.

The chaplain read the poems they chose for her, said some prayers, and read the poem DD and BF wrote. Tears flowed down the faces of myself and my mum, and of the BF's mum, the men were stoic, supporting their women. The younger children were all beautifully behaved, not one murmured or complained.

DD and BF were incredibly brave. They felt unable to read anything themselves, but they stood before her grave (I can hardly bring myself to refer to it thus, as she shouldn't be there) and held onto one another. BF threw down two red roses, and then we all placed our flowers around her. Tomorrow I will take tem back to arrange the flowers as they wish, and perhaps fetch some home to put in her vase.

FIL, DD's grandad didn't wish to attend such an occasion (he is 84), he sent a wreath so they'd know he was thinking of them. DD chose a beautiful bouquet of mixed colour roses, which came with the vase she will use to keep fresh flowers in for Mia Rose. We took 50 pink roses to be scattered over her little plot. She received sheaths, posies and bouquets from all other attendees.

Thank you all for your advice re. refreshments. I just made a small selection of sandwiches, mini quiches and salad. FIL sent a tin of sweets; tea, coffee and soft drinks. I baked a massive chocolate cake and iced MIA ROSE upon it in pink icing.

DH says very little, but today just keeps repeating 'it's very sad isn't it, I'm very sad', and has gone for a lay down.

We have pictures of the baby and prints of her tiny hands and feet. I'll not put them up, but if anyone would like to see them, please do say, and I'll try to work out where to put them so I can post a link.

Once again, my grateful thanks for the kindness, compassion and very good advice from my dear MSE fiends.

whitewing

Sounds like a perfect day. So sad that you all had to go through this, but I don't think any of you could have done it more beautifully.

Bless little Mia Rose, and I hope the memories of the ceremony and the photos and prints bring you peace when the pain starts to subside.

marisco_2

I've been thinking of you gt and hoping that today would go as well as possible. You all sound so brave and such a close and loving family. Wishing you all the best.