Southernman's steps to freedom!

happycamel_2

I suggest you post on the Conception board on Mumsnet, they're very friendly and knowledgable. PCOS can make it harder to conceive but there are drugs (eg clomid) which can help. Far better to be diagnosed now than after you've spent a year trying to get pregnant.
All the best, HC

Georges_Mum

Hi Southernman

I wouldn't worry, my mum and sister had the same thing, my mum went on to have hers operated on and they only left half of one ovary...she then went on to have me and my brother and sister (who are twins!!) And I'm 50....things have improved a lot since then.

My sister has two smashing kids - so don't beleive everything you read
xxx

wantabetterlife

Try not to worry..i have PCOS too and i am now expecting our 4th child. The only thing i would say is, it can take a bit longer to get pregnant because of the irregular cycle...i used ovulation kits to tell me when i was ovulating. I also know loads of other people who have had children with PCOS. Hope that helps

gallygirl

wantabetterlife wrote: »

Try not to worry..i have PCOS too and i am now expecting our 4th child.

I thought you said not to worry - that would terrify me :rotfl:.

I too know people with PCOS who've had families. Far better to know so you can find out more and make informed choices.

Southernman

Thank you everyone for your help and encouragement. It's hard to ask people my own age because no one has really experienced it. I spoke to my mum and she mentioned it to my aunty who said that her manager had it and was told she could never have children...she has 2! I'm 23 so not really ready for babies yet but it's good to know there are things you can do about it. I suppose what will be will be at the end of the day.

P.S thank God for pay day tomorrow, it's been such a long month.

wantabetterlife

gallygirl wrote: »

I thought you said not to worry - that would terrify me :rotfl:.

That made me laugh out loud GG...i think i am bordering on insane :rotfl::rotfl:

Southernman

Oh yeah and can I just say I fear the day I have to have a smear test. The lady stuck some weird dildo thing which she put gel on up my front bum to spy on my ovaries. My legs were so tense I thought they would snap. My God. My dad was waiting for me in the waiting area and I had to go out and wee beforehand and my dad didn't understand what was going on! I was traumatised enough as it was!

Southernman

So after the trauma of yesterday i have something else on my mind. More of a financial dilemma this time.

Now at the moment i put into a pension at 5% of my wage (my employer gives me 15% which i can do what i want with, 10% i use to live off, the rest goes in).

In April i will be getting a 3% increase in wage and as the tax free amount goes up i'll probably get an extra £20 a month for that.

Do i

a) put in 2% extra into my pension and anything left over (1% + potential £20) as an overpayment on my mortgage

b) put 0% (or 1%) in my pension and focus on extra mortgage overpayment instead as i've not had my mortgage for even 2 years yet and it will make more of an impact further down the line regarding less interest

c) do neither and keep it for myself to spend on clothes, holidays, furbies and other pointless cr*p

I have been putting into my pension for 2 years now (21 years old) which was when i first started full time employment but i'm not sure whether i'm better off paying off my mortgage quicker so that by the time i'm 33-35 ish i can throw in the full 15% into my pension and be mortgage free.

Another thing i didn't even think about- something my dad brought up. By then i may have babies? I'm not really sure what the best course of action is. I don't have final salary pension or anything as i was too late for it.

ultrarunner

the more you put in your pension now, the more benefit you will get come retirement, mind you the same thing applies for overpaying the mortgage.

Southernman

The sooner I pay off the mortgage, the sooner I can pay more towards my pension HOWEVER the sooner I add to my pension the MORE my pension pot will be when i retire by which time I'll have paid off my mortgage!