Losing the plot with children!!

Psykicpup

Aww hunny I know how you feel & you must be so exhausted too with OH not getting home till 11pm. I bet you dont get to sleep untill midnight or later, & then up at dawn with the Kids (((hug)))
I suggest getting a friend/relative to have the babes for a few hrs & go back to bed!

mirrorimage0

definatly know how you feel, i would really consider not having your niece for 2 days a week though at least until she stops crying all day, its nice to be able tohelp out but sounds like you really need some "me time".

wear the little angels out over the park for an afternoon or swimming is always a good one really tires them out, tuck them up for a early night and chill with a bottle of chardonnay and a nice bath or a book.
hope you feel better soon. x x just remember your not alone

Myrtle

I've no advice to add as you've got lots to go on up there ^^^. This keeps me sane though and may help you....
http://www.badmothersclub.co.uk/jsp/index.jsp?lnk=308

.... lots of advice and humour to help you through the day.

jinky67

OMG parents these days seem incapable of being parents.
Start as you mean to go on I say. I did and my DS & DD have never so much as had a tantrum because, they know I mean no when I say it.I know that sounds rather smug but its true.People seem to be under the impression they have to be "friends" with kids not true

chewy62

I think sometimes we do what our Mums did with us when we were little. I don't think my Mum was too hard on us, (she says we were angels compared to my two!), so I've never been too strict. But she had 3 girls and I have 2 boys and she doesn't really know how to handle them, I think they need to let off more steam!
I think I like children too much, I used to love babysitting when I was little, so maybe that is what is wrong.?

roni.b

bless you... My kids are 9 and 8 and drive me insane as soon as they get through door they are at each others throat my daughter was a biter when little and she drew blood on my sons shoulder blade when she was three and left her teeth marks there, so i got my son to bite her back hard on her arm she never did it again - wouldnt get that on super nanny, but it bleeding well worked..... but now they fight every day, play like angels every day and end up reading each other stories of a night time cos im redundant as they now can read so they said. I must say though i use to take my kids to every playgroup i could to wear them out and do a picnic in park once a week, go to local bakery and get them to choose their pudding but make sure there is a slight incline where your eating and get them to run up it five times b4 they get their treat .... god i sound awful but they dont do it now but at your kids ages they will at least the 4 year old especially if you take a camera and you get lots of happy pics too and best of all memories and you chill out as well god bless the local park hehe

jinky67

chewy62 wrote: »

I think sometimes we do what our Mums did with us when we were little. I don't think my Mum was too hard on us, (she says we were angels compared to my two!), so I've never been too strict. But she had 3 girls and I have 2 boys and she doesn't really know how to handle them, I think they need to let off more steam!
I think I like children too much, I used to love babysitting when I was little, so maybe that is what is wrong.?

The only way to get kids to behave is to teach them what you find acceptable.If you dont want them to bite ,kick,punch etc tell them it is wrong, for Gods sake it's not rocket science!
Children are allowed to decide far too much about their own lives these days,just TELL THEM you are the boss so start acting like it.
Sorry to be harsh but that is whats wrong these days kids get away with murder!!!

LouiseMegrath

I'd try one of the following:

Bath them - it occupies them for about an hour (with changing etc) and they'll be in a different mood!

Have a picnic on the floor! - you could even dress them in swimwear and pretend you're at the seaside!

Give them a really important job to do which will take AGES - pairing socks, folding clothes (even give them a load of towels and ask them to sort into sizes/colour and fold them) anything to keep them entertained!

I can never seem to think where to take my kids when they're with me, so I keep a list of places to go on the fridge, park, beach, child-friendly restaurants etc

If they're REALLY driving you nuts - put them in a safe place - playing in bedroom/watching tv and have a shower/glass of juice or something just time alone for 10 mins.

I hope these suggestions help!

Carmina_Piranha_3

like themaccas i prefer big age gaps between children. i know that if i had 2 toddlers i'd be too stressed to be a good parent. when i read your post my first thought was you looking after your niece. i really couldn't cope with a screamer, not if i had other children to take care of.

could somebody else have her?

long walks, or just a trip to the park could be difficult if you have a baby in a pram and you have a 2 year old who might go too close to the road. it sounds to me that it might be easier to find the things that will occupy your boys if you didn't also have the baby to look after. even cutting it down to one day a week might help.

do i sound horrible? does your sister work? does she know her baby cries constantly and isn't happy?

patchwork_cat

HI
I think that you must be a good parent to be aware of teh fact that to yell at them was wrong and feel guilty. I am sure that when you go through labour you get infinite wisdom, a big handbag and guilt. Unfortunaetly I only got the guilt!

I bet 99% of the time you don't shout at them. We are human and make mistakes.

My son used to bite, so I understand - once when we were on holiday he bit my arm so hard it left a bruise my husband used to say that it looked as if he had thumped me.

They do grow out of biting - well he doesn't bite me now that he is 14! When they do something wrong count to 10- I did that once for myself and somehow my son thought I was counting to him and behaved! I then found counting to work although he would push it to the 41/2 (changed it from 10 for him as it was too long) Next time they trash a room they tidy it up.Have you read toddler taming?