Losing the plot with children!!

Lusignan

chewy62 wrote: »

Help!!! Any advice for keeping sane peeps?:o

Adoption? Seriously though, I read despairing posts like yours, bless you, and I'm sooo grateful I will never have children.

andyrules

too true lottee!! chewy, it's the loneliest job in the world, BUT in a few years time you will enjoy the company of your children. I often have weekends away with my teens and we have a ball!

I think I joined every activity going when they were pre-school just to get out. My local WEA ran a course with a free creche attached, so i went on it. Gave me some time with grown-ups and the kids had a run around a big hall with others.

Truly, if you've had a day or afternoon out, it makes all the difference. All you need then is tea, bath and bed!

lottee

brazilianwax wrote: »

I think you mean 'if', not 'when' :rolleyes:

That's what I used to say... (and I thought I meant it...!)

brazilianwax

lottee wrote: »

That's what I used to say... (and I thought I meant it...!)

I do mean it!!!

apples1

Whilst the advice about Tiny TearAways may have sounded harsh I think that's just because the poster stated they were not a parent so put everyone's backs up as the "well how can you know what its like?" feelings surfaced!

I am a parent and I honestly belive I owe my life to Tania - her advice is spot on and I don't belive the post that says "life is not always like that". It is if you make it like that. If you understand and take on board Tania's way of parenting and never waiver from it - it works 100% - honestly. You just can't stop start it, you have to be like that all the time. It then becomes normal for you and a part of your life. You don't even feel the need to shout.

It is however blinkin' hard to make that shift but once you do it will be the best thing you have ever done for yourself and your children. You will enjoy them rather than need to wish away the time until you can pack them off to full time school/nursery!

I also agree 100% with the post about "getting out". Its hard when you are feeling low but make a fresh start and just do it. Good luck. You can do it.

wokkies

My 2yr old decided to pee everywhere including his 17yr old brother,lol

themaccas

chewy62 wrote: »

:mad: I have blown a gasket today with my 4YO and 2YO sons, they are driving me mad! They emptied my hubby's drawers and threw clothes everywhere, I shouted and screamed and cried and shut 4YO in his room, but he was still naughty when he came out! 2 YO keeps nipping and biting me and when I shout at him he just laughs!
I work 2 days a week and think I need to work more as I get soooo bored at home and feel as if life is going on without me outside. 4 YO goes to nursery for 3 hours in afternoon and I also mind my 1 YO neice for 2 days a week, and she cries constantly!!! Help!!! Any advice for keeping sane peeps?:o

Hi I admire you! We have 3 children but with big age gaps (more than 5 years apart) because I knew I wouldn't be able to cope with more than 1 baby!

Just a thought is there anyway you can stop having your niece? This seems like additional stress you really don't need right now.
hugs

chewy62

:j thanks for the advice everyone! Think dr. tania is great too, I sent an E-mail to radio 1 when she was on with sara Cox once and she answered on air! That was when my then 2YO was jumping om top of my 4 month old!
i know all the things I should be doing, just have problems carrying it out!
Thing is, they're pretty good most of the time, they're not total nightmares, just when I'm fed up it seems 10 times worse!

the_other_mce

Hiya - my heart goes out to you. I know how you feel .... however
These days with your two are some of the best days of your life. You WILL look back with fond memories and wish you could go back in time oneday. I cried buckets when both of mine went to school as I knew the BABYDAYS were over.
Tips to help : sounds crazy but plan treats to always have something up your sleeve - doesn't have to be expensive - ( my two loved making anything with clay - £5 for a big tub in the ELC, baking always goes down well - even cutting up sandwiches for lunch with biscuit cutters! trips outside in all weathers are great - we would collect leaves, bugs, twigs or anything!!). Also try 'hiding' a favourite toy and finding it when they are bored. Limit shopping as kids usually hate it - I used to give mine picture lists to 'help' me. Read to them - it helps them in the future and calms them down a bit. They appreciate the time with you. Sounds weird but if mine were really cantankerous I would run a surprise early bubble bath - they loved it!!!
Also - do something for yourself - I studied with the OU, but anything thats just for you (jogging, painting, etc) will make you feel a bit better - I tried most things!!!
And finally - try taking some pictures when they are at their most 'impish' - you will look back and laugh - try to see the funny side.....

moozikgal

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my little one is only 8 months so i dont have this to deal with yet but we still have problems with him not wanting to sleep in a cot!