Losing the plot with children!!

Savvy_Sue

lebly wrote: »

You have to cook pee

I misread this and was expecting a recipe for pee! :rotfl:

southernscouser

Smack the little barstewards!

I only ever got whacked when I'd gone to far which wasn't very often coz I was too afraid to!

Kids will always push boundaries but at some point they need to be brought back into check. Normally a hand across the back of the legs will sort them out!

Knelley

chewy62 wrote: »

:rotfl: Very sensible Knelley! i love going to work and always take my time driving home via the shops! Is it just boys or do little girls have mad hours too?;)

I've been told girls are worse in other ways:eek: :rotfl:

Seriously, it isn't as tho it is often that you are 'having a stormer' Kids will be kids and sometimes when you have told them for the 20 millionth time ( an exaggeration, I know but boy does it feel it! ) not to do something then sometimes us Great Earth Mothers:rolleyes: lose it! It doesn't mean that you love them any less, or can't cope, as some may have suggested. It just means that at that precise moment, a wee rant lets them know that you have had enough and that they had better go and think up some other wee plan to drive Mum to distraction;)

I hear my boys, now that they are older, giving it ' That was your fault' No! ' That was YOUR fault':eek: in the next room and hey ho, it starts all over again:rotfl:

Afte I have had my ' Right, that is enough' rant. I calm down, give them both a cuddle and let them know that I love them and that they have pushed boudaries and that I am having a stressful time and them having a whopping big argument over who ate Chewbaccas leg didn't really help!

All in the world of an Earth Mother:T

Dumyat

being a mum to little ones is the hardest job in the world. the little treasures can turn even the most mild mannered of us in to crazy people. And it is ok for these supernanny type people. they dont do the job 24/7. in saying that the principles these shows show are on the whole the way to go.
I dont think the odd blow out will do them any harm. I certainly lost it with mine!
as others have said its trying to avoid the situation in the first place. and we all learn as we go along. dont beat yourself up about it.

liney

They have their moments dont they?

I only have one, but when he starts screaming and yelling he sits in the corner until he has calmed down. Usually i only have to start counting loudly when he is playing up ONE, TWO and he stops as he knows THREE means a time out.

lottee

David_B wrote: »

I am a parent and seeing things like this really upsets me. We all need to make the most of our little treasures because they are not little forever nor do they really understand what they are doing. Life is a game for them and so it should be.

Seeing things like this upset me tbh ! I believe most kids know what to do & what not to do in order to get a reaction from their parent/carer. My DS certainly does. I'm sure the OP does make the most of her little treasures, as we all do, but sometimes it's hard work - there is no instruction book when you have a child, you just have to go with flow & do what suits your own individual family.

I agree with Southerscouser, never did me any harm - but I'm sure that's a whole different thread....

David_B_2

lottee wrote: »

Seeing things like this upset me tbh ! I believe most kids know what to do & what not to do in order to get a reaction from their parent/carer. My DS certainly does. I'm sure the OP does make the most of her little treasures, as we all do, but sometimes it's hard work - there is no instruction book when you have a child, you just have to go with flow & do what suits your own individual family.

I agree with Southerscouser, never did me any harm - but I'm sure that's a whole different thread....

You are totally right but what good does shouting and screaming at a child of 2 & 4? What do they learn from it?

I'm no angle but we all do what we see is best.

PS: it also never did me any harm too when I went over the mark.

lottee

David_B wrote: »

You are totally right but what good does shouting and screaming at a child of 2 & 4? What do they learn from it?

I'm no angle but we all do what we see is best.

PS: it also never did me any harm too when I went over the mark.

It makes me feel better when I shout & scream !!! Seriously, I know what you mean, it is only teaching them they need to shout & scream in order to be heard. Which obviously isn't a nice thing to teach your child.

Agree with an above poster, the counting to 3 seems to do the job on most occasions in this house, but as DS is getting older (4 1/2) I am finding it easier to explain & for him to understand when he has done 'somefink that's unaseptable' - in the words of Supernanny! Gosh, you'd think she'd speak nicer, being a nanny wouldn't you !!??

liney

Unaseptable bugs the hell out of me too, but hubby says he never notices.

rls1973

lottee wrote: »

And when you are a parent, you will understand that life doesn't always run according to Supernanny/House if Tiny Tearaways! (although I wouldn't turn supernanny down if she ever wanted to pop in & give me a hand!)

Join the club! I look forward to going to work for a break!!! Get them into bed, & have a nice long relaxing bath, whilst sipping some chilled wine! Kids hey, who'd have them??!!

agree with all that, except for one thing: a hint i read, written by wassername, the agony aunt (ironside?blackburn? can't remember. anyway...)

her advice, when asked what she wishes she'd known when she was young, was to say have the wine (g&t, beer, whatever) BEFORE taking the children to bed, it makes it all a lot more fun and relaxed:D

have you read toddler taming by dr christopher green? unlike most parenting manuals, it's really funny and sympathetic to parents like us, turned into mentalists by small children (bless 'em)it's full of good ideas.